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            "content": "<p>I\u2019m not a psychiatrist, so this is all observational for me, but my father is a narcissist so I can at least tell you what he\u2019s like.<\/p>\n<p>In conversation, or any interaction, if the topic veers into anything that my father can\u2019t relate to or isn\u2019t aware of from his own personal experience, he immediately reframes the topic so it\u2019s about him. This consistently happens in the middle of a conversation, and it usually interrupts someone speaking. The interruption is always unrelated to what the person was actually saying, so after he interrupts you can always see the person he cut off deflate and shrink away from the conversation. Because it\u2019s clear he wasn\u2019t participating in a two-sided conversation, he was just waiting his turn to cut in and take over.<\/p>\n<p>He manages to come across as caring, but that\u2019s only because he knows exactly how to act so he appears that way. But his motivation is only to be praised for his apparent empathy, because if you probe his behavior even a little bit, it\u2019s like a switch is flipped and he goes into a full on angry defensive mode.<\/p>\n<p>For example, a close family member is dying, and he is the only one available to care for them. And he is taking care of them physically, don\u2019t get me wrong, I appreciate that, but whenever another family-member asks for an update on their condition, his framing is always about what <em>he<\/em> has done and how <em>he<\/em> has learned what to do in a particular situation, it\u2019s never about the condition of our dying family member.<\/p>\n<p>He takes credit for every idea and new concept he comes across, even if the person who gave him the idea is in the room with him. It sometimes even happens in the same conversation.<\/p>\n<p>Anyway, those are just my personal experiences living with an extremely difficult and selfish father who is incapable of thinking genuinely about other people. I learned a lot about myself and him by reading <a href=\"https:\/\/bookshop.org\/p\/books\/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents-lib-e-how-to-heal-from-distant-rejecting-or-self-involved-parents-lindsay-c-gibson\/16712089?ean=9781626251700&amp;next=t\" rel=\"nofollow\">Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents<\/a>. Worth a read even if you\u2019re not thinking about a parent.<\/p>\n",
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                "content": "I\u2019m not a psychiatrist, so this is all observational for me, but my father is a narcissist so I can at least tell you what he\u2019s like.\n\nIn conversation, or any interaction, if the topic veers into anything that my father can\u2019t relate to or isn\u2019t aware of from his own personal experience, he immediately reframes the topic so it\u2019s about him. This consistently happens in the middle of a conversation, and it usually interrupts someone speaking. The interruption is always unrelated to what the person was actually saying, so after he interrupts you can always see the person he cut off deflate and shrink away from the conversation. Because it\u2019s clear he wasn\u2019t participating in a two-sided conversation, he was just waiting his turn to cut in and take over.\n\nHe manages to come across as caring, but that\u2019s only because he knows exactly how to act so he appears that way. But his motivation is only to be praised for his apparent empathy, because if you probe his behavior even a little bit, it\u2019s like a switch is flipped and he goes into a full on angry defensive mode.\n\nFor example, a close family member is dying, and he is the only one available to care for them. And he is taking care of them physically, don\u2019t get me wrong, I appreciate that, but whenever another family-member asks for an update on their condition, his framing is always about what _he_ has done and how _he_ has learned what to do in a particular situation, it\u2019s never about the condition of our dying family member.\n\nHe takes credit for every idea and new concept he comes across, even if the person who gave him the idea is in the room with him. It sometimes even happens in the same conversation.\n\nAnyway, those are just my personal experiences living with an extremely difficult and selfish father who is incapable of thinking genuinely about other people. I learned a lot about myself and him by reading [Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents](https:\/\/bookshop.org\/p\/books\/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents-lib-e-how-to-heal-from-distant-rejecting-or-self-involved-parents-lindsay-c-gibson\/16712089?ean=9781626251700&next=t). Worth a read even if you\u2019re not thinking about a parent.",
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