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Security

Token

There is no security token.

Firewall

main Name

Security enabled

Stateless

Configuration

Key	Value
provider	security.user.provider.concrete.app_user_provider
context	main
entry_point	App\Security\KbinAuthenticator
user_checker	App\Security\UserChecker
access_denied_handler	(none)
access_denied_url	(none)
authenticators	[`"two_factor" "remember_me" "App\Security\KbinAuthenticator" "App\Security\FacebookAuthenticator" "App\Security\GoogleAuthenticator" "App\Security\GithubAuthenticator" "App\Security\KeycloakAuthenticator"`]

Listeners

Listener	Duration	Response
Symfony\Component\Security\Http\Firewall\ChannelListener {#723`-map: Symfony\Component\Security\Http\AccessMap {#722 …} -logger: Monolog\Logger {#783 …} -httpPort: 80 -httpsPort: 443`}	0.00 ms	(none)
Symfony\Component\Security\Http\Firewall\ContextListener {#706-tokenStorage: Symfony\Component\Security\Core\Authentication\Token\Storage\TokenStorage {#1017 …} -sessionKey: "_security_main" -logger: Monolog\Logger {#783 …} -userProviders: Symfony\Component\DependencyInjection\Argument\RewindableGenerator {#705 …} -dispatcher: Symfony\Component\EventDispatcher\Debug\TraceableEventDispatcher {#747 …} -registered: false -trustResolver: Scheb\TwoFactorBundle\Security\Authentication\AuthenticationTrustResolver {#780 …} -sessionTrackerEnabler: Symfony\Component\Security\Core\Authentication\Token\Storage\UsageTrackingTokenStorage::enableUsageTracking(): void {#703 …}}	6.94 ms	(none)
Symfony\Component\Security\Http\Firewall\AuthenticatorManagerListener {#584`-authenticatorManager: Symfony\Component\Security\Http\Authentication\AuthenticatorManager {#595 …}`}	0.00 ms	(none)
Scheb\TwoFactorBundle\Security\Http\Firewall\TwoFactorAccessListener {#582`-twoFactorFirewallConfig: Scheb\TwoFactorBundle\Security\TwoFactor\TwoFactorFirewallConfig {#842 …} -tokenStorage: Symfony\Component\Security\Core\Authentication\Token\Storage\UsageTrackingTokenStorage {#1018 …} -twoFactorAccessDecider: Scheb\TwoFactorBundle\Security\Authorization\TwoFactorAccessDecider {#581 …}`}	0.06 ms	(none)
Symfony\Component\Security\Http\Firewall\AccessListener {#579`-tokenStorage: Symfony\Component\Security\Core\Authentication\Token\Storage\UsageTrackingTokenStorage {#1018 …} -accessDecisionManager: Symfony\Component\Security\Core\Authorization\TraceableAccessDecisionManager {#937 …} -map: Symfony\Component\Security\Http\AccessMap {#722 …}`}	0.00 ms	(none)
Symfony\Component\Security\Http\Firewall\LogoutListener {#786`-tokenStorage: Symfony\Component\Security\Core\Authentication\Token\Storage\UsageTrackingTokenStorage {#1018 …} -options: [ "csrf_parameter" => "_csrf_token" "csrf_token_id" => "logout" "logout_path" => "app_logout" ] -httpUtils: Symfony\Component\Security\Http\HttpUtils {#841 …} -csrfTokenManager: Symfony\Component\Security\Csrf\CsrfTokenManager {#1015 …} -eventDispatcher: Symfony\Component\EventDispatcher\Debug\TraceableEventDispatcher {#747 …}`}	0.00 ms	(none)

Authenticators

No authenticators have been recorded. Check previous profiles on your authentication endpoint.

Access Decision

affirmative Strategy


"Symfony\Component\Security\Core\Authorization\Voter\AuthenticatedVoter"
"Scheb\TwoFactorBundle\Security\Authorization\Voter\TwoFactorInProgressVoter"
"Symfony\Component\Security\Core\Authorization\Voter\RoleHierarchyVoter"
"Symfony\Component\Security\Core\Authorization\Voter\ExpressionVoter"
"App\Security\Voter\EntryCommentVoter"
"App\Security\Voter\EntryVoter"
"App\Security\Voter\MagazineVoter"
"App\Security\Voter\MessageThreadVoter"
"App\Security\Voter\MessageVoter"
"App\Security\Voter\NotificationVoter"
"App\Security\Voter\OAuth2UserConsentVoter"
"App\Security\Voter\PostCommentVoter"
"App\Security\Voter\PostVoter"
"App\Security\Voter\UserVoter"

#	Voter class
1	"Symfony\Component\Security\Core\Authorization\Voter\AuthenticatedVoter"
2	"Scheb\TwoFactorBundle\Security\Authorization\Voter\TwoFactorInProgressVoter"
3	"Symfony\Component\Security\Core\Authorization\Voter\RoleHierarchyVoter"
4	"Symfony\Component\Security\Core\Authorization\Voter\ExpressionVoter"
5	"App\Security\Voter\EntryCommentVoter"
6	"App\Security\Voter\EntryVoter"
7	"App\Security\Voter\MagazineVoter"
8	"App\Security\Voter\MessageThreadVoter"
9	"App\Security\Voter\MessageVoter"
10	"App\Security\Voter\NotificationVoter"
11	"App\Security\Voter\OAuth2UserConsentVoter"
12	"App\Security\Voter\PostCommentVoter"
13	"App\Security\Voter\PostVoter"
14	"App\Security\Voter\UserVoter"

Access decision log


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    Any ideas/thoughts/suggestions for how to format/share stories within this limit are welcome!
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"App\Security\Voter\UserVoter"
null
"App\Security\Voter\UserVoter"
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    Not sure what to do. Earlier today my neighbor came pounding on my door screaming obscenities and shouting at me. When I finally got him to stop yelling I found out that he was flying his drone in my backyard again and this time my dog finally managed to catch it and destroy it. He claims this was a $900 drone and I had to pay him right then and there. I refused and closed the door in his face. A couple hours later police showed up to retrieve the drone; it was still in my yard, but my dog completely ignored it once it stopped buzzing; and ask about the situation. The said neighbor called them stating that I refused him access to my yard to get it. That’s not true, he never asked.\n
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    A small update to my neighbor flying his drone in my backyard and attacking my dog:\n
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    I was served a summons by a Sheriff’s Deputy, neighbor decided to take me to Small Claims over his drone. My MIL is a paralegal secretary, so I was able to get a free consultation with a lawyer where she works to ask some questions about what to bring and how to prepare. He seemed genuinely amused that my neighbor was even trying to sue. He also suggested I counter sue and how I could possibly add in more damages.\n
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    I brought both police reports to court, as well as several photos of my backyard, photos of our shared 8’ high privacy fence, medical bills for my dog, and a few short videos I had of him doing fly bys over my dog in the past. His main argument to the judge was that I “maliciously installed a table to allow my dog to jump high enough to catch his drone, which I (somehow) trained him to do”. Which, yes I had recently bought a new picnic table, but only so I have somewhere to sit and eat outside. I argued that his flying was causing my dog anxiety and that’s what provoked it, and thanks to y’alls advice, that my dog could have potentially died from ingesting part of the drone or if the drone hit him. In the end, he now has to pay me just under $2,000 for various vet bills (xrays, dental exams, sedation, medication etc). He is also banned from flying over my property, and I installed trail cams front and back yards just in case. He seems pretty upset with me, so I wanted to be careful.\n
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    Editor’s note: Found this dog tax while going through OOP’s comments. ![](https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/362109d6-50b3-4825-a112-50c0e2ee8744.jpeg)\n
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    Editor’s note: Found this dog tax while going through OOP’s comments. ![](https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/362109d6-50b3-4825-a112-50c0e2ee8744.jpeg)\n
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    Not sure what to do. Earlier today my neighbor came pounding on my door screaming obscenities and shouting at me. When I finally got him to stop yelling I found out that he was flying his drone in my backyard again and this time my dog finally managed to catch it and destroy it. He claims this was a $900 drone and I had to pay him right then and there. I refused and closed the door in his face. A couple hours later police showed up to retrieve the drone; it was still in my yard, but my dog completely ignored it once it stopped buzzing; and ask about the situation. The said neighbor called them stating that I refused him access to my yard to get it. That’s not true, he never asked.\n
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    Update\n
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    A small update to my neighbor flying his drone in my backyard and attacking my dog:\n
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    I was served a summons by a Sheriff’s Deputy, neighbor decided to take me to Small Claims over his drone. My MIL is a paralegal secretary, so I was able to get a free consultation with a lawyer where she works to ask some questions about what to bring and how to prepare. He seemed genuinely amused that my neighbor was even trying to sue. He also suggested I counter sue and how I could possibly add in more damages.\n
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    Editor’s note: Found this dog tax while going through OOP’s comments. ![](https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/362109d6-50b3-4825-a112-50c0e2ee8744.jpeg)\n
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    TL;DR: Fiancee of 6 years saw a vagina in my textbook and now wants me to drop out of med school\n
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    I’m sorry for the grammar and formatting, i just cant think straight right now.\n
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    I [22M] am in medical school and my fiancee [22F] freaked out after seeing a diagram of a vagina in my anatomy textbook. Together for 6 yrs. I don’t know what to do.[UPDATE]\n
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    update\n
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    I’ll save you the trouble: she wasn’t cheating nor was she pregnant.\n
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    Yesterday I decided that enough was enough and I headed over to where she was staying intent on ending the relationship. When I got there she was half drunk what followed was a LOT of screaming and cussing directed at me. I learned why she wanted me to drop out. It had nothing to do with textbook vaginas.\n
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    When I was a sophomore two of my friends dropped out of college to work on their tech startup full time, and invited me to come work with them ( my undergrad degree was in comp sci). I rejected the offer because I wanted to concentrate on my dream: becoming a doctor. Fortunately, their startup did very well and last year they sold it to a large tech company for a very large sum of money (in the low 8 figures). I was thrilled for them. After they sold the company, both of them obviously had large lifestyle changes. One of them proposed to his girlfriend with a ridiculously fucking big diamond, and they are frequently vacationing in exotic locations with family and SOs. Apparently, their success and lifestyles made my girlfriend extremely jealous, and she came up with the vagina thing as a way for me to drop out of med school, because she thinks that I can “easily get a job making 150k a year at a bank so we wouldnt have to live like fucking refugees” and that I am a “fucking idiot” for not doing so. Still I was confused. I asked her about our dreams of being doctors. Turns out she never really wanted to go into medicine but only claimed to because “it was all I ever talked about”. I guess that explains her application strategy.\n
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    I was done. I broke up with her on the spot and told her not to contact me again. She is going to continue staying with the friend while we figure out a living arrangement.\n
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    Some backstory: My fiancee Annie and I have known each since we were children and began dating junior year of HS. After HS we both went to our state school and I asked her to marry me junior year of undergrad.\n
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    I have always dreamt of being a doctor, as has she. When the application process began, I applied to good mix of MD and DO schools of varying degrees of selectivity (though all med schools are insanely selective). I had initially planned on continuing my education and my state institution because I did not want to take on too much debt. I did end up getting into my state school’s med school, but I was also unexpectedly was offered a spot at one of the best med schools in the country (i.e top 3) in New England (We are from the West Coast). I would have been inclined to reject the offer had I not also qualified for a partial, but still significant scholarship. It would still cost me more out of pocket than my state school would, but not significantly so(maybe a couple thousand dollars more). Annie, despite pleas from myself, our parents, professors, advisors etc. applied to /only/ our state school and to some insanely selective (top 10 MD) schools, that she, to be blunt had no chance of getting into given her admittedly mediocre grades and research experience. She was rejected from all the schools she applied to, including our state institution. Obviously, this crushed her and I have tried my best to support her during a difficult time and to help her remain optimistic.\n
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    Saturday morning, she wasn’t home. I checked my phone and there was a text from her saying that she was staying with a friend and that she “was done” with us unless I dropped out of medical school and found another job because, and this is an honest to god text from her, “she doesn’t want me ogling at vaginas like a fucking pervert”. This is COMPLETELY out of character for her. She has always been level headed and reasonable, and has no history of mental illness or anything like that. I am not a stupid person and I know that this has way more to do than a picture of a fucking vagina in an anatomy textbook but I have no idea what to do right now. She has stopped responding to texts and won’t pick up her phone. I spoke to the friend she’s staying with who basically called me a fucking asshole and said that annie is crying and getting drunk, and that neither of them want me coming over to speak with her. Her parents passed when we were young children and she doesn’t have any siblings or much other family. I have no idea what to do anymore. I love her more than anything, but there is absolutely NO WAY I am dropping out of medical school for her, and I would rather we break up than I bend to her completely unreasonable demands, but I am very concerned for her mental health right now, and need any advice I can get.\n
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    TL;DR: Fiancee of 6 years saw a vagina in my textbook and now wants me to drop out of med school\n
    \n
    I’m sorry for the grammar and formatting, i just cant think straight right now.\n
    \n
    I [22M] am in medical school and my fiancee [22F] freaked out after seeing a diagram of a vagina in my anatomy textbook. Together for 6 yrs. I don’t know what to do.[UPDATE]\n
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    update\n
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    I’ll save you the trouble: she wasn’t cheating nor was she pregnant.\n
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    Yesterday I decided that enough was enough and I headed over to where she was staying intent on ending the relationship. When I got there she was half drunk what followed was a LOT of screaming and cussing directed at me. I learned why she wanted me to drop out. It had nothing to do with textbook vaginas.\n
    \n
    When I was a sophomore two of my friends dropped out of college to work on their tech startup full time, and invited me to come work with them ( my undergrad degree was in comp sci). I rejected the offer because I wanted to concentrate on my dream: becoming a doctor. Fortunately, their startup did very well and last year they sold it to a large tech company for a very large sum of money (in the low 8 figures). I was thrilled for them. After they sold the company, both of them obviously had large lifestyle changes. One of them proposed to his girlfriend with a ridiculously fucking big diamond, and they are frequently vacationing in exotic locations with family and SOs. Apparently, their success and lifestyles made my girlfriend extremely jealous, and she came up with the vagina thing as a way for me to drop out of med school, because she thinks that I can “easily get a job making 150k a year at a bank so we wouldnt have to live like fucking refugees” and that I am a “fucking idiot” for not doing so. Still I was confused. I asked her about our dreams of being doctors. Turns out she never really wanted to go into medicine but only claimed to because “it was all I ever talked about”. I guess that explains her application strategy.\n
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    I was done. I broke up with her on the spot and told her not to contact me again. She is going to continue staying with the friend while we figure out a living arrangement.\n
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    Reminder: I am not OP.
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    Some backstory: My fiancee Annie and I have known each since we were children and began dating junior year of HS. After HS we both went to our state school and I asked her to marry me junior year of undergrad.\n
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    Our situation now is this - I am currently enrolled at the aforementioned New England medical school, while Annie has decided to take an year off to strengthen her profile with research experience, physician shadowing etc. and is currently living with me. There were no jobs open related to her undergrad major (political science),here or in our home state, that would be able to give her sufficient time off for research, so she is currently working part time in the retail industry. I have tried my best to be completely supportive of her as I know that this is a difficult time for her, and I have never,ever said “I told you so” or ANYTHING along those lines.\n
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    This is what ended up happening on Friday night: I was home, studying for a test on Monday when annie came home from work. She came over to my desk and kissed me. I asked her how her day went and she didn’t respond, and suddenly looked VERY pissed off. After a few moments she said, “what the FUCK is wrong with you textbookthrowaway” while pointing at an anatomical diagram of a vagina in my textbook. I was speechless. After regaining my composure I managed to let out a surprised “what do you mean? I’m studying”, to which she said something along the lines of “You know what the fuck I mean, why the fuck are you looking at pictures of women’s vaginas?”. This was VERY strange because she knows I occasionally watch porn and has no problem with it, in fact I know that she enjoys porn from time to time as well. I explained to her that I have to take anatomy in medical school but she wasn’t having it. She took my textbook and stormed off to our bedroom and locked the door. I could hear her crying and I kept apologizing. After a few minutes she opened the door and threw her engagement ring at me before slamming it shut again to continue crying. I continued apologizing but she did not respond at all. I spent the rest of the night on the couch.\n
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    Saturday morning, she wasn’t home. I checked my phone and there was a text from her saying that she was staying with a friend and that she “was done” with us unless I dropped out of medical school and found another job because, and this is an honest to god text from her, “she doesn’t want me ogling at vaginas like a fucking pervert”. This is COMPLETELY out of character for her. She has always been level headed and reasonable, and has no history of mental illness or anything like that. I am not a stupid person and I know that this has way more to do than a picture of a fucking vagina in an anatomy textbook but I have no idea what to do right now. She has stopped responding to texts and won’t pick up her phone. I spoke to the friend she’s staying with who basically called me a fucking asshole and said that annie is crying and getting drunk, and that neither of them want me coming over to speak with her. Her parents passed when we were young children and she doesn’t have any siblings or much other family. I have no idea what to do anymore. I love her more than anything, but there is absolutely NO WAY I am dropping out of medical school for her, and I would rather we break up than I bend to her completely unreasonable demands, but I am very concerned for her mental health right now, and need any advice I can get.\n
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    TL;DR: Fiancee of 6 years saw a vagina in my textbook and now wants me to drop out of med school\n
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    I’m sorry for the grammar and formatting, i just cant think straight right now.\n
    \n
    I [22M] am in medical school and my fiancee [22F] freaked out after seeing a diagram of a vagina in my anatomy textbook. Together for 6 yrs. I don’t know what to do.[UPDATE]\n
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    update\n
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    I’ll save you the trouble: she wasn’t cheating nor was she pregnant.\n
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    Yesterday I decided that enough was enough and I headed over to where she was staying intent on ending the relationship. When I got there she was half drunk what followed was a LOT of screaming and cussing directed at me. I learned why she wanted me to drop out. It had nothing to do with textbook vaginas.\n
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    When I was a sophomore two of my friends dropped out of college to work on their tech startup full time, and invited me to come work with them ( my undergrad degree was in comp sci). I rejected the offer because I wanted to concentrate on my dream: becoming a doctor. Fortunately, their startup did very well and last year they sold it to a large tech company for a very large sum of money (in the low 8 figures). I was thrilled for them. After they sold the company, both of them obviously had large lifestyle changes. One of them proposed to his girlfriend with a ridiculously fucking big diamond, and they are frequently vacationing in exotic locations with family and SOs. Apparently, their success and lifestyles made my girlfriend extremely jealous, and she came up with the vagina thing as a way for me to drop out of med school, because she thinks that I can “easily get a job making 150k a year at a bank so we wouldnt have to live like fucking refugees” and that I am a “fucking idiot” for not doing so. Still I was confused. I asked her about our dreams of being doctors. Turns out she never really wanted to go into medicine but only claimed to because “it was all I ever talked about”. I guess that explains her application strategy.\n
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    I was done. I broke up with her on the spot and told her not to contact me again. She is going to continue staying with the friend while we figure out a living arrangement.\n
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    Reminder: I am not OP.
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    I am not OOP. This was originally posted by u/AmbigrammaticAir on r/Advice.\n
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    --\n
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    ORIGINAL POST - Dec 11, 2020\n
    \n
    My coworker recently lost his car–don’t know the details, probably broke down or something. He had to cancel his own wedding for his son’s funeral last weekend. He’s in a really shitty spot. I don’t think this guy is one of those “make someone feel sorry in order to take advantage of them” types so…\n
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    I have decided I’m going to do it but I have no idea HOW to do it. I want to preserve his dignity so I’m not going to make a big show of it, in fact, I really don’t like the fact that our coworkers will figure it out when they see him driving my car. I don’t feel like I’m doing it for self-aggrandizement, everything just happened to line up to where I can really help this guy. I’d have donated it to NPR because I wouldn’t get much in trade and don’t want to hassle with selling.\n
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    How do I even remotely handle this\n
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    --\n
    \n
    UPDATE added as an edit.\n
    \n
    So, I showed up right as he was walking across the lot to his truck to leave for the week. I ran up and was like, “hey! How you holding up?” He sighed heavily and said “I am getting through it because I must get through it.” I asked, “Have you come to a solution for your car problem?” And he sighed again and said, “Yes, the solution is that I must have one and can’t afford another.” We were about 20 yards away from employee parking and could see both my cars so I said, “Well, this weekend I bought that car (point at new car) and so now I would like you to have that one (point at old car).”\n
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    He was absolutely speechless, so I kinda started talking fast and was like “I couldn’t find the title–it’s in my closet somewhere–but I have all the necessary paperwork you need to bring to the Iowa DOT to transfer it into your name. I’ll pay for a replacement title if I can’t find it, and it’s overdue for an oil change so I’ll get that done this week while you’re out too. I’ll leave the keys on my desk so you have them if you get back after I leave on Friday.”\n
    \n
    I attempt to look in his eyes but his mask has fogged his glasses. I continue.\n
    \n
    “Yeah, they only offered me 98 dollars for the car and I didn’t think it was worth it and I didn’t really want to hassle with selling it online. Also I don’t have space at home to keep it, so I thought to myself, why not let [coworker] have it? So here we are.”\n
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    “So…would you take my car please?” I ask, by way of concluding the offer and requesting some kind of feedback.\n
    \n
    Immediately, he grabbed me around the shoulders and pulled me in for a long, strong hug. He is openly weeping into my hair now. He is saying something but my scarf is muffling his words, but I let him hang on until he decides to pull back. Finally he removed his glasses, and he looked me in the eyes and said, “You have changed my life with this gift. I cannot describe what you have given me.” So of course I started crying and we hugged again. Then, he said I must be freezing and I am to go into the office immediately, so I did. He sat out in his truck for a while before finally leaving for the week, and I feel content that he did not insist on haggling over money. Perhaps if he decides later to bring it up, I will entertain what he has to say, but for now I am well satisfied with how this turned out. Now I just have to find that damn title 😵\n
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    I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart to each and every one of you who read this and took the time to reply.\n
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    As it turns out, I was totally overthinking how this was going to go!\n
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    -–\n
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    I am not OOP. This was originally posted by u/AmbigrammaticAir on r/Advice.\n
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    --\n
    \n
    ORIGINAL POST - Dec 11, 2020\n
    \n
    My coworker recently lost his car–don’t know the details, probably broke down or something. He had to cancel his own wedding for his son’s funeral last weekend. He’s in a really shitty spot. I don’t think this guy is one of those “make someone feel sorry in order to take advantage of them” types so…\n
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    How do I even remotely handle this\n
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    --\n
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    UPDATE added as an edit.\n
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    So, I showed up right as he was walking across the lot to his truck to leave for the week. I ran up and was like, “hey! How you holding up?” He sighed heavily and said “I am getting through it because I must get through it.” I asked, “Have you come to a solution for your car problem?” And he sighed again and said, “Yes, the solution is that I must have one and can’t afford another.” We were about 20 yards away from employee parking and could see both my cars so I said, “Well, this weekend I bought that car (point at new car) and so now I would like you to have that one (point at old car).”\n
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    I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart to each and every one of you who read this and took the time to reply.\n
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    As it turns out, I was totally overthinking how this was going to go!\n
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    -–\n
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    Reminder: I am not OOP.
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    My coworker recently lost his car–don’t know the details, probably broke down or something. He had to cancel his own wedding for his son’s funeral last weekend. He’s in a really shitty spot. I don’t think this guy is one of those “make someone feel sorry in order to take advantage of them” types so…\n
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    I have decided I’m going to do it but I have no idea HOW to do it. I want to preserve his dignity so I’m not going to make a big show of it, in fact, I really don’t like the fact that our coworkers will figure it out when they see him driving my car. I don’t feel like I’m doing it for self-aggrandizement, everything just happened to line up to where I can really help this guy. I’d have donated it to NPR because I wouldn’t get much in trade and don’t want to hassle with selling.\n
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    How should I approach this? What is the most graceful way to give this to him, and refuse payment if he offers it, and not let it be weird? I mean, I know I can only control my side of things but if there are some things I can say or do that would make it easier I’d appreciate some insight.\n
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    In my mind, I was thinking of inviting him into an empty office and just being like look dude. I want you to have this. But then… what? What if I offend him? What if he refuses to take it and continues to Uber into work? What if he gets weird afterwards? My boyfriend said I should offer to sell it to him for a super-low price so it doesn’t feel like charity, but I feel kinda tacky being like “hey I know you have all this shit going on but if you give me 500 bucks I’ll give you my car”? Nah that won’t work for me. Maybe I could offer to sell but be super insistent that I will NEVER ask him when he will pay me and he can get it back to me whenever he wants, 5 bucks at a time if he needs to but really I am not trying to make money off this. I just want to help my colleague. He’s kind, warm, and hard-working and he’s dealing with a bunch of shit. A big steaming shit pile. I can’t sit here KNOWING I can help him and just …shake him down or do nothing.\n
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    --\n
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    UPDATE added as an edit.\n
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    So, I showed up right as he was walking across the lot to his truck to leave for the week. I ran up and was like, “hey! How you holding up?” He sighed heavily and said “I am getting through it because I must get through it.” I asked, “Have you come to a solution for your car problem?” And he sighed again and said, “Yes, the solution is that I must have one and can’t afford another.” We were about 20 yards away from employee parking and could see both my cars so I said, “Well, this weekend I bought that car (point at new car) and so now I would like you to have that one (point at old car).”\n
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    I attempt to look in his eyes but his mask has fogged his glasses. I continue.\n
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    “Yeah, they only offered me 98 dollars for the car and I didn’t think it was worth it and I didn’t really want to hassle with selling it online. Also I don’t have space at home to keep it, so I thought to myself, why not let [coworker] have it? So here we are.”\n
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    He has begun shaking. It’s 15 degrees so I am getting pretty cold at this point and I start hopping a little.\n
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    “So…would you take my car please?” I ask, by way of concluding the offer and requesting some kind of feedback.\n
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    Immediately, he grabbed me around the shoulders and pulled me in for a long, strong hug. He is openly weeping into my hair now. He is saying something but my scarf is muffling his words, but I let him hang on until he decides to pull back. Finally he removed his glasses, and he looked me in the eyes and said, “You have changed my life with this gift. I cannot describe what you have given me.” So of course I started crying and we hugged again. Then, he said I must be freezing and I am to go into the office immediately, so I did. He sat out in his truck for a while before finally leaving for the week, and I feel content that he did not insist on haggling over money. Perhaps if he decides later to bring it up, I will entertain what he has to say, but for now I am well satisfied with how this turned out. Now I just have to find that damn title 😵\n
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    I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart to each and every one of you who read this and took the time to reply.\n
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    As it turns out, I was totally overthinking how this was going to go!\n
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    -–\n
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    Reminder: I am not OOP.
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    My parents got married when they were super young. My dad knocked up my mom, and their parents married them off. My grandfather was able to set up some business for my dad in a big city, and they moved here soon after my birth.\n
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    It’s been constant fights the last few weeks. My dad keeps starting fights by making snide remarks about my mom’s clothing or appearance. He almost even called my mom a whore but stopped himself. I think “open marriage” finally sunk in. My mom told me he tried to have a conversation about stopping their “open marriage” but she immediately shot it down. I think they’ll split up.\n
    \n
    My dad was never there for either of us but the thought of my parents splitting up still feels weird. I don’t feel bad for my dad but I wish he put effort into his family. I’m happy for my mom though.\n
    \n
    Update: (18 April, 2022)\n
    \n
    A few days after my previous post, my dad left our home and had a divorce served to mom in a week. My grandparents didn’t know about any of this, but my dad told them when he served the divorce. He also implied to them that my mom was cheating on him. Both sets of grandparents came to our home and started berating my mom. I kept screenshots of all my parents’ communications, and my mom showed them to them and it got way worse after that. Grandparents started fighting each other blaming each other’s children for causing all this.\n
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    Reminder: I am NOT OP. OP is u/ThrowAway_chosen on r/TrueOffMyChest.
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    I am NOT OP. Post by u/ThrowAway_chosen on r/TrueOffMyChest.\n
    \n
    My dad is furious that my mom slept with other people in an open marriage he wanted.\n
    \n
    My parents got married when they were super young. My dad knocked up my mom, and their parents married them off. My grandfather was able to set up some business for my dad in a big city, and they moved here soon after my birth.\n
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    My mom grew up in a conservative southern town where she was taught to be a submissive wife. And even after moving to the big city, she didn’t spend much time socializing. She had no friends and never went out. My dad was only there to provide for us. He was always away on business, and he wasn’t there as a husband for my mom or as a father to me.\n
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    My dad made a lot of money, so we never lacked anything. Growing up, I became my mom’s best friend. We would talk about everything. I pushed her to make friends and to find hobbies. After years of pushing, she started going to a nearby park and made her first friend, a gym trainer. Encouraged by her friend and me, she decided to join the gym.\n
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    She met a few more people there and started having some semblance of a social life, but she still continued to tell me everything.\n
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    I think my dad’s new secretary gave him the idea, but he asked my mom for an “open marriage” almost a year ago. He told her he wasn’t happy in their marriage and that she wasn’t providing him with everything he wanted. My mom, who is a “christian wife”, was mortified and told me about the proposal in tears. I suggested she get a divorce, but she said she didn’t believe in it and she wouldn’t be the one to end their marriage.\n
    \n
    As my dad pushed, I knew exactly where this would end up if my mom agreed. Her friend and I convinced her. My mom was hesitant at first, but she agreed with the condition that they would be completely transparent with each other.\n
    \n
    My dad was a middle aged (41) man with a belly and my mom (39) was an athletic woman who worked out regularly. I’m a 22 yo woman btw. I don’t know how my dad was so blind or what he thought would happen. I helped create online dating profiles for my mom almost six months ago. After getting an insane number of matches, choosing from them and chatting with them for months, my mom started hooking up with a few people. Getting all this attention has provided a massive boost to her confidence and she seems better.\n
    \n
    My dad hooked up with his secretary almost immediately. He’s had very little luck with other ladies. With their transparency thing, my mom tells him about all her hook ups. A few weeks ago, my dad screamed at my mom for some minor thing. Usually, my mom would’ve apologised but with her new confidence, she didn’t back down.\n
    \n
    It’s been constant fights the last few weeks. My dad keeps starting fights by making snide remarks about my mom’s clothing or appearance. He almost even called my mom a whore but stopped himself. I think “open marriage” finally sunk in. My mom told me he tried to have a conversation about stopping their “open marriage” but she immediately shot it down. I think they’ll split up.\n
    \n
    My dad was never there for either of us but the thought of my parents splitting up still feels weird. I don’t feel bad for my dad but I wish he put effort into his family. I’m happy for my mom though.\n
    \n
    Update: (18 April, 2022)\n
    \n
    A few days after my previous post, my dad left our home and had a divorce served to mom in a week. My grandparents didn’t know about any of this, but my dad told them when he served the divorce. He also implied to them that my mom was cheating on him. Both sets of grandparents came to our home and started berating my mom. I kept screenshots of all my parents’ communications, and my mom showed them to them and it got way worse after that. Grandparents started fighting each other blaming each other’s children for causing all this.\n
    \n
    A few days after this, my mom’s old “church friends” came to our home. Back when my mom used to go to church, they used to look down on her for being from a small town. My mom has always been a very caring and non-judgemental person, so she disagreed with their bigotry and they began excluding her from their activities. After she met her gym friends, my mom stopped going to church entirely. These “church friends” started calling my mom a slut and she kicked them out.\n
    \n
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    \n
    Turns out, the business my dad is running is owned by mom. It was set up by my mom’s dad in her name, so it belongs to her. I did not know this until now and assumed that my dad owned it. The whole situation is a huge mess right now. Dad is living in some hotel and my grandparents left yesterday after a week of fighting and trying to force my parents back together. I know there’s a lot more divorce drama to come but I hope it calms down for now.\n
    \n
    Reminder: I am NOT OP. OP is u/ThrowAway_chosen on r/TrueOffMyChest.
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    I am NOT OP. Post by u/ThrowAway_chosen on r/TrueOffMyChest.\n
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    My dad is furious that my mom slept with other people in an open marriage he wanted.\n
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    My parents got married when they were super young. My dad knocked up my mom, and their parents married them off. My grandfather was able to set up some business for my dad in a big city, and they moved here soon after my birth.\n
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    My dad made a lot of money, so we never lacked anything. Growing up, I became my mom’s best friend. We would talk about everything. I pushed her to make friends and to find hobbies. After years of pushing, she started going to a nearby park and made her first friend, a gym trainer. Encouraged by her friend and me, she decided to join the gym.\n
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    I think my dad’s new secretary gave him the idea, but he asked my mom for an “open marriage” almost a year ago. He told her he wasn’t happy in their marriage and that she wasn’t providing him with everything he wanted. My mom, who is a “christian wife”, was mortified and told me about the proposal in tears. I suggested she get a divorce, but she said she didn’t believe in it and she wouldn’t be the one to end their marriage.\n
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    As my dad pushed, I knew exactly where this would end up if my mom agreed. Her friend and I convinced her. My mom was hesitant at first, but she agreed with the condition that they would be completely transparent with each other.\n
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    My dad hooked up with his secretary almost immediately. He’s had very little luck with other ladies. With their transparency thing, my mom tells him about all her hook ups. A few weeks ago, my dad screamed at my mom for some minor thing. Usually, my mom would’ve apologised but with her new confidence, she didn’t back down.\n
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    It’s been constant fights the last few weeks. My dad keeps starting fights by making snide remarks about my mom’s clothing or appearance. He almost even called my mom a whore but stopped himself. I think “open marriage” finally sunk in. My mom told me he tried to have a conversation about stopping their “open marriage” but she immediately shot it down. I think they’ll split up.\n
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    My dad was never there for either of us but the thought of my parents splitting up still feels weird. I don’t feel bad for my dad but I wish he put effort into his family. I’m happy for my mom though.\n
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    Update: (18 April, 2022)\n
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    A few days after my previous post, my dad left our home and had a divorce served to mom in a week. My grandparents didn’t know about any of this, but my dad told them when he served the divorce. He also implied to them that my mom was cheating on him. Both sets of grandparents came to our home and started berating my mom. I kept screenshots of all my parents’ communications, and my mom showed them to them and it got way worse after that. Grandparents started fighting each other blaming each other’s children for causing all this.\n
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    A few days after this, my mom’s old “church friends” came to our home. Back when my mom used to go to church, they used to look down on her for being from a small town. My mom has always been a very caring and non-judgemental person, so she disagreed with their bigotry and they began excluding her from their activities. After she met her gym friends, my mom stopped going to church entirely. These “church friends” started calling my mom a slut and she kicked them out.\n
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    My mom is on a cut right now, so she has very defined abs and arms. So along with all the normal stuff getting thrown at her, my grandparents accused her of having a “man body” and she also had a lot of random transphobia thrown at her. Her trainer friend has been a great support through all this. She contacted the attorney she used for her divorce and my mom is spending a lot of time at her house.\n
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    Turns out, the business my dad is running is owned by mom. It was set up by my mom’s dad in her name, so it belongs to her. I did not know this until now and assumed that my dad owned it. The whole situation is a huge mess right now. Dad is living in some hotel and my grandparents left yesterday after a week of fighting and trying to force my parents back together. I know there’s a lot more divorce drama to come but I hope it calms down for now.\n
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    Reminder: I am NOT OP. OP is u/ThrowAway_chosen on r/TrueOffMyChest.
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    I am NOT OP. Original post by u/BabyHooey in r/parenting\n
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    Four kids, 10-16.\n
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    I used to love cooking, and I’m good at it (according to objective others, not just myself).\n
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    Kids have become so picky that there are literally no meals left that I can make without someone complaining. Spaghetti? I make my sauce with Italian sausage and one kid has decided she hates fennel. One kid has Celiac, which rules out wheat (obviously not her fault) so that makes it harder. One kid hates cheese, which rules out a lot of things. One kid hates chicken. We were safe for a while with tacos until one kid decided she was never eating tacos again.\n
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    If it looks like we’re going to encounter nutritional deficiencies, I guess we’ll address that as it comes up, but so far I’m pleased with the results of Night One.\n
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    Will post future updates if anyone’s interested.\n
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    Update (by request): I retired from cooking - Dec 30 2018 - 4 weeks later\n
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    I don’t know how to link my original post, but people there are requesting updates.\n
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    Short version of original story: Kids (teens and preteens) had turned into picky little shits and complained about every meal I cooked, so I announced I was retiring from cooking for the family.\n
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    The update:\n
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    For about two weeks, everyone lived off of sandwiches and cereal. At about that point, I started cooking for myself and my wife only, things that we like to eat and cook.\n
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    Eventually, one kid said, “That smells really good, can I have some?” I said that I only made enough for the two of us, but if they’d like some of tomorrow’s dinner, let me know and I can make extra. I was expecting “what’s tomorrow’s dinner” but instead I got, “yes, please, anything’s better than more sandwiches.”\n
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    So the retirement didn’t last long, but the temporary strike seems to have solved the problem that led to my premature retirement, so I’m good with it.\n
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    Reminder: I am NOT OP. Original post by u/BabyHooey in r/parenting on Reddit.
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    I am NOT OP. Original post by u/BabyHooey in r/parenting\n
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    I just retired from cooking: Night One - Nov 26 2018\n
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    Four kids, 10-16.\n
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    Kids have become so picky that there are literally no meals left that I can make without someone complaining. Spaghetti? I make my sauce with Italian sausage and one kid has decided she hates fennel. One kid has Celiac, which rules out wheat (obviously not her fault) so that makes it harder. One kid hates cheese, which rules out a lot of things. One kid hates chicken. We were safe for a while with tacos until one kid decided she was never eating tacos again.\n
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    If it looks like we’re going to encounter nutritional deficiencies, I guess we’ll address that as it comes up, but so far I’m pleased with the results of Night One.\n
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    Will post future updates if anyone’s interested.\n
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    I don’t know how to link my original post, but people there are requesting updates.\n
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    I am NOT OP. Original post by u/BabyHooey in r/parenting\n
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    I just retired from cooking: Night One - Nov 26 2018\n
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    Four kids, 10-16.\n
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    I used to love cooking, and I’m good at it (according to objective others, not just myself).\n
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    Kids have become so picky that there are literally no meals left that I can make without someone complaining. Spaghetti? I make my sauce with Italian sausage and one kid has decided she hates fennel. One kid has Celiac, which rules out wheat (obviously not her fault) so that makes it harder. One kid hates cheese, which rules out a lot of things. One kid hates chicken. We were safe for a while with tacos until one kid decided she was never eating tacos again.\n
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    Update (by request): I retired from cooking - Dec 30 2018 - 4 weeks later\n
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    I don’t know how to link my original post, but people there are requesting updates.\n
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    Reminder: I am NOT OP. Original post by u/BabyHooey in r/parenting on Reddit.
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    I am NOT OP. Original post by u/jimothyisyouruncle in r/amitheasshole\n
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    AITA For suing my girlfriend after she had my 1967 impala project taken to the scrapyard? - 27 May 2020\n
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    I’ll try to keep this short. I had a 1967 Impala 4 door that I bought in Feb 2019. A couple months ago I bought my first house that had a 2.5 car garage. I moved the car in and started tearing it down for a complete restoration. I had the body in one bay and the chassis in another, plus the whole garage filled with parts.\n
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    Verdict: NTA\n
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    Edit:\n
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    Thank you all so much for the support and awards and everything. I’m glad I have some people on my side. I got a call from her mom about 20 minutes ago and she told me that i was ruining her daughter’s life over a stupid car. I told her she ruined her own life. I’ve been gathering documentation and stuff and I’m about to head down to the police station and file a report, as suggested by lots here. Once again thank you all\n
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    went to the police station last night, was told to come back in the morning. just got back and filed an official report against her for grand larceny and grand theft auto. i showed them all the receipts i had for the car and the footage of her letting the guys come and take it as well as the title for the vehicle in my name. they said they will be in contact with all 3 parties (me, ex gf, and junkyard guys) soon and they will hopefully be able to recover some or all of the car. just have to wait now\n
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    HUGE UPDATE: THEY FOUND MY GODDAMN CAR!!\n
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    the junkyard guys apparently were in the middle of hiding it when the police came to ask them questions. it was on a forklift and they were gonna put it on top of a pile of cars that was hidden behind more piles of cars. they said it was theirs and they had the title, but obviously didnt have the title for it and since they matched the vin on the chassis and body to the vin on my title, it was obviously mine.\n
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    I know at least one person there has been arrested, i think he was in the camera footage i talked about earlier but idk if it was the boss or whomever or even his specific charge, they also told me they would be looking into this specific junkyard for any other vehicles reported stolen. they said they haven’t been able to get in contact with my ex just yet but they’re working on it. im just so glad they found my car.\n
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    luckily i made quite an album of pictures detailing me tearing down the car and so i can use that to prove what parts they had were mine so i can hopefully get most or all of it back. police haven’t let me take it back home yet as they say it is evidence or something so hopefully i can get it back eventually. thank you all so much for the support and advice! SHES GONNA BE ALRIGHT\n
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    Reminder - I am not the original poster. Original post by u/jimothyisyouruncle in r/amitheasshole on Reddit.
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    I am NOT OP. Original post by u/jimothyisyouruncle in r/amitheasshole\n
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    AITA For suing my girlfriend after she had my 1967 impala project taken to the scrapyard? - 27 May 2020\n
    \n
    I’ll try to keep this short. I had a 1967 Impala 4 door that I bought in Feb 2019. A couple months ago I bought my first house that had a 2.5 car garage. I moved the car in and started tearing it down for a complete restoration. I had the body in one bay and the chassis in another, plus the whole garage filled with parts.\n
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    Her family and friends are absolutely blowing me up saying its just a stupid old piece of junk and that she cannot pay back all that money I spent, and that I should just let it go. But I have been putting all my time, effort, and money into that car for a year and a half now and goddammit if I am not going to get justice for what she did. AITA\n
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    Verdict: NTA\n
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    Edit:\n
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    Thank you all so much for the support and awards and everything. I’m glad I have some people on my side. I got a call from her mom about 20 minutes ago and she told me that i was ruining her daughter’s life over a stupid car. I told her she ruined her own life. I’ve been gathering documentation and stuff and I’m about to head down to the police station and file a report, as suggested by lots here. Once again thank you all\n
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    UPDATE:\n
    \n
    went to the police station last night, was told to come back in the morning. just got back and filed an official report against her for grand larceny and grand theft auto. i showed them all the receipts i had for the car and the footage of her letting the guys come and take it as well as the title for the vehicle in my name. they said they will be in contact with all 3 parties (me, ex gf, and junkyard guys) soon and they will hopefully be able to recover some or all of the car. just have to wait now\n
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    HUGE UPDATE: THEY FOUND MY GODDAMN CAR!!\n
    \n
    the junkyard guys apparently were in the middle of hiding it when the police came to ask them questions. it was on a forklift and they were gonna put it on top of a pile of cars that was hidden behind more piles of cars. they said it was theirs and they had the title, but obviously didnt have the title for it and since they matched the vin on the chassis and body to the vin on my title, it was obviously mine.\n
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    I know at least one person there has been arrested, i think he was in the camera footage i talked about earlier but idk if it was the boss or whomever or even his specific charge, they also told me they would be looking into this specific junkyard for any other vehicles reported stolen. they said they haven’t been able to get in contact with my ex just yet but they’re working on it. im just so glad they found my car.\n
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    luckily i made quite an album of pictures detailing me tearing down the car and so i can use that to prove what parts they had were mine so i can hopefully get most or all of it back. police haven’t let me take it back home yet as they say it is evidence or something so hopefully i can get it back eventually. thank you all so much for the support and advice! SHES GONNA BE ALRIGHT\n
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    Reminder - I am not the original poster. Original post by u/jimothyisyouruncle in r/amitheasshole on Reddit.
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    I am NOT OP. Original post by u/jimothyisyouruncle in r/amitheasshole\n
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    AITA For suing my girlfriend after she had my 1967 impala project taken to the scrapyard? - 27 May 2020\n
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    Thank you all so much for the support and awards and everything. I’m glad I have some people on my side. I got a call from her mom about 20 minutes ago and she told me that i was ruining her daughter’s life over a stupid car. I told her she ruined her own life. I’ve been gathering documentation and stuff and I’m about to head down to the police station and file a report, as suggested by lots here. Once again thank you all\n
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    went to the police station last night, was told to come back in the morning. just got back and filed an official report against her for grand larceny and grand theft auto. i showed them all the receipts i had for the car and the footage of her letting the guys come and take it as well as the title for the vehicle in my name. they said they will be in contact with all 3 parties (me, ex gf, and junkyard guys) soon and they will hopefully be able to recover some or all of the car. just have to wait now\n
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    HUGE UPDATE: THEY FOUND MY GODDAMN CAR!!\n
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    My bio parents put me (15m) up for adoption when I was born so I was always in foster homes until I was twelve. I had a teacher Janice (33f) who was my home room teacher.\n
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    Janice found out about me being a foster kid and how I wished I had a family. Janice had also been a foster kid growing up and so long story short she then became my foster mom and adopted me.\n
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    Janice is the best mom I could have ever asked for. She has been so unbelievably kind and loving to me and I absolutely adore her. The problem is that I don’t call her mom, I just call her Janice. I want to start calling her mom but have no idea how to without making it awkward. Please help me internet strangers.\n
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    Update:\n
    \n
    So…… was not expecting this big of a response. Thank all of you for responding and some of the ideas made me really tear up. Anyways this morning I went to Janice and I said “good morning mom” she just looked at me and started crying then came over and hugged me and kissed my forehead. I hugged her back and she said I could call her whatever made me comfortable and that she loves me more than anything. I just replied with “I love you mom”.\n
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    So yeah hope this update makes someone’s day because it certainly made mine. Have a great day.\n
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    Also made a typo I’m 15 not 16 lol\n
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     Reminder - I am not the original poster. Original post by u/liberalfilmnerd76 in r/advice On Reddit.
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