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*This is a repost. I am not the original author (see disclaimer at the bottom).*\n
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**I am not OP.**\n
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Posted by [u/throwramotherwdid](/u/throwramotherwdid) on [r/relationship_advice](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice)\n
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[**Original**](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/qbybwq/my_29f_parents_ghosted_me_5_years_ago_after_my/) *- October 20, 2021*\n
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TLDR; I’m married to my former boss. Parents did not take the marriage as well as I’d hoped and ignored me for 5 years, only to reach out when they saw a 5th anniversary facebook post that mentioned our kids. Do I let them back in, or do I ignore them?\n
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My husband (30m) used to be my boss. About 9 years ago I started working as his assistant. We spent about 2.5 years ignoring our mutual attraction until we gave in. We then went to HR, who reassigned me, and the whole thing was strictly above board from the time we began dating. I got pregnant about a year later, and my husband and I decided to just get married. While we’d only really been dating for about 1.5 years, we knew each other completely, loved each other, lived together, and there was a baby on the way. We knew how it would look, but I had to leave the company anyway due to problems with my new boss, so we didn’t anticipate this causing any issues, except with my parents.\n
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Edit: can’t find a way to work this in organically but my husband is not white. I am, as are my parents. I don’t think this is a race thing or that my parents are racist, and neither does my husband, and we don’t understand why they would want to meet our mixed race children if they were racist, but this element is still gnawing at me.\n
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Should I reach out to them? If I did, how would we go about rebuilding the relationship?\n
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[**Update**](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/qdfsx0/update_i_29f_spoke_to_my_parents_who_ghosted_me_5/) *- October 22, 2021*\n
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TLDR; They’re racists.\n
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I asked to talk yesterday. We were on zoom within an hour. It was my parents and me and my husband. They asked to see the kids, and I said they could see them eventually, dependant on them earning our trust and convincing us they were going to be positive additions to the kids’ lives.\n
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They asked to start by reading me a letter that they claimed to have written on my wedding day. It said that they were uncomfortable with me marrying my former boss as they thought he took advantage of me, so they left between the wedding and reception to avoid a scene, but they wanted me to know they were here for me despite their issues with him. They added that they would have sent this to me the morning after my wedding, but then I sent my email about them needing to respect my choices, and they were so ashamed they couldn’t bring themselves to send theirs. Seeing my anniversary post made them realise how much they’ve missed in 5 years and they really don’t want to miss any more.\n
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I had some questions, like what the big deal was with me marrying my former boss, and they said that it just wasn’t what they had in mind for my wedding day and my future spouse. I asked why they even came to the wedding at all if they didn’t support the marriage, and my dad responded that he wanted to walk his daughter down the aisle as it was the only chance he’d get. The way it was phrased implied that they had intentionally only come to the wedding so he could give me away, and always planned to leave halfway, and because he said “my daughter”, and didn’t talk to me directly, it was pretty clear he was thinking about my older sister, who passed away. My husband caught that, too, and said that if they were talking about me, they should address me directly, then added that if they had planned to leave they should have told us as we wouldn’t have invited them, and the fact they waited 5 years to reach out was going to take more reasons than shame as, as a father, he didn’t understand how they could ignore their daughter for years, or only get back in touch when we had kids.\n
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My dad snapped that he wasn’t going to take this from a “cushi”, a slur meaning dark skinned. My mother immediately tried to run damage control but I ended the call. They have since messaged me several times trying to explain that calling my husband a racial slur wasn’t indicative of a racist attitude, and he wouldn’t have said that in front of the kids, so they should still get to meet them.\n
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I’ve spent 5 years wondering how they were so offended by me marrying my boss that it earned no contact for half a decade. Turns out they’re just racist. It’s almost nice to find out. If it was just the boss thing I would have sympathy for them and we might even be able to reconcile, but with this, it’s now just a question of if I’m going to knowingly expose my mixed race children to a couple of racists, which I am obviously not going to do.\n
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*Disclaimer*\n
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*This is a repost from reddit. I really missed this sub so I decided to post some top articles from time to time until hopefully one day this community will be large enough to produce its own content.*\n
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Read the original [here](https://www.reddit.com//r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/y8z737/my_29f_parents_ghosted_me_5_years_ago_after_my/)
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*This is a repost. I am not the original author (see disclaimer at the bottom).*\n
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**I am not OP.**\n
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Posted by [u/throwramotherwdid](/u/throwramotherwdid) on [r/relationship_advice](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice)\n
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[**Original**](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/qbybwq/my_29f_parents_ghosted_me_5_years_ago_after_my/) *- October 20, 2021*\n
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TLDR; I’m married to my former boss. Parents did not take the marriage as well as I’d hoped and ignored me for 5 years, only to reach out when they saw a 5th anniversary facebook post that mentioned our kids. Do I let them back in, or do I ignore them?\n
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My husband (30m) used to be my boss. About 9 years ago I started working as his assistant. We spent about 2.5 years ignoring our mutual attraction until we gave in. We then went to HR, who reassigned me, and the whole thing was strictly above board from the time we began dating. I got pregnant about a year later, and my husband and I decided to just get married. While we’d only really been dating for about 1.5 years, we knew each other completely, loved each other, lived together, and there was a baby on the way. We knew how it would look, but I had to leave the company anyway due to problems with my new boss, so we didn’t anticipate this causing any issues, except with my parents.\n
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They (62m/57f) have always been overprotective, so I knew they wouldn’t like me dating my boss, and hadn’t told them, but I had to tell them if I wanted them at my wedding. We decided to be mostly honest with them, about how it was strictly professional until it wasn’t, how the second it got unprofessional we went to HR, how he had never taken advantage of me, but now we wanted to get married and we wanted them there. We did not mention the baby, because I felt that giving them that information in addition to the rest all at once would just break them. I was only about 4 months along when the wedding happened, so the bump was easily hidden by a flowy dress.\n
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The wedding itself went off without a hitch, and apart from my mother pulling me into the bathroom shortly before the ceremony to ask if I was sure about this, which I said I was, my parents seemed to take it well. The ceremony and reception were at 2 different venues, and we had to travel from one to the other, and my parents never arrived at the reception. I called them and got ignored, and then my brother called them and they told him that they were going home. I don’t remember the exact reason they gave but it amounted to them being tired and uncomfortable. I tried contacting them after the wedding, but found that I was blocked on everything except email, which I used to send them a long letter essentially saying that I’m an adult who made an adult choice and I hope they can respect that.\n
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5 years later, I have not heard from my parents since my wedding. My husband and I are not big on social media in general but I recently posted something for our 5th anniversary in which I mentioned our 2 kids and third on the way. Within a month of making this post, my parents left a voicemail saying they saw the post, and, having had no idea that they had grandchildren previously, now want to meet them. I haven’t responded and there have been a few follow ups since then asking why I haven’t.\n
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I don’t know what to do, but my gut instinct is that 5 years is too long, and it’s about the kids, not about them respecting my choices or relationship. However, I can’t help but feel that I’m being unfair, and my brother agrees, because I told them in my email that if they could learn to respect my choice and my marriage eventually, then we could talk, and now I’m retroactively applying a time limit.\n
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Edit: can’t find a way to work this in organically but my husband is not white. I am, as are my parents. I don’t think this is a race thing or that my parents are racist, and neither does my husband, and we don’t understand why they would want to meet our mixed race children if they were racist, but this element is still gnawing at me.\n
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Should I reach out to them? If I did, how would we go about rebuilding the relationship?\n
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[**Update**](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/qdfsx0/update_i_29f_spoke_to_my_parents_who_ghosted_me_5/) *- October 22, 2021*\n
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TLDR; They’re racists.\n
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I asked to talk yesterday. We were on zoom within an hour. It was my parents and me and my husband. They asked to see the kids, and I said they could see them eventually, dependant on them earning our trust and convincing us they were going to be positive additions to the kids’ lives.\n
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They asked to start by reading me a letter that they claimed to have written on my wedding day. It said that they were uncomfortable with me marrying my former boss as they thought he took advantage of me, so they left between the wedding and reception to avoid a scene, but they wanted me to know they were here for me despite their issues with him. They added that they would have sent this to me the morning after my wedding, but then I sent my email about them needing to respect my choices, and they were so ashamed they couldn’t bring themselves to send theirs. Seeing my anniversary post made them realise how much they’ve missed in 5 years and they really don’t want to miss any more.\n
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I had some questions, like what the big deal was with me marrying my former boss, and they said that it just wasn’t what they had in mind for my wedding day and my future spouse. I asked why they even came to the wedding at all if they didn’t support the marriage, and my dad responded that he wanted to walk his daughter down the aisle as it was the only chance he’d get. The way it was phrased implied that they had intentionally only come to the wedding so he could give me away, and always planned to leave halfway, and because he said “my daughter”, and didn’t talk to me directly, it was pretty clear he was thinking about my older sister, who passed away. My husband caught that, too, and said that if they were talking about me, they should address me directly, then added that if they had planned to leave they should have told us as we wouldn’t have invited them, and the fact they waited 5 years to reach out was going to take more reasons than shame as, as a father, he didn’t understand how they could ignore their daughter for years, or only get back in touch when we had kids.\n
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My dad snapped that he wasn’t going to take this from a “cushi”, a slur meaning dark skinned. My mother immediately tried to run damage control but I ended the call. They have since messaged me several times trying to explain that calling my husband a racial slur wasn’t indicative of a racist attitude, and he wouldn’t have said that in front of the kids, so they should still get to meet them.\n
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I’ve spent 5 years wondering how they were so offended by me marrying my boss that it earned no contact for half a decade. Turns out they’re just racist. It’s almost nice to find out. If it was just the boss thing I would have sympathy for them and we might even be able to reconcile, but with this, it’s now just a question of if I’m going to knowingly expose my mixed race children to a couple of racists, which I am obviously not going to do.\n
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*Disclaimer*\n
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*This is a repost from reddit. I really missed this sub so I decided to post some top articles from time to time until hopefully one day this community will be large enough to produce its own content.*\n
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Read the original [here](https://www.reddit.com//r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/y8z737/my_29f_parents_ghosted_me_5_years_ago_after_my/)
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TLDR; I’m married to my former boss. Parents did not take the marriage as well as I’d hoped and ignored me for 5 years, only to reach out when they saw a 5th anniversary facebook post that mentioned our kids. Do I let them back in, or do I ignore them?\n
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My husband (30m) used to be my boss. About 9 years ago I started working as his assistant. We spent about 2.5 years ignoring our mutual attraction until we gave in. We then went to HR, who reassigned me, and the whole thing was strictly above board from the time we began dating. I got pregnant about a year later, and my husband and I decided to just get married. While we’d only really been dating for about 1.5 years, we knew each other completely, loved each other, lived together, and there was a baby on the way. We knew how it would look, but I had to leave the company anyway due to problems with my new boss, so we didn’t anticipate this causing any issues, except with my parents.\n
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They (62m/57f) have always been overprotective, so I knew they wouldn’t like me dating my boss, and hadn’t told them, but I had to tell them if I wanted them at my wedding. We decided to be mostly honest with them, about how it was strictly professional until it wasn’t, how the second it got unprofessional we went to HR, how he had never taken advantage of me, but now we wanted to get married and we wanted them there. We did not mention the baby, because I felt that giving them that information in addition to the rest all at once would just break them. I was only about 4 months along when the wedding happened, so the bump was easily hidden by a flowy dress.\n
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The wedding itself went off without a hitch, and apart from my mother pulling me into the bathroom shortly before the ceremony to ask if I was sure about this, which I said I was, my parents seemed to take it well. The ceremony and reception were at 2 different venues, and we had to travel from one to the other, and my parents never arrived at the reception. I called them and got ignored, and then my brother called them and they told him that they were going home. I don’t remember the exact reason they gave but it amounted to them being tired and uncomfortable. I tried contacting them after the wedding, but found that I was blocked on everything except email, which I used to send them a long letter essentially saying that I’m an adult who made an adult choice and I hope they can respect that.\n
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5 years later, I have not heard from my parents since my wedding. My husband and I are not big on social media in general but I recently posted something for our 5th anniversary in which I mentioned our 2 kids and third on the way. Within a month of making this post, my parents left a voicemail saying they saw the post, and, having had no idea that they had grandchildren previously, now want to meet them. I haven’t responded and there have been a few follow ups since then asking why I haven’t.\n
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I don’t know what to do, but my gut instinct is that 5 years is too long, and it’s about the kids, not about them respecting my choices or relationship. However, I can’t help but feel that I’m being unfair, and my brother agrees, because I told them in my email that if they could learn to respect my choice and my marriage eventually, then we could talk, and now I’m retroactively applying a time limit.\n
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Edit: can’t find a way to work this in organically but my husband is not white. I am, as are my parents. I don’t think this is a race thing or that my parents are racist, and neither does my husband, and we don’t understand why they would want to meet our mixed race children if they were racist, but this element is still gnawing at me.\n
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Should I reach out to them? If I did, how would we go about rebuilding the relationship?\n
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[**Update**](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/qdfsx0/update_i_29f_spoke_to_my_parents_who_ghosted_me_5/) *- October 22, 2021*\n
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TLDR; They’re racists.\n
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I asked to talk yesterday. We were on zoom within an hour. It was my parents and me and my husband. They asked to see the kids, and I said they could see them eventually, dependant on them earning our trust and convincing us they were going to be positive additions to the kids’ lives.\n
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They asked to start by reading me a letter that they claimed to have written on my wedding day. It said that they were uncomfortable with me marrying my former boss as they thought he took advantage of me, so they left between the wedding and reception to avoid a scene, but they wanted me to know they were here for me despite their issues with him. They added that they would have sent this to me the morning after my wedding, but then I sent my email about them needing to respect my choices, and they were so ashamed they couldn’t bring themselves to send theirs. Seeing my anniversary post made them realise how much they’ve missed in 5 years and they really don’t want to miss any more.\n
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My dad snapped that he wasn’t going to take this from a “cushi”, a slur meaning dark skinned. My mother immediately tried to run damage control but I ended the call. They have since messaged me several times trying to explain that calling my husband a racial slur wasn’t indicative of a racist attitude, and he wouldn’t have said that in front of the kids, so they should still get to meet them.\n
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I’ve spent 5 years wondering how they were so offended by me marrying my boss that it earned no contact for half a decade. Turns out they’re just racist. It’s almost nice to find out. If it was just the boss thing I would have sympathy for them and we might even be able to reconcile, but with this, it’s now just a question of if I’m going to knowingly expose my mixed race children to a couple of racists, which I am obviously not going to do.\n
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Read the original [here](https://www.reddit.com//r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/y8z737/my_29f_parents_ghosted_me_5_years_ago_after_my/)
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*This is a repost. I am not the original author (see disclaimer at the bottom).*\n
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[ORIGINAL](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/r4yz7n/my_boyfriend_doesnt_want_to_marry_me_because_im/) by [u/haicrii](/u/haicrii)\n
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\u{200B}I am still in disbelief. I started dating him because he was the kindest, most thoughtful, and generous man I’d met. I now feel like I wasted seven years. While the visa issues are certainly a problem, I did not date him with the intention of making him my safety net. I cannot believe that even after nearly a decade together, he doesn’t know what kind of person I am.\n
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\u{200B}I feel like this relationship is possibly over and it hurts. It hurts so much.\n
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[UPDATE](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/r8oofo/update_my_boyfriend_doesnt_want_to_marry_me/)\n
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A few days back I made a post about how my bf of 7 years didn’t want to marry me because I was an immigrant on an H1B, and he didn’t want to be a visa mule.\n
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I got a lot of wonderful comments and DMs (a few trolls too, but that’s expected from Reddit haha).\n
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Because the thread got locked and the post was subsequently removed (because I have a low-karma account), I was unable to respond to anyone. I’m posting this update to do that, plus add in some more things that have transpired since. (TL;DR at the bottom)\n
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Addressing some of the stuff in the comments\n
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- I’ve been on an H1B visa for a bit more than two years now. I was on STEM OPT for about three years after grad school. I had terrible luck with the H1B lottery and I got one in the last round I was eligible to apply in.\n
- Getting PR in the US is NOT easy. I know people who’ve been here for 15+ years who are still waiting for their PR.\n
- For those of you who DM’d me calling me a gold digger, you guys made me LOL. I am aware of the legalities around sponsoring a spouse for a PR, including the financial aspect. It shouldn’t have been a problem for the following reasons:\n
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1. I’m a STEM major who recently shifted into management. I work for a large company and I do quite well for myself. My boyfriend is a teacher and our incomes are not comparable (he earns around ~$60K, I earn close to ~$300K).\n
2. We’ve been living together for ~6 years. We have a shared account to pay for expenses like rent and utilities that we both deposit a percentage of our salary into. The rest of our money goes into our own private accounts and we don’t manage each other’s money.\n
3. Because I’m pretty frugal, I’ve saved up quite a bit of money in the form of savings + investments. If my boyfriend was worried about the legality of sponsoring me financially for 10+ years, I would have happily discussed moving the money around. I was even considering buying a house, so we could have made that a joint-ownership thing. The point is, we could have figured it out. I haven’t relied on him financially ever, and I didn’t intend on doing that in the future.\n
4. I might not have considered everything, but you have to note that I thought about the marriage-for-visa thing very recently, only when the threat of possibly having to leave loomed over me. This isn’t something I’d thought about in detail at all.\n
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- Regarding my situation back home in Indonesia: I come from a very religious and conservative family and had a horrible childhood. My family doesn’t support my career choices. I cut contact with my family when I moved to the US, so they are not in the picture at all. I was on great terms with bf’s family - they loved me. —\n
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Now, for the actual update: He is now my ex-boyfriend\n
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I took a few days to collect myself and then reached out to him wanting to talk. He agreed.\n
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It turns out that he has been insecure about earning less than I did for a while. Apparently, his friends have been poking fun at our relationship, calling me the “sugar mommy” because I take care of most of the expenses. He never told me this until now. He apparently didn’t feel like an equal because our pay differs so much, and started feeling that I was only with him as a quick way to get a PR here. I was speechless - I couldn’t believe that his friends gaslighted him into doubting our relationship.\n
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I reminded him how he had supported me when I was in grad school, like getting me groceries when I had little money to spare, allowing me to stay with him rent-free in my last year of grad school to help me minimize expenses so I didn’t have to take out a loan, letting me use his car when I was attending interviews. I told him that he did them because he loved me and me taking on the majority of household expenses (since I started working) is my way of paying him back for all the things he did for me back then. He said that he gets what I’m saying but also that he didn’t expect me to start earning more than him straight off the bat.\n
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I asked if there was any chance he’d consider going to couple’s therapy (like some of you had suggested) and he declined because he didn’t think he was being unreasonable. He said that he wanted to be the “provider” in a relationship and that he didn’t feel like one in ours, so there’s no going back from this unless I quit my job and found another that paid substantially less, which isn’t going to happen.\n
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Well, long story short, we broke up. His family is in disbelief (they were hoping that he would propose soon). I’ve moved into an airbnb for now.\n
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A little bit of good news to end this update with:\n
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My company offered me a similar role in a different department. However, this is based out of France, and there’s a small decrease in pay. I’ve always dreamed about living in Europe and I’ve accepted this offer. I’ve signed the relocation agreement, and I’ll move there in the next 8-12 weeks.\n
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TL;DR:\n
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Boyfriend was insecure about earning less than me. Boyfriend has now become ex-boyfriend.\n
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Company offered a new job in France. Leaving US in 2-3 months to start a new life in France.\n
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Allons-y!\n
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*Disclaimer*\n
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*This is a repost from reddit. I really missed this sub so I decided to post some top articles from time to time until hopefully one day this community will be large enough to produce its own content.*\n
\n
Read the original [here](https://www.reddit.com//r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/r8q2x1/my_boyfriend_doesnt_want_to_marry_me_because_im/)
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*This is a repost. I am not the original author (see disclaimer at the bottom).*\n
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[ORIGINAL](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/r4yz7n/my_boyfriend_doesnt_want_to_marry_me_because_im/) by [u/haicrii](/u/haicrii)\n
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I (29F) moved to the US 7 years ago as a grad school student from Indonesia. I met my boyfriend (30M) a few months after I moved and we’ve been together ever since. My boyfriend is a US citizen.\n
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After I graduated, we had a serious discussion about where our relationship was headed. I made it very clear that I wanted to eventually get married and have children. My bf echoed the sentiments. I remember asking him if he saw that happening with me because I didn’t want to be in a relationship with no future. He told me he loved me, and that we were definitely headed in that direction.\n
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As of last week, we’ve been dating for 7 years. We’ve occasionally talked about marriage, but we were both busy with our respective careers, so the timing didn’t seem quite right. However, recently my company announced that there’s a chance that my department’s work will be outsourced. I’m on an H1B visa (temporary worker), so this means that I need to start looking for a job ASAP if I want to continue staying in the US.\n
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Last week, during our anniversary, I brought this up. I asked him if he thought it was the right time to think about getting married, as that will also help with sorting out my visa issues. He looked like he was about to vomit. After much prodding, he confessed that he wasn’t planning on us getting married before I was able to get a green card (permanent resident) in the US. I was incredibly confused because he’d never mentioned this before. His reason was that he didn’t want to be used as a “visa mule” (his words, not mine) by me and that he wanted to make sure that I married him because I loved him and not because it was a ticket to getting to stay in the US, which can only happen when I get a GC. It took me a while to process what he said, and I asked him if he’d be okay to move to Indonesia with me, which he wasn’t. I did not react well and ended up leaving because I couldn’t deal with what just happened.\n
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\u{200B}I am still in disbelief. I started dating him because he was the kindest, most thoughtful, and generous man I’d met. I now feel like I wasted seven years. While the visa issues are certainly a problem, I did not date him with the intention of making him my safety net. I cannot believe that even after nearly a decade together, he doesn’t know what kind of person I am.\n
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\u{200B}I feel like this relationship is possibly over and it hurts. It hurts so much.\n
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[UPDATE](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/r8oofo/update_my_boyfriend_doesnt_want_to_marry_me/)\n
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A few days back I made a post about how my bf of 7 years didn’t want to marry me because I was an immigrant on an H1B, and he didn’t want to be a visa mule.\n
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I got a lot of wonderful comments and DMs (a few trolls too, but that’s expected from Reddit haha).\n
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Because the thread got locked and the post was subsequently removed (because I have a low-karma account), I was unable to respond to anyone. I’m posting this update to do that, plus add in some more things that have transpired since. (TL;DR at the bottom)\n
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Addressing some of the stuff in the comments\n
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- I’ve been on an H1B visa for a bit more than two years now. I was on STEM OPT for about three years after grad school. I had terrible luck with the H1B lottery and I got one in the last round I was eligible to apply in.\n
- Getting PR in the US is NOT easy. I know people who’ve been here for 15+ years who are still waiting for their PR.\n
- For those of you who DM’d me calling me a gold digger, you guys made me LOL. I am aware of the legalities around sponsoring a spouse for a PR, including the financial aspect. It shouldn’t have been a problem for the following reasons:\n
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1. I’m a STEM major who recently shifted into management. I work for a large company and I do quite well for myself. My boyfriend is a teacher and our incomes are not comparable (he earns around ~$60K, I earn close to ~$300K).\n
2. We’ve been living together for ~6 years. We have a shared account to pay for expenses like rent and utilities that we both deposit a percentage of our salary into. The rest of our money goes into our own private accounts and we don’t manage each other’s money.\n
3. Because I’m pretty frugal, I’ve saved up quite a bit of money in the form of savings + investments. If my boyfriend was worried about the legality of sponsoring me financially for 10+ years, I would have happily discussed moving the money around. I was even considering buying a house, so we could have made that a joint-ownership thing. The point is, we could have figured it out. I haven’t relied on him financially ever, and I didn’t intend on doing that in the future.\n
4. I might not have considered everything, but you have to note that I thought about the marriage-for-visa thing very recently, only when the threat of possibly having to leave loomed over me. This isn’t something I’d thought about in detail at all.\n
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- Regarding my situation back home in Indonesia: I come from a very religious and conservative family and had a horrible childhood. My family doesn’t support my career choices. I cut contact with my family when I moved to the US, so they are not in the picture at all. I was on great terms with bf’s family - they loved me. —\n
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Now, for the actual update: He is now my ex-boyfriend\n
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I took a few days to collect myself and then reached out to him wanting to talk. He agreed.\n
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It turns out that he has been insecure about earning less than I did for a while. Apparently, his friends have been poking fun at our relationship, calling me the “sugar mommy” because I take care of most of the expenses. He never told me this until now. He apparently didn’t feel like an equal because our pay differs so much, and started feeling that I was only with him as a quick way to get a PR here. I was speechless - I couldn’t believe that his friends gaslighted him into doubting our relationship.\n
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I reminded him how he had supported me when I was in grad school, like getting me groceries when I had little money to spare, allowing me to stay with him rent-free in my last year of grad school to help me minimize expenses so I didn’t have to take out a loan, letting me use his car when I was attending interviews. I told him that he did them because he loved me and me taking on the majority of household expenses (since I started working) is my way of paying him back for all the things he did for me back then. He said that he gets what I’m saying but also that he didn’t expect me to start earning more than him straight off the bat.\n
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I asked if there was any chance he’d consider going to couple’s therapy (like some of you had suggested) and he declined because he didn’t think he was being unreasonable. He said that he wanted to be the “provider” in a relationship and that he didn’t feel like one in ours, so there’s no going back from this unless I quit my job and found another that paid substantially less, which isn’t going to happen.\n
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Well, long story short, we broke up. His family is in disbelief (they were hoping that he would propose soon). I’ve moved into an airbnb for now.\n
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—\n
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A little bit of good news to end this update with:\n
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My company offered me a similar role in a different department. However, this is based out of France, and there’s a small decrease in pay. I’ve always dreamed about living in Europe and I’ve accepted this offer. I’ve signed the relocation agreement, and I’ll move there in the next 8-12 weeks.\n
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—\n
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TL;DR:\n
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Boyfriend was insecure about earning less than me. Boyfriend has now become ex-boyfriend.\n
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Company offered a new job in France. Leaving US in 2-3 months to start a new life in France.\n
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Allons-y!\n
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*Disclaimer*\n
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*This is a repost from reddit. I really missed this sub so I decided to post some top articles from time to time until hopefully one day this community will be large enough to produce its own content.*\n
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Read the original [here](https://www.reddit.com//r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/r8q2x1/my_boyfriend_doesnt_want_to_marry_me_because_im/)
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*This is a repost. I am not the original author (see disclaimer at the bottom).*\n
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[ORIGINAL](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/r4yz7n/my_boyfriend_doesnt_want_to_marry_me_because_im/) by [u/haicrii](/u/haicrii)\n
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I (29F) moved to the US 7 years ago as a grad school student from Indonesia. I met my boyfriend (30M) a few months after I moved and we’ve been together ever since. My boyfriend is a US citizen.\n
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After I graduated, we had a serious discussion about where our relationship was headed. I made it very clear that I wanted to eventually get married and have children. My bf echoed the sentiments. I remember asking him if he saw that happening with me because I didn’t want to be in a relationship with no future. He told me he loved me, and that we were definitely headed in that direction.\n
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As of last week, we’ve been dating for 7 years. We’ve occasionally talked about marriage, but we were both busy with our respective careers, so the timing didn’t seem quite right. However, recently my company announced that there’s a chance that my department’s work will be outsourced. I’m on an H1B visa (temporary worker), so this means that I need to start looking for a job ASAP if I want to continue staying in the US.\n
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Last week, during our anniversary, I brought this up. I asked him if he thought it was the right time to think about getting married, as that will also help with sorting out my visa issues. He looked like he was about to vomit. After much prodding, he confessed that he wasn’t planning on us getting married before I was able to get a green card (permanent resident) in the US. I was incredibly confused because he’d never mentioned this before. His reason was that he didn’t want to be used as a “visa mule” (his words, not mine) by me and that he wanted to make sure that I married him because I loved him and not because it was a ticket to getting to stay in the US, which can only happen when I get a GC. It took me a while to process what he said, and I asked him if he’d be okay to move to Indonesia with me, which he wasn’t. I did not react well and ended up leaving because I couldn’t deal with what just happened.\n
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\u{200B}I am still in disbelief. I started dating him because he was the kindest, most thoughtful, and generous man I’d met. I now feel like I wasted seven years. While the visa issues are certainly a problem, I did not date him with the intention of making him my safety net. I cannot believe that even after nearly a decade together, he doesn’t know what kind of person I am.\n
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\u{200B}I feel like this relationship is possibly over and it hurts. It hurts so much.\n
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[UPDATE](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/r8oofo/update_my_boyfriend_doesnt_want_to_marry_me/)\n
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A few days back I made a post about how my bf of 7 years didn’t want to marry me because I was an immigrant on an H1B, and he didn’t want to be a visa mule.\n
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I got a lot of wonderful comments and DMs (a few trolls too, but that’s expected from Reddit haha).\n
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Because the thread got locked and the post was subsequently removed (because I have a low-karma account), I was unable to respond to anyone. I’m posting this update to do that, plus add in some more things that have transpired since. (TL;DR at the bottom)\n
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Addressing some of the stuff in the comments\n
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- I’ve been on an H1B visa for a bit more than two years now. I was on STEM OPT for about three years after grad school. I had terrible luck with the H1B lottery and I got one in the last round I was eligible to apply in.\n
- Getting PR in the US is NOT easy. I know people who’ve been here for 15+ years who are still waiting for their PR.\n
- For those of you who DM’d me calling me a gold digger, you guys made me LOL. I am aware of the legalities around sponsoring a spouse for a PR, including the financial aspect. It shouldn’t have been a problem for the following reasons:\n
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1. I’m a STEM major who recently shifted into management. I work for a large company and I do quite well for myself. My boyfriend is a teacher and our incomes are not comparable (he earns around ~$60K, I earn close to ~$300K).\n
2. We’ve been living together for ~6 years. We have a shared account to pay for expenses like rent and utilities that we both deposit a percentage of our salary into. The rest of our money goes into our own private accounts and we don’t manage each other’s money.\n
3. Because I’m pretty frugal, I’ve saved up quite a bit of money in the form of savings + investments. If my boyfriend was worried about the legality of sponsoring me financially for 10+ years, I would have happily discussed moving the money around. I was even considering buying a house, so we could have made that a joint-ownership thing. The point is, we could have figured it out. I haven’t relied on him financially ever, and I didn’t intend on doing that in the future.\n
4. I might not have considered everything, but you have to note that I thought about the marriage-for-visa thing very recently, only when the threat of possibly having to leave loomed over me. This isn’t something I’d thought about in detail at all.\n
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- Regarding my situation back home in Indonesia: I come from a very religious and conservative family and had a horrible childhood. My family doesn’t support my career choices. I cut contact with my family when I moved to the US, so they are not in the picture at all. I was on great terms with bf’s family - they loved me. —\n
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Now, for the actual update: He is now my ex-boyfriend\n
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I took a few days to collect myself and then reached out to him wanting to talk. He agreed.\n
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It turns out that he has been insecure about earning less than I did for a while. Apparently, his friends have been poking fun at our relationship, calling me the “sugar mommy” because I take care of most of the expenses. He never told me this until now. He apparently didn’t feel like an equal because our pay differs so much, and started feeling that I was only with him as a quick way to get a PR here. I was speechless - I couldn’t believe that his friends gaslighted him into doubting our relationship.\n
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I reminded him how he had supported me when I was in grad school, like getting me groceries when I had little money to spare, allowing me to stay with him rent-free in my last year of grad school to help me minimize expenses so I didn’t have to take out a loan, letting me use his car when I was attending interviews. I told him that he did them because he loved me and me taking on the majority of household expenses (since I started working) is my way of paying him back for all the things he did for me back then. He said that he gets what I’m saying but also that he didn’t expect me to start earning more than him straight off the bat.\n
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I asked if there was any chance he’d consider going to couple’s therapy (like some of you had suggested) and he declined because he didn’t think he was being unreasonable. He said that he wanted to be the “provider” in a relationship and that he didn’t feel like one in ours, so there’s no going back from this unless I quit my job and found another that paid substantially less, which isn’t going to happen.\n
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Well, long story short, we broke up. His family is in disbelief (they were hoping that he would propose soon). I’ve moved into an airbnb for now.\n
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—\n
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A little bit of good news to end this update with:\n
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My company offered me a similar role in a different department. However, this is based out of France, and there’s a small decrease in pay. I’ve always dreamed about living in Europe and I’ve accepted this offer. I’ve signed the relocation agreement, and I’ll move there in the next 8-12 weeks.\n
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—\n
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TL;DR:\n
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Boyfriend was insecure about earning less than me. Boyfriend has now become ex-boyfriend.\n
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Company offered a new job in France. Leaving US in 2-3 months to start a new life in France.\n
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Allons-y!\n
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*Disclaimer*\n
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*This is a repost from reddit. I really missed this sub so I decided to post some top articles from time to time until hopefully one day this community will be large enough to produce its own content.*\n
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Read the original [here](https://www.reddit.com//r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/r8q2x1/my_boyfriend_doesnt_want_to_marry_me_because_im/)
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The title comes from LD’s 1st Season finale, “No Small Parts”, when CMDR Jack Ransom, XO of the USS *Cerritos*, refers to the TOS era as “Those Old Scientists”.\n
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Boimler does the “Section 31 speed walk” when walking away from Mariner down the corridors (LD: “Envoys”), which he claimed conserved energy. Una wonders if Boimler’s poster is a “pin-up” poster, of which there are very many of Rebecca Romijn.\n
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Ortegas refers to Starbase Earhart, probably best remembered as housing the Bonestell Entertainment Facility where Jean-Luc Picard was stabbed by Nausicaans in 2337 (TNG: “Tapestry”). It also had a *dom-jot* table. Mariner and Tendi visited it in LD: “We’ll Always Have Tom Paris”. Mariner says Nausicaans are terrible at *dom-jot*, a billiard-type game, but still love to bet on it. Ortegas’ recognition of the letters leads Uhura to discover the language is a thousands-years old ancient Nausicaan dialect.\n
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Boimler seeks solace in Engineering. Pelia says there is nothing quite so soothing as a properly calibrated warp core, which Boimler would agree with as he’s often said in LD that warp cores are cool. Pelia’s quote is from Cary Grant, which implies she knew him.\n
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Mariner chides Boimler for shouting “Holy Q” because they hadn’t met him yet in the 23rd Century but qualifies it with “they had kind of a Trelane thing going on.” Fanon often states that Trelane (TOS: “The Squire of Gothos”) and Q are related because their MO is remarkably similar. This link was made explicit in the novels (*Q-Squared*). Mariner has met Q before (LD: “Veritas”).\n
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Boimler remarks how slow and quietly everyone talks in this era, in stark contrast to the high-speed and intense dialogue they use on the half-hour animated *Lower Decks*.\n
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Boimler once dressed up as Pike for Halloween, and had to contour his chin to fit. Pike confesses he and his father never got along, and that was never resolved. This year is the first year he’s older than his father when he died. He planned to fish on Setlik II’s ice moon with a bottle of whiskey and have an imaginary talk with his father.\n
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Pike refers to Archer’s *Enterprise*, the NX-01, which reminds Boimler that horonium was used in its construction (a little over a hundred years ago). Boimler talks about the NX-01’s grapplers (which La’An loves), the precursor to a ship’s tractor beam. Grapplers were also seen in SNW: “Life Us Where Suffering Cannot Reach”.\n
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Starfleet tradition is that every time a new ship is commissioned, construction starts with an old piece of the last ship that bore the name (which explains why Boimler called this the “second” *Enterprise*). Which means there’s a piece of horonium on the ship.\n
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Ransom calls “Numero Una” the hottest first officer in Starfleet history. Ransom is voiced by Jerry O’Connell, who is married to Rebecca Romijn. Mariner says Ransom sleeps face down “like a baby”.\n
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The title comes from LD’s 1st Season finale, “No Small Parts”, when CMDR Jack Ransom, XO of the USS *Cerritos*, refers to the TOS era as “Those Old Scientists”.\n
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We start on Stardate 58460.1 in an animated segment. This places it in 2381, and sometime between LD 3x06: “Hear All, Trust Nothing” (58456.2) and LD 3x09: “Trusted Sources” (58496.1). 3x07 and 3x08 don’t have stardate references. The ship is doing a check on the Krulmuth-B portal, which has been dormant for 120 years - and if you do the calculations you can see where this is going.\n
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Boimler says the portal was discovered by Pike and the “second” *Enterprise* and refers to Una as “Numero Una” to Mariner’s annoyance. Rutherford talks about teleron radiation. I’m assuming it’s not a CC typo and it’s distinct from “thalaron radiation” (*Nemesis*).\n
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Tendi’s great-grandmother was on an Orion science vessel, and she claims the Orions were the ones who actually discovered the portal (which looks vaguely *Stargate*-like). Rutherford is wearing a holographic imager around his neck (last seen in LD: “Veritas” and of the type first seen in VOY: “Latent Image”).\n
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Rutherford picks up traces of horonium. Hōra is the Greek word for “time”, from which we get the word horology, the art of making clocks. Boimler says Starfleet used horonium in NX-class ships, because it was lightweight, durable and was the right shade of grey (Mariner refers to the Starfleet History Museum - it’s not clear if this is the same as the Fleet Museum from PIC).\n
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Boimler screams “Remember me!” as he gets sucked into the portal, in the way that Beverly Crusher is also almost sucked into one in TNG: “Remember Me”. The phrase is originally from Shakespeare, specifically *Hamlet* Act I, sc v when the Ghost says: “Adieu, adieu, adieu. Remember me,” as he exits. The line is repeated by Hamlet later in the scene.\n
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The title sequence for this episode is animated in the LD style, with the space beast from the LD titles now suckling on the back of the *Enterprise*. Now I want an animated model of the *Enterprise* to match my *Titan*. At the end when the title card comes up we see the outline of the cosmic koala next to the planet (LD: “Moist Vessel”).\n
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Pike’s log is stardated 2291.6. *Enterprise* is delivering a shipment of grain to a colony on Setlik II. In the future (c. 2347), the Setlik *III* colony would be the site of an infamous massacre during the Cardassian wars with the Federation (TNG: “The Wounded”).\n
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Una reports that Boimler’s delta is also a communicator, confirming once and for all that SNW’s deltas are not. Boimler has purple hair, like he does when animated. On awakening he calls out, “Computer end program,” thinking he’s on a holodeck. He refers to the ship’s S/COMS operating system as opposed to LCARS in his era.\n
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La’An is uniquely qualified to lecture on temporal protocols as she’s gone through the same experience (SNW: “Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow”). She talks about not making any attachments owing to the trauma she underwent when the alternate Jim Kirk died in her arms in the past. Boimler accidentally lets slip Worf’s name.\n
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Boimler waits in Pike’s office, as evidenced by the presence of the saddle and he calls out “Riker” as he mounts it with the Riker Maneuver (the popular explanation for the move is that Frakes suffered a back injury but although that injury did result in him doing the “Riker lean”, Frakes said in an interview that the chair maneuver was that he felt it was a cocky move suited to Riker, and no one stopped him so it stuck).\n
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Boimler asks if M’Benga is holding a classic TS-122 tricorder and M’Benga says it’s a TS-120. In the 24th Century, tricorders are of the TR series. Boimler theorizes that radioisotopes from the holographic imager set the portal off. Boimler is startled when Spock laughs.\n
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The ship is an Orion scout ship, technically first appearing in TOS: “Journey to Babel” as just a glowing blob, but redesigned as a more detailed CGI model for the remastered episode by Michael Okuda. A slight continuity contradiction arises: in “Babel” Spock doesn’t recognize the configuration of the scout ship when they encounter it then.\n
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Boimler says “NCC-1701 dash nothing,” referring to the future ships’ names in homage to the original and of course puzzling Una and La’An. He identifies Ortegas as a war hero, referring to her service in the Klingon War. Captain Harr Caras commands the Orion science vessel *D’Var*.\n
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I can’t feel that sorry for Boims having his chops busted, because I’d just love being paid attention to like that by Jess Bush and Melissa Navia. He says this is the “golden age of exploration”, echoing Pike’s words from the previous episode. He lets slip that Pike’s birthday is on Friday (on movie night) and is a holiday in the 24th Century.\n
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Chapel is rather devastated to learn that she’s not mentioned in books on Spock in the future. Boimler refers to Spock’s pet *sehlat* (TAS: “Yesteryear”). Ortegas calls Boimler “Future Boy”, a nickname Doc Brown applied to Marty McFly in *Back to the Future*.\n
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Turns out the grain Pike is carrying is trititicale. Its variant, quadrotriticale, would be central to the Federation’s efforts on Sherman’s Planet in TOS: “The Trouble with Tribbles”. Presumably it’s a three-lobed version as opposed to the four-lobed quadrotriticale. Triticale is a real life grain that writer David Gerrold based quadrotriticale on in “Tribbles”.\n
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Mariner uses up the last of the horonium in the portal, and Una says there’s hasn’t been a supply for a hundred years. Mariner says for all she knew Boimler could have been “stuck in a dystopian San Francisco in the middle of a riot”, referring to the Bell Riots of DS9: “Past Tense”. She finds young Spock hot, much like Jazdia Dax did to his slightly older counterpart in DS9: “Trials and Tribble-lations”.\n
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Boimler does the “Section 31 speed walk” when walking away from Mariner down the corridors (LD: “Envoys”), which he claimed conserved energy. Una wonders if Boimler’s poster is a “pin-up” poster, of which there are very many of Rebecca Romijn.\n
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Uhura says she’s 22 (the same age as Celia Rose Golding), which immediately makes this old chronologist’s mind start doing calculations. The official *Star Trek* website places her birth year as 2239, which would make the present year 2261, which sort of tracks (my estimate is between 2260-61).\n
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Mariner quotes Starfleet labor codes: section 48-Alpha-7: “Officers must take meal breaks at regular intervals”. She claims that she knows those that help her slack off. She makes Orion Hurricanes for Uhura and Ortegas, although they don’t have Orion *delaq*, which she says will mess them up. Uhura’s PADD shows her comparing the inscriptions on the portal to Bajoran and Cardassian script.\n
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Ortegas refers to Starbase Earhart, probably best remembered as housing the Bonestell Entertainment Facility where Jean-Luc Picard was stabbed by Nausicaans in 2337 (TNG: “Tapestry”). It also had a *dom-jot* table. Mariner and Tendi visited it in LD: “We’ll Always Have Tom Paris”. Mariner says Nausicaans are terrible at *dom-jot*, a billiard-type game, but still love to bet on it. Ortegas’ recognition of the letters leads Uhura to discover the language is a thousands-years old ancient Nausicaan dialect.\n
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Boimler seeks solace in Engineering. Pelia says there is nothing quite so soothing as a properly calibrated warp core, which Boimler would agree with as he’s often said in LD that warp cores are cool. Pelia’s quote is from Cary Grant, which implies she knew him.\n
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Mariner chides Boimler for shouting “Holy Q” because they hadn’t met him yet in the 23rd Century but qualifies it with “they had kind of a Trelane thing going on.” Fanon often states that Trelane (TOS: “The Squire of Gothos”) and Q are related because their MO is remarkably similar. This link was made explicit in the novels (*Q-Squared*). Mariner has met Q before (LD: “Veritas”).\n
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Boimler remarks how slow and quietly everyone talks in this era, in stark contrast to the high-speed and intense dialogue they use on the half-hour animated *Lower Decks*.\n
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Boimler once dressed up as Pike for Halloween, and had to contour his chin to fit. Pike confesses he and his father never got along, and that was never resolved. This year is the first year he’s older than his father when he died. He planned to fish on Setlik II’s ice moon with a bottle of whiskey and have an imaginary talk with his father.\n
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Pike refers to Archer’s *Enterprise*, the NX-01, which reminds Boimler that horonium was used in its construction (a little over a hundred years ago). Boimler talks about the NX-01’s grapplers (which La’An loves), the precursor to a ship’s tractor beam. Grapplers were also seen in SNW: “Life Us Where Suffering Cannot Reach”.\n
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Starfleet tradition is that every time a new ship is commissioned, construction starts with an old piece of the last ship that bore the name (which explains why Boimler called this the “second” *Enterprise*). Which means there’s a piece of horonium on the ship.\n
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The piece in question appears to be a gas cylinder. Ortegas says she’s a fan of Travis Mayweather, first pilot of the NX-01, and her middle school gym was named after him. Uhura mentions Hoshi Sato, who spoke 86 languages - Uhura wrote 3 papers on her at the Academy. I’m happy to see the NX-01 crew get the love they never quite got when the series was around.\n
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Mariner tells Una that Boimler’s pin-up of her is a recruitment poster and inspired Boimler to join Starfleet. Una is moved that they put “ad astra per aspera” on the poster, the Starfleet motto she quoted during her trial (SNW: “Ad Astra Per Aspera”).\n
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Captain Caras recognizes Tendi’s title “Mistress of the Winter Constellations” (“We’ll Always Have Tom Paris”) and says that he has an Astrea Tendi on his ship. Pike’s offer to give the Orion scientists credit also explains why Tendi tells Boimler that Orions discovered the portal. I wish we could have seen Nöel Wells in live action, though.\n
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Ransom calls “Numero Una” the hottest first officer in Starfleet history. Ransom is voiced by Jerry O’Connell, who is married to Rebecca Romijn. Mariner says Ransom sleeps face down “like a baby”.\n
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We are rewarded with an animated SNW epilogue, which is explained by them hallucinating after imbibing Orion Hurricanes with real *delaq*.
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The title comes from LD’s 1st Season finale, “No Small Parts”, when CMDR Jack Ransom, XO of the USS *Cerritos*, refers to the TOS era as “Those Old Scientists”.\n
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We start on Stardate 58460.1 in an animated segment. This places it in 2381, and sometime between LD 3x06: “Hear All, Trust Nothing” (58456.2) and LD 3x09: “Trusted Sources” (58496.1). 3x07 and 3x08 don’t have stardate references. The ship is doing a check on the Krulmuth-B portal, which has been dormant for 120 years - and if you do the calculations you can see where this is going.\n
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Boimler says the portal was discovered by Pike and the “second” *Enterprise* and refers to Una as “Numero Una” to Mariner’s annoyance. Rutherford talks about teleron radiation. I’m assuming it’s not a CC typo and it’s distinct from “thalaron radiation” (*Nemesis*).\n
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Tendi’s great-grandmother was on an Orion science vessel, and she claims the Orions were the ones who actually discovered the portal (which looks vaguely *Stargate*-like). Rutherford is wearing a holographic imager around his neck (last seen in LD: “Veritas” and of the type first seen in VOY: “Latent Image”).\n
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Rutherford picks up traces of horonium. Hōra is the Greek word for “time”, from which we get the word horology, the art of making clocks. Boimler says Starfleet used horonium in NX-class ships, because it was lightweight, durable and was the right shade of grey (Mariner refers to the Starfleet History Museum - it’s not clear if this is the same as the Fleet Museum from PIC).\n
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Boimler screams “Remember me!” as he gets sucked into the portal, in the way that Beverly Crusher is also almost sucked into one in TNG: “Remember Me”. The phrase is originally from Shakespeare, specifically *Hamlet* Act I, sc v when the Ghost says: “Adieu, adieu, adieu. Remember me,” as he exits. The line is repeated by Hamlet later in the scene.\n
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The title sequence for this episode is animated in the LD style, with the space beast from the LD titles now suckling on the back of the *Enterprise*. Now I want an animated model of the *Enterprise* to match my *Titan*. At the end when the title card comes up we see the outline of the cosmic koala next to the planet (LD: “Moist Vessel”).\n
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Pike’s log is stardated 2291.6. *Enterprise* is delivering a shipment of grain to a colony on Setlik II. In the future (c. 2347), the Setlik *III* colony would be the site of an infamous massacre during the Cardassian wars with the Federation (TNG: “The Wounded”).\n
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Una reports that Boimler’s delta is also a communicator, confirming once and for all that SNW’s deltas are not. Boimler has purple hair, like he does when animated. On awakening he calls out, “Computer end program,” thinking he’s on a holodeck. He refers to the ship’s S/COMS operating system as opposed to LCARS in his era.\n
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La’An is uniquely qualified to lecture on temporal protocols as she’s gone through the same experience (SNW: “Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow”). She talks about not making any attachments owing to the trauma she underwent when the alternate Jim Kirk died in her arms in the past. Boimler accidentally lets slip Worf’s name.\n
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Boimler waits in Pike’s office, as evidenced by the presence of the saddle and he calls out “Riker” as he mounts it with the Riker Maneuver (the popular explanation for the move is that Frakes suffered a back injury but although that injury did result in him doing the “Riker lean”, Frakes said in an interview that the chair maneuver was that he felt it was a cocky move suited to Riker, and no one stopped him so it stuck).\n
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Boimler asks if M’Benga is holding a classic TS-122 tricorder and M’Benga says it’s a TS-120. In the 24th Century, tricorders are of the TR series. Boimler theorizes that radioisotopes from the holographic imager set the portal off. Boimler is startled when Spock laughs.\n
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The ship is an Orion scout ship, technically first appearing in TOS: “Journey to Babel” as just a glowing blob, but redesigned as a more detailed CGI model for the remastered episode by Michael Okuda. A slight continuity contradiction arises: in “Babel” Spock doesn’t recognize the configuration of the scout ship when they encounter it then.\n
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Boimler says “NCC-1701 dash nothing,” referring to the future ships’ names in homage to the original and of course puzzling Una and La’An. He identifies Ortegas as a war hero, referring to her service in the Klingon War. Captain Harr Caras commands the Orion science vessel *D’Var*.\n
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I can’t feel that sorry for Boims having his chops busted, because I’d just love being paid attention to like that by Jess Bush and Melissa Navia. He says this is the “golden age of exploration”, echoing Pike’s words from the previous episode. He lets slip that Pike’s birthday is on Friday (on movie night) and is a holiday in the 24th Century.\n
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Chapel is rather devastated to learn that she’s not mentioned in books on Spock in the future. Boimler refers to Spock’s pet *sehlat* (TAS: “Yesteryear”). Ortegas calls Boimler “Future Boy”, a nickname Doc Brown applied to Marty McFly in *Back to the Future*.\n
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Turns out the grain Pike is carrying is trititicale. Its variant, quadrotriticale, would be central to the Federation’s efforts on Sherman’s Planet in TOS: “The Trouble with Tribbles”. Presumably it’s a three-lobed version as opposed to the four-lobed quadrotriticale. Triticale is a real life grain that writer David Gerrold based quadrotriticale on in “Tribbles”.\n
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Mariner uses up the last of the horonium in the portal, and Una says there’s hasn’t been a supply for a hundred years. Mariner says for all she knew Boimler could have been “stuck in a dystopian San Francisco in the middle of a riot”, referring to the Bell Riots of DS9: “Past Tense”. She finds young Spock hot, much like Jazdia Dax did to his slightly older counterpart in DS9: “Trials and Tribble-lations”.\n
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Boimler does the “Section 31 speed walk” when walking away from Mariner down the corridors (LD: “Envoys”), which he claimed conserved energy. Una wonders if Boimler’s poster is a “pin-up” poster, of which there are very many of Rebecca Romijn.\n
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Uhura says she’s 22 (the same age as Celia Rose Golding), which immediately makes this old chronologist’s mind start doing calculations. The official *Star Trek* website places her birth year as 2239, which would make the present year 2261, which sort of tracks (my estimate is between 2260-61).\n
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Mariner quotes Starfleet labor codes: section 48-Alpha-7: “Officers must take meal breaks at regular intervals”. She claims that she knows those that help her slack off. She makes Orion Hurricanes for Uhura and Ortegas, although they don’t have Orion *delaq*, which she says will mess them up. Uhura’s PADD shows her comparing the inscriptions on the portal to Bajoran and Cardassian script.\n
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Ortegas refers to Starbase Earhart, probably best remembered as housing the Bonestell Entertainment Facility where Jean-Luc Picard was stabbed by Nausicaans in 2337 (TNG: “Tapestry”). It also had a *dom-jot* table. Mariner and Tendi visited it in LD: “We’ll Always Have Tom Paris”. Mariner says Nausicaans are terrible at *dom-jot*, a billiard-type game, but still love to bet on it. Ortegas’ recognition of the letters leads Uhura to discover the language is a thousands-years old ancient Nausicaan dialect.\n
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Boimler seeks solace in Engineering. Pelia says there is nothing quite so soothing as a properly calibrated warp core, which Boimler would agree with as he’s often said in LD that warp cores are cool. Pelia’s quote is from Cary Grant, which implies she knew him.\n
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Mariner chides Boimler for shouting “Holy Q” because they hadn’t met him yet in the 23rd Century but qualifies it with “they had kind of a Trelane thing going on.” Fanon often states that Trelane (TOS: “The Squire of Gothos”) and Q are related because their MO is remarkably similar. This link was made explicit in the novels (*Q-Squared*). Mariner has met Q before (LD: “Veritas”).\n
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Boimler remarks how slow and quietly everyone talks in this era, in stark contrast to the high-speed and intense dialogue they use on the half-hour animated *Lower Decks*.\n
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Boimler once dressed up as Pike for Halloween, and had to contour his chin to fit. Pike confesses he and his father never got along, and that was never resolved. This year is the first year he’s older than his father when he died. He planned to fish on Setlik II’s ice moon with a bottle of whiskey and have an imaginary talk with his father.\n
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Pike refers to Archer’s *Enterprise*, the NX-01, which reminds Boimler that horonium was used in its construction (a little over a hundred years ago). Boimler talks about the NX-01’s grapplers (which La’An loves), the precursor to a ship’s tractor beam. Grapplers were also seen in SNW: “Life Us Where Suffering Cannot Reach”.\n
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Starfleet tradition is that every time a new ship is commissioned, construction starts with an old piece of the last ship that bore the name (which explains why Boimler called this the “second” *Enterprise*). Which means there’s a piece of horonium on the ship.\n
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The piece in question appears to be a gas cylinder. Ortegas says she’s a fan of Travis Mayweather, first pilot of the NX-01, and her middle school gym was named after him. Uhura mentions Hoshi Sato, who spoke 86 languages - Uhura wrote 3 papers on her at the Academy. I’m happy to see the NX-01 crew get the love they never quite got when the series was around.\n
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Mariner tells Una that Boimler’s pin-up of her is a recruitment poster and inspired Boimler to join Starfleet. Una is moved that they put “ad astra per aspera” on the poster, the Starfleet motto she quoted during her trial (SNW: “Ad Astra Per Aspera”).\n
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Captain Caras recognizes Tendi’s title “Mistress of the Winter Constellations” (“We’ll Always Have Tom Paris”) and says that he has an Astrea Tendi on his ship. Pike’s offer to give the Orion scientists credit also explains why Tendi tells Boimler that Orions discovered the portal. I wish we could have seen Nöel Wells in live action, though.\n
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Ransom calls “Numero Una” the hottest first officer in Starfleet history. Ransom is voiced by Jerry O’Connell, who is married to Rebecca Romijn. Mariner says Ransom sleeps face down “like a baby”.\n
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We are rewarded with an animated SNW epilogue, which is explained by them hallucinating after imbibing Orion Hurricanes with real *delaq*.
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I feel like I’m going crazy. I didn’t think I smelled bad in the beginning and I don’t think I smell bad now but I obviously smell bad to him right? Im that weirdo that keeps “sneakily” smelling their own armpits. I have been to the doctor and he has said there is nothing medically wrong. It has honestly gotten to the point where I literally shove my arm pit in friends and families faces asking if I smell bad, they all say I don’t smell like b.o. at all, one friend even said I smelled too clean like a lush store.\n
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He got all panicked and upset, I eventually got out of him that this is what he father always said to his mother. Apparently his father told him that is was a sure fire technique to have a woman never leave you because “she will feel too low to cheat, will love only you, and will always be clean”.\n
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*This is a repost. I am not the original author (see disclaimer at the bottom).*\n
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[Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/gy79dx/boyfriend_wont_stop_telling_me_i_have_bo/) by [u/ThrowRA-doistink](/u/ThrowRA-doistink) in [r/relationshipadvice](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationshipadvice)\n
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I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and everything has been great except for one thing. Every single day, at least once, he will tell me that I stink and smell of b.o( body odour).\n
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When we met I showered every day, applied regular deodorant in the morning, brushed my teeth three times a day. Now I am so paranoid about smelling bad that I shower at least twice a day, I apply new industrial strength deodorant every few hours (I have a reminder on my phone), perfume, and I brush my teeth anytime I eat or drink something that isn’t water.\n
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I feel like I’m going crazy. I didn’t think I smelled bad in the beginning and I don’t think I smell bad now but I obviously smell bad to him right? Im that weirdo that keeps “sneakily” smelling their own armpits. I have been to the doctor and he has said there is nothing medically wrong. It has honestly gotten to the point where I literally shove my arm pit in friends and families faces asking if I smell bad, they all say I don’t smell like b.o. at all, one friend even said I smelled too clean like a lush store.\n
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I am getting so paranoid. He won’t cuddle or anything when he says I smell. I really don’t know what more I can do?\n
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Update - so unexpected edit. I waited for him to make a comment this morning so I could talk to him. It was less than an hour after waking up that he said “god you stink” I had already showered and put on deodorant. I snapped and asked what exactly was he smelling because, at this point I’m one of the cleanest people on the planet and if I still smell bad to him then we should just break up.\n
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He got all panicked and upset, I eventually got out of him that this is what he father always said to his mother. Apparently his father told him that is was a sure fire technique to have a woman never leave you because “she will feel too low to cheat, will love only you, and will always be clean”.\n
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Needless to say, his father is wrong. He’s packing his things and moving out of my house today\n
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Reminder: I am not the Original OP.\n
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*Disclaimer*\n
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*This is a repost from reddit. I really missed this sub so I decided to post some top articles from time to time until hopefully one day this community will be large enough to produce its own content.*\n
\n
Read the original [here](https://www.reddit.com//r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/va3ers/oops_boyfriend_wont_stop_telling_her_that_she/)
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Update - so unexpected edit. I waited for him to make a comment this morning so I could talk to him. It was less than an hour after waking up that he said “god you stink” I had already showered and put on deodorant. I snapped and asked what exactly was he smelling because, at this point I’m one of the cleanest people on the planet and if I still smell bad to him then we should just break up.\n
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He got all panicked and upset, I eventually got out of him that this is what he father always said to his mother. Apparently his father told him that is was a sure fire technique to have a woman never leave you because “she will feel too low to cheat, will love only you, and will always be clean”.\n
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*This is a repost. I am not the original author (see disclaimer at the bottom).*\n
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**Reminder : I am not the OP**\n
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[Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/bkft0r/my_gf_was_raped_and_became_pregnant_i_broke_up/) by [u/throwawaymyl1fepls](/u/throwawaymyl1fepls)\n
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Really, really shit situation.\n
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2 months ago, my GF was raped. It was done in a park. She didn’t want to report it and went into a full breakdown, wouldn’t speak to police, go to hospital etc. I couldn’t force her, so I just stayed with her.\n
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She was, obviously, in a really shit state since, and I’ve been with her, by her side, listening to her, helping her. We went to therapy, and she knows I’m there for her. She has a history of depression, and I’ve been really worried.\n
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Last week, we found out she was pregnant. I was abroad for 2 months before the rape on work, and can back early to care for her. So the baby definitely isn’t mine. She is 100% sure it’s the rapist’s.\n
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So we had a discussion. She is a devout Catholic. We initially decided on a abortion, but after she speak to her Mother, she has decided to keep the baby, saying that isn’t the baby’s fault.\n
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I flat out told her that I would not help raise a baby of a guy who raped her. She cried and begged me not to leave. I told she is the one making the choice - either she keeps the baby and I leave, or she aborts the baby and I stay. I would not let this go.\n
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She didn’t want either of those things to happen, so I told her we were done…\n
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I feel shit. Was i wrong?\n
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[Update 1](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/blird0/update_my_gf_was_raped_and_became_pregnant_i/)\n
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I’ll post the update first, since there has been some change since I last posted. Then I’ll respond to some general points made from the last thread, and the ton of PMs I received.\n
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Yesterday, I received a call from my GF. She was crying, and she begged me to listen to her. I told her that I still care for her, and that I’ll obviously listen to what she has to say.\n
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She told me that a few days after I told her we were done, she called up her Mother to talk about this. Apparently, what happened before was that she was pretty much decided on aborting, but then when she spoke to her Mother, her mother told her that under no accounts should she abort, and that I was actually manipulating her to do so. Her Mother went on to say that if she aborted the child, she would no longer consider my gf as her daughter.\n
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After I left her, my gf called her Mum up to talk about what went on. My GF said that she desperately wanted to abort the baby, and her Mother again said that if she does so, this is the last time they will ever speak again. My GF said she broke down on the phone, and her Mother kept asking her what she will do. The conversation then ended when my GF said she didn’t know.\n
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Then she started texting. After a few hours of thinking, my GF sent her mum a text saying she was going to abort. She was then blocked.\n
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My GF then called me, and told me everything.\n
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She will be having an abortion in 3 weeks.\n
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I discussed this with my GF, and we both completely agreed that I had not manipulated her in any way, and that she appreciated that I put my foot down, because had I not, she would have had a baby who would remind her of the worst time of her life. (Her words, not mine)\n
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She further went on to say that I am the best thing that has ever happened to her, and that she knew that even if she no longer had a Mum, if she had me, she could get through this. I broke down at this point.\n
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I love her so much. In truth, I probably would have gone back to her and raised the baby with her, even though I knew I’d resent it. I made the original thread to get some backing rather than anything, to see if I had made the right decision.\n
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I’m so relieved things had turned out the way they have.\n
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Also, screw any Mother who places religion over their own child. Friggin lunatics.\n
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Now to respond to some of your points from the last thread:\n
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1: No. My GF did not cheat on me. I am almost certain about this. Not only because she had the conscience of a fragile angel, but also because we both know each others’ schedules really well, and we often talk to friends who can corroborate timings. Moreover, her roommate took photos of my GF after she came home assaulted. It’s not “rough sex” as some of you dicks put it.\n
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2: I don’t give a rat’s arse if you think abortion is a sin or the killing of a baby. Come and raise the baby or give us money to raise the baby or hire us a live in maid to tend to my GFs every need while she pregnant if you’re so sanctimonious. Talk the talk, then walk the walk you wanking tit-baboons.\n
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3: My GF was absolutely clear she wanted to raise the baby (probably influenced by the Mum).\n
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4: Thanks for all the people telling me I did the right thing. It was really difficult. I’m very glad it turned out the way it has though.\n
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5: To the people who PM’d me telling me I’m a monstrous baby killer - I fail to see what my hobbies have to do with this issue.\n
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Thanks Reddit.\n
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[Update 2](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/boai5u/update2_my_gf_was_raped_and_became_pregnant_i/)\n
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I was hoping to post here again after the abortion (still scheduled for two weeks time), but I thought I should provide an update on some recent events from a Mother from the pits of Satan’s rectum.\n
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On Saturday, I answered my door and stood face to face with two police officers. They asked me if I was who I was, and I replied I was. They then said they were looking for my GF. I called her over, and the police officer said that he needs to have a word with her.\n
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The officers then split, one taking the GF to the living room (we let them in) and the other took me into my bedroom.\n
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The officer who took me started asking me questions about how long GF had been here. If she had any contact with anyone else. If she had left the house at all…and a few other questions. I answered, and then asked what this was about, but the officer just said they received a report to check in on GF. I asked who reported, and the officer said he couldn’t say.\n
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After a while, the other officer was done, and they both left. The moment they left, my GF told me that she was outrightly asked if she was in danger, and if I had been hurting her. She was also asked if she was being held against her will. She said no to everything, of course. She said that the police received a call from her Mother saying she might be in danger, and that I could be abusive her.\n
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I was fucking livid. I immediately said I was going to press charges against her - for what? I dunno. Harrassment probably?\n
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My GF begged me to not, and said that it would all just blow over, and that she just needs time to “calm down”.\n
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Wtf? She sent police to my house to get me arrested. How is that sane thinking? I could lose my job if I was arrested and charged. What the hell is she thinking?\n
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I told GF that if the Mother does anything like this again, I will definitely press charges. So the GF decides on Sunday to talk to the Mum to not do anything like this again.\n
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They had a conversation for about 2 minutes, then I start hearing sobs. Immediately, I walked into the room, saw my GF was crying, still holding the phone against her ear.\n
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I plucked he phone from her hand, and held her for a bit as I heard “hello?” From the phone. Then I put it on me, and said “you’re a disgrace of a Mother” and hung up.\n
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Then I held the GF for what felt like an hour before we started talking.\n
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Apparently, the Mother was telling GF how if she continues with the abortion, she will never see the Mother again, or her brother, or her deceased Father (who is in heaven, even though he died a drink violent alcoholic who beat GF, but hey, repent your sins at death, amiright?) because GF would be going to damnation.\n
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I told GF that if she was going to hell, then she should save me a seat, and we’d be nice and toasty together. I love her smile.\n
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What do you think, if anything, should I do about the Mother? No doubt my words to her will have some reactions.\n
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Response to some people from previous threads and PMs after thread was locked:\n
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1 - Abortion was never an option. GF was adamant she wanted to raise the baby, influenced by her Mother. And if you suggest adoption anyway, then you truly do not understand just how taxing a normal pregnancy is, let alone one dipped in a beautiful cocktail of rape depression.\n
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2 - You can believe my GF cheated on me if that makes you feel better about your lives, I suppose. Just FYI, the pictures and roommates report showed she had a bloodied nose, black eyes, cuts and bruises against her arms, hands and knees, torn coat and top, bruises around her neck. Cheating…right…\n
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Edit: 3 - My GF and I are still going to therapy about all of this.\n
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[Update 3](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/bwxccc/final_update_my_gf_was_raped_and_became_pregnant/)\n
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I just wanted to update folk on this whole saga. This will be my final update.\n
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A few days ago, the abortion was carried out. During the weeks beforehand, my GF went to a counsellor and talked to a nurse about why she wanted an abortion. She was also tested for any STIs (she’s clear!).\n
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She went ahead with the abortion after getting the all clear. A few days ago it was successfully carried out.\n
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They went for the surgical abortion method, which involved using a vacuum to suck the pregnancy out. GF said it was pretty painless, and she was able to return home after just a few hours.\n
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When she came home, she cried and cried and cried. She says she feels like a huge weight had been lifted, and she can finally look to moving on with her life.\n
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We took the whole week of work, and yesterday we went camping (it rained). While in the tent, she talked about how difficult life was sometimes, but she was really glad things turned out the way they did, because even though things were bad, she came out the other side, probably stronger than before.\n
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She’s amazing, man. Seriously.\n
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Update on the Mum! So my GF received a call from her Mum, who was asking if she went through with the abortion.\n
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My GF and I have an agreement that if Mum calls, either hang up or give it to me. In this instance, she answered, didn’t know what to say, and gave it to me.\n
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I told the Mum that the abortion went perfectly, and smiled as she cursed at me for about a minute. I then said “How Jesus of you” at which point she hung up.\n
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My GF didn’t find it funny…\n
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Anyway, that’s it.\n
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Good luck to everyone in their lives.\n
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Also, if you’re going to message and insult me via PM, just be warned: I’ve killed a baby before.\n
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*Disclaimer*\n
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*This is a repost from reddit. I really missed this sub so I decided to post some top articles from time to time until hopefully one day this community will be large enough to produce its own content.*\n
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Read the original [here](https://www.reddit.com//r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/t7alnh/my_gf_was_raped_and_became_pregnant_i_broke_up/)
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*This is a repost. I am not the original author (see disclaimer at the bottom).*\n
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**Reminder : I am not the OP**\n
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[Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/bkft0r/my_gf_was_raped_and_became_pregnant_i_broke_up/) by [u/throwawaymyl1fepls](/u/throwawaymyl1fepls)\n
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Really, really shit situation.\n
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2 months ago, my GF was raped. It was done in a park. She didn’t want to report it and went into a full breakdown, wouldn’t speak to police, go to hospital etc. I couldn’t force her, so I just stayed with her.\n
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She was, obviously, in a really shit state since, and I’ve been with her, by her side, listening to her, helping her. We went to therapy, and she knows I’m there for her. She has a history of depression, and I’ve been really worried.\n
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Last week, we found out she was pregnant. I was abroad for 2 months before the rape on work, and can back early to care for her. So the baby definitely isn’t mine. She is 100% sure it’s the rapist’s.\n
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So we had a discussion. She is a devout Catholic. We initially decided on a abortion, but after she speak to her Mother, she has decided to keep the baby, saying that isn’t the baby’s fault.\n
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I flat out told her that I would not help raise a baby of a guy who raped her. She cried and begged me not to leave. I told she is the one making the choice - either she keeps the baby and I leave, or she aborts the baby and I stay. I would not let this go.\n
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She didn’t want either of those things to happen, so I told her we were done…\n
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I feel shit. Was i wrong?\n
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[Update 1](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/blird0/update_my_gf_was_raped_and_became_pregnant_i/)\n
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I’ll post the update first, since there has been some change since I last posted. Then I’ll respond to some general points made from the last thread, and the ton of PMs I received.\n
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Yesterday, I received a call from my GF. She was crying, and she begged me to listen to her. I told her that I still care for her, and that I’ll obviously listen to what she has to say.\n
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She told me that a few days after I told her we were done, she called up her Mother to talk about this. Apparently, what happened before was that she was pretty much decided on aborting, but then when she spoke to her Mother, her mother told her that under no accounts should she abort, and that I was actually manipulating her to do so. Her Mother went on to say that if she aborted the child, she would no longer consider my gf as her daughter.\n
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After I left her, my gf called her Mum up to talk about what went on. My GF said that she desperately wanted to abort the baby, and her Mother again said that if she does so, this is the last time they will ever speak again. My GF said she broke down on the phone, and her Mother kept asking her what she will do. The conversation then ended when my GF said she didn’t know.\n
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Then she started texting. After a few hours of thinking, my GF sent her mum a text saying she was going to abort. She was then blocked.\n
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My GF then called me, and told me everything.\n
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She will be having an abortion in 3 weeks.\n
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I discussed this with my GF, and we both completely agreed that I had not manipulated her in any way, and that she appreciated that I put my foot down, because had I not, she would have had a baby who would remind her of the worst time of her life. (Her words, not mine)\n
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She further went on to say that I am the best thing that has ever happened to her, and that she knew that even if she no longer had a Mum, if she had me, she could get through this. I broke down at this point.\n
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I love her so much. In truth, I probably would have gone back to her and raised the baby with her, even though I knew I’d resent it. I made the original thread to get some backing rather than anything, to see if I had made the right decision.\n
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I’m so relieved things had turned out the way they have.\n
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Also, screw any Mother who places religion over their own child. Friggin lunatics.\n
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Now to respond to some of your points from the last thread:\n
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1: No. My GF did not cheat on me. I am almost certain about this. Not only because she had the conscience of a fragile angel, but also because we both know each others’ schedules really well, and we often talk to friends who can corroborate timings. Moreover, her roommate took photos of my GF after she came home assaulted. It’s not “rough sex” as some of you dicks put it.\n
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2: I don’t give a rat’s arse if you think abortion is a sin or the killing of a baby. Come and raise the baby or give us money to raise the baby or hire us a live in maid to tend to my GFs every need while she pregnant if you’re so sanctimonious. Talk the talk, then walk the walk you wanking tit-baboons.\n
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3: My GF was absolutely clear she wanted to raise the baby (probably influenced by the Mum).\n
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4: Thanks for all the people telling me I did the right thing. It was really difficult. I’m very glad it turned out the way it has though.\n
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5: To the people who PM’d me telling me I’m a monstrous baby killer - I fail to see what my hobbies have to do with this issue.\n
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Thanks Reddit.\n
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[Update 2](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/boai5u/update2_my_gf_was_raped_and_became_pregnant_i/)\n
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I was hoping to post here again after the abortion (still scheduled for two weeks time), but I thought I should provide an update on some recent events from a Mother from the pits of Satan’s rectum.\n
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On Saturday, I answered my door and stood face to face with two police officers. They asked me if I was who I was, and I replied I was. They then said they were looking for my GF. I called her over, and the police officer said that he needs to have a word with her.\n
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The officers then split, one taking the GF to the living room (we let them in) and the other took me into my bedroom.\n
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The officer who took me started asking me questions about how long GF had been here. If she had any contact with anyone else. If she had left the house at all…and a few other questions. I answered, and then asked what this was about, but the officer just said they received a report to check in on GF. I asked who reported, and the officer said he couldn’t say.\n
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After a while, the other officer was done, and they both left. The moment they left, my GF told me that she was outrightly asked if she was in danger, and if I had been hurting her. She was also asked if she was being held against her will. She said no to everything, of course. She said that the police received a call from her Mother saying she might be in danger, and that I could be abusive her.\n
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I was fucking livid. I immediately said I was going to press charges against her - for what? I dunno. Harrassment probably?\n
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My GF begged me to not, and said that it would all just blow over, and that she just needs time to “calm down”.\n
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Wtf? She sent police to my house to get me arrested. How is that sane thinking? I could lose my job if I was arrested and charged. What the hell is she thinking?\n
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I told GF that if the Mother does anything like this again, I will definitely press charges. So the GF decides on Sunday to talk to the Mum to not do anything like this again.\n
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They had a conversation for about 2 minutes, then I start hearing sobs. Immediately, I walked into the room, saw my GF was crying, still holding the phone against her ear.\n
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I plucked he phone from her hand, and held her for a bit as I heard “hello?” From the phone. Then I put it on me, and said “you’re a disgrace of a Mother” and hung up.\n
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Then I held the GF for what felt like an hour before we started talking.\n
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Apparently, the Mother was telling GF how if she continues with the abortion, she will never see the Mother again, or her brother, or her deceased Father (who is in heaven, even though he died a drink violent alcoholic who beat GF, but hey, repent your sins at death, amiright?) because GF would be going to damnation.\n
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I told GF that if she was going to hell, then she should save me a seat, and we’d be nice and toasty together. I love her smile.\n
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What do you think, if anything, should I do about the Mother? No doubt my words to her will have some reactions.\n
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Response to some people from previous threads and PMs after thread was locked:\n
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1 - Abortion was never an option. GF was adamant she wanted to raise the baby, influenced by her Mother. And if you suggest adoption anyway, then you truly do not understand just how taxing a normal pregnancy is, let alone one dipped in a beautiful cocktail of rape depression.\n
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2 - You can believe my GF cheated on me if that makes you feel better about your lives, I suppose. Just FYI, the pictures and roommates report showed she had a bloodied nose, black eyes, cuts and bruises against her arms, hands and knees, torn coat and top, bruises around her neck. Cheating…right…\n
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Edit: 3 - My GF and I are still going to therapy about all of this.\n
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[Update 3](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/bwxccc/final_update_my_gf_was_raped_and_became_pregnant/)\n
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I just wanted to update folk on this whole saga. This will be my final update.\n
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A few days ago, the abortion was carried out. During the weeks beforehand, my GF went to a counsellor and talked to a nurse about why she wanted an abortion. She was also tested for any STIs (she’s clear!).\n
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She went ahead with the abortion after getting the all clear. A few days ago it was successfully carried out.\n
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They went for the surgical abortion method, which involved using a vacuum to suck the pregnancy out. GF said it was pretty painless, and she was able to return home after just a few hours.\n
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When she came home, she cried and cried and cried. She says she feels like a huge weight had been lifted, and she can finally look to moving on with her life.\n
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We took the whole week of work, and yesterday we went camping (it rained). While in the tent, she talked about how difficult life was sometimes, but she was really glad things turned out the way they did, because even though things were bad, she came out the other side, probably stronger than before.\n
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She’s amazing, man. Seriously.\n
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Update on the Mum! So my GF received a call from her Mum, who was asking if she went through with the abortion.\n
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My GF and I have an agreement that if Mum calls, either hang up or give it to me. In this instance, she answered, didn’t know what to say, and gave it to me.\n
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I told the Mum that the abortion went perfectly, and smiled as she cursed at me for about a minute. I then said “How Jesus of you” at which point she hung up.\n
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My GF didn’t find it funny…\n
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Anyway, that’s it.\n
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Good luck to everyone in their lives.\n
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Also, if you’re going to message and insult me via PM, just be warned: I’ve killed a baby before.\n
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*Disclaimer*\n
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*This is a repost from reddit. I really missed this sub so I decided to post some top articles from time to time until hopefully one day this community will be large enough to produce its own content.*\n
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Read the original [here](https://www.reddit.com//r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/t7alnh/my_gf_was_raped_and_became_pregnant_i_broke_up/)
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*This is a repost. I am not the original author (see disclaimer at the bottom).*\n
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[Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/bkft0r/my_gf_was_raped_and_became_pregnant_i_broke_up/) by [u/throwawaymyl1fepls](/u/throwawaymyl1fepls)\n
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Really, really shit situation.\n
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2 months ago, my GF was raped. It was done in a park. She didn’t want to report it and went into a full breakdown, wouldn’t speak to police, go to hospital etc. I couldn’t force her, so I just stayed with her.\n
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She was, obviously, in a really shit state since, and I’ve been with her, by her side, listening to her, helping her. We went to therapy, and she knows I’m there for her. She has a history of depression, and I’ve been really worried.\n
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Last week, we found out she was pregnant. I was abroad for 2 months before the rape on work, and can back early to care for her. So the baby definitely isn’t mine. She is 100% sure it’s the rapist’s.\n
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So we had a discussion. She is a devout Catholic. We initially decided on a abortion, but after she speak to her Mother, she has decided to keep the baby, saying that isn’t the baby’s fault.\n
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I flat out told her that I would not help raise a baby of a guy who raped her. She cried and begged me not to leave. I told she is the one making the choice - either she keeps the baby and I leave, or she aborts the baby and I stay. I would not let this go.\n
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She didn’t want either of those things to happen, so I told her we were done…\n
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I feel shit. Was i wrong?\n
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[Update 1](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/blird0/update_my_gf_was_raped_and_became_pregnant_i/)\n
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I’ll post the update first, since there has been some change since I last posted. Then I’ll respond to some general points made from the last thread, and the ton of PMs I received.\n
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Yesterday, I received a call from my GF. She was crying, and she begged me to listen to her. I told her that I still care for her, and that I’ll obviously listen to what she has to say.\n
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She told me that a few days after I told her we were done, she called up her Mother to talk about this. Apparently, what happened before was that she was pretty much decided on aborting, but then when she spoke to her Mother, her mother told her that under no accounts should she abort, and that I was actually manipulating her to do so. Her Mother went on to say that if she aborted the child, she would no longer consider my gf as her daughter.\n
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After I left her, my gf called her Mum up to talk about what went on. My GF said that she desperately wanted to abort the baby, and her Mother again said that if she does so, this is the last time they will ever speak again. My GF said she broke down on the phone, and her Mother kept asking her what she will do. The conversation then ended when my GF said she didn’t know.\n
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Then she started texting. After a few hours of thinking, my GF sent her mum a text saying she was going to abort. She was then blocked.\n
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My GF then called me, and told me everything.\n
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She will be having an abortion in 3 weeks.\n
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I discussed this with my GF, and we both completely agreed that I had not manipulated her in any way, and that she appreciated that I put my foot down, because had I not, she would have had a baby who would remind her of the worst time of her life. (Her words, not mine)\n
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She further went on to say that I am the best thing that has ever happened to her, and that she knew that even if she no longer had a Mum, if she had me, she could get through this. I broke down at this point.\n
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I love her so much. In truth, I probably would have gone back to her and raised the baby with her, even though I knew I’d resent it. I made the original thread to get some backing rather than anything, to see if I had made the right decision.\n
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I’m so relieved things had turned out the way they have.\n
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Also, screw any Mother who places religion over their own child. Friggin lunatics.\n
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Now to respond to some of your points from the last thread:\n
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1: No. My GF did not cheat on me. I am almost certain about this. Not only because she had the conscience of a fragile angel, but also because we both know each others’ schedules really well, and we often talk to friends who can corroborate timings. Moreover, her roommate took photos of my GF after she came home assaulted. It’s not “rough sex” as some of you dicks put it.\n
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2: I don’t give a rat’s arse if you think abortion is a sin or the killing of a baby. Come and raise the baby or give us money to raise the baby or hire us a live in maid to tend to my GFs every need while she pregnant if you’re so sanctimonious. Talk the talk, then walk the walk you wanking tit-baboons.\n
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3: My GF was absolutely clear she wanted to raise the baby (probably influenced by the Mum).\n
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4: Thanks for all the people telling me I did the right thing. It was really difficult. I’m very glad it turned out the way it has though.\n
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5: To the people who PM’d me telling me I’m a monstrous baby killer - I fail to see what my hobbies have to do with this issue.\n
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Thanks Reddit.\n
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[Update 2](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/boai5u/update2_my_gf_was_raped_and_became_pregnant_i/)\n
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I was hoping to post here again after the abortion (still scheduled for two weeks time), but I thought I should provide an update on some recent events from a Mother from the pits of Satan’s rectum.\n
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On Saturday, I answered my door and stood face to face with two police officers. They asked me if I was who I was, and I replied I was. They then said they were looking for my GF. I called her over, and the police officer said that he needs to have a word with her.\n
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The officers then split, one taking the GF to the living room (we let them in) and the other took me into my bedroom.\n
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The officer who took me started asking me questions about how long GF had been here. If she had any contact with anyone else. If she had left the house at all…and a few other questions. I answered, and then asked what this was about, but the officer just said they received a report to check in on GF. I asked who reported, and the officer said he couldn’t say.\n
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After a while, the other officer was done, and they both left. The moment they left, my GF told me that she was outrightly asked if she was in danger, and if I had been hurting her. She was also asked if she was being held against her will. She said no to everything, of course. She said that the police received a call from her Mother saying she might be in danger, and that I could be abusive her.\n
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I was fucking livid. I immediately said I was going to press charges against her - for what? I dunno. Harrassment probably?\n
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My GF begged me to not, and said that it would all just blow over, and that she just needs time to “calm down”.\n
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Wtf? She sent police to my house to get me arrested. How is that sane thinking? I could lose my job if I was arrested and charged. What the hell is she thinking?\n
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I told GF that if the Mother does anything like this again, I will definitely press charges. So the GF decides on Sunday to talk to the Mum to not do anything like this again.\n
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They had a conversation for about 2 minutes, then I start hearing sobs. Immediately, I walked into the room, saw my GF was crying, still holding the phone against her ear.\n
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I plucked he phone from her hand, and held her for a bit as I heard “hello?” From the phone. Then I put it on me, and said “you’re a disgrace of a Mother” and hung up.\n
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Then I held the GF for what felt like an hour before we started talking.\n
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Apparently, the Mother was telling GF how if she continues with the abortion, she will never see the Mother again, or her brother, or her deceased Father (who is in heaven, even though he died a drink violent alcoholic who beat GF, but hey, repent your sins at death, amiright?) because GF would be going to damnation.\n
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I told GF that if she was going to hell, then she should save me a seat, and we’d be nice and toasty together. I love her smile.\n
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What do you think, if anything, should I do about the Mother? No doubt my words to her will have some reactions.\n
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Response to some people from previous threads and PMs after thread was locked:\n
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1 - Abortion was never an option. GF was adamant she wanted to raise the baby, influenced by her Mother. And if you suggest adoption anyway, then you truly do not understand just how taxing a normal pregnancy is, let alone one dipped in a beautiful cocktail of rape depression.\n
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2 - You can believe my GF cheated on me if that makes you feel better about your lives, I suppose. Just FYI, the pictures and roommates report showed she had a bloodied nose, black eyes, cuts and bruises against her arms, hands and knees, torn coat and top, bruises around her neck. Cheating…right…\n
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Edit: 3 - My GF and I are still going to therapy about all of this.\n
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[Update 3](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/bwxccc/final_update_my_gf_was_raped_and_became_pregnant/)\n
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I just wanted to update folk on this whole saga. This will be my final update.\n
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A few days ago, the abortion was carried out. During the weeks beforehand, my GF went to a counsellor and talked to a nurse about why she wanted an abortion. She was also tested for any STIs (she’s clear!).\n
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She went ahead with the abortion after getting the all clear. A few days ago it was successfully carried out.\n
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They went for the surgical abortion method, which involved using a vacuum to suck the pregnancy out. GF said it was pretty painless, and she was able to return home after just a few hours.\n
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When she came home, she cried and cried and cried. She says she feels like a huge weight had been lifted, and she can finally look to moving on with her life.\n
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We took the whole week of work, and yesterday we went camping (it rained). While in the tent, she talked about how difficult life was sometimes, but she was really glad things turned out the way they did, because even though things were bad, she came out the other side, probably stronger than before.\n
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She’s amazing, man. Seriously.\n
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Update on the Mum! So my GF received a call from her Mum, who was asking if she went through with the abortion.\n
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My GF and I have an agreement that if Mum calls, either hang up or give it to me. In this instance, she answered, didn’t know what to say, and gave it to me.\n
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I told the Mum that the abortion went perfectly, and smiled as she cursed at me for about a minute. I then said “How Jesus of you” at which point she hung up.\n
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My GF didn’t find it funny…\n
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Anyway, that’s it.\n
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Good luck to everyone in their lives.\n
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Also, if you’re going to message and insult me via PM, just be warned: I’ve killed a baby before.\n
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*Disclaimer*\n
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*This is a repost from reddit. I really missed this sub so I decided to post some top articles from time to time until hopefully one day this community will be large enough to produce its own content.*\n
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Read the original [here](https://www.reddit.com//r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/t7alnh/my_gf_was_raped_and_became_pregnant_i_broke_up/)
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<https://www.theguardian.com/education/2017/jun/22/teenage-boys-wear-skirts-to-school-protest-no-shorts-uniform-policy>\n
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Back in the summer of 2017, Devon (in the UK) was suffering from a heat wave. The boys suffered the unbearable heat in trousers. Girls were luckier - skirts were part of the school uniform.\n
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One boy, Ryan, asked his teacher for an exception due to the heat, but was told that all clothes worn must be a part of the approved school uniform, without exception. Another boy who asked was given a sarcastic reply: "Well, you can wear a skirt if you like."\n
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*Cue malicious compliance.*\n
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The next day, Ryan came to school in his uniform. Every item he wore was on the approved list - including his official school skirt.\n
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Pretty soon, nearly all the lads were wearing skirts.\n
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A few days later, after the worst of the heat wave was over, the headteacher announced that shorts would be allowed as part of the official school uniform starting the next school year.\n
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**TL;DR: School won't allow boys to wear shorts in extreme summer heat because it's not on the approved uniform list but sarcastically points out that they can wear skirts. Boys wear said skirts. School gives in and adds shorts to the list.**\n
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Original articles:\n
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<https://www.theguardian.com/education/2017/jun/22/teenage-boys-wear-skirts-to-school-protest-no-shorts-uniform-policy>\n
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<https://www.theguardian.com/education/2017/jun/23/exeter-schools-uniform-resolve-melts-after-boys-skirt-protest>
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