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SwingingTheLamp, in What is the most unhelpful advice you have received?

On dating and relationships: “Just be confident.”

It’s not wrong, but spectacularly unhelpful. I mean, a brain surgeon has to be confident to go cutting into somebody’s head, but clearly that’s not enough, right? Confidence as a romantically-attractive quality is a very particular (and peculiar) performance. Going to a party 110% certain of one’s own value, sitting in a corner with a confident set of one’s jaw, and silently waiting for the ladies to form a queue is…

…sufficient, apparently, because you just to be confident.

dhruv,

I think they might have meant confidence in the sense to go out and try things you’d normally be shy to do. But that’s only how I’d interpret it.

Lettuceeatlettuce, in What is the most unhelpful advice you have received?
@Lettuceeatlettuce@lemmy.ml avatar

“You just have to work through the pain.” I’ve injured myself multiple times in the past exercising by following this idiotic advice.

It’s one thing to push through discomfort, that’s how your body gets stronger. But If you’re in actual pain, stop and listen to the alarm bells your body is giving you.

elboyoloco, in Those who tried Linux and went back to Windows, what caused you to go back to Windows?
@elboyoloco@lemmy.world avatar

I have to have a computer science degree to install a peice of software… I just wanna double click the installer icon. I don’t want to have to write out some long String in terminal to install software. And sometimes it’s different depending on distro.

OverfedRaccoon,
@OverfedRaccoon@lemmy.world avatar

Most major distributions come with a software center of some kind. And with Flatpaks, AppImages, and gag Snaps, it pretty much is just click and install these days.

ElusiveClarity,

What’s wrong with snaps? I’m giving Linux another go so I’m still learning. I’m trying Ubuntu on an ancient iMac right now but I also have Pop!_OS in a vm on my windows pc to play with. I haven’t installed anything on pop but I noticed Ubuntu had snaps.

OverfedRaccoon,
@OverfedRaccoon@lemmy.world avatar

Snaps are proprietary to Canonical (Ubuntu). Historically, they were larger, slower to load, and generally slower overall to use With a good SSD and system, I’m not sure that’s the case anymore though.

ElusiveClarity,

Ohh. Thanks for that info. Proprietary stuff and forced ads are two of the biggest things pushing me away from windows right now so that’s good to know.

eltimablo,

There have been "app store" frontends for most distributions since at least 2012, and packagekit has the same CLI on every major distribution.

Rodeo,

Everyone in this thread saying shit like that hasn’t tried Linux since 2004

Hypnoctopus,
@Hypnoctopus@lemmy.ml avatar

"I don’t want to have to write out some long String in terminal to install software. "

I’m no expert, but isn’t it literally just apt get (name of software) to download and install through terminal?

railsdev,

Am I wrong or is it easier to install software on Linux? The package manager basically figures out everything for you and you don’t need to hunt for an exe all over the Internet.

Linssiili,

It is much easier, os long as that version is in main repo. If not, it can still be easy (run this one extra command), or you are gonna pull your hair out trying to figure out how to install some antique proprietary software on fedora, using an installing guide made for Ubuntu 16.04. :)

Fortunately VMs are fast to set-up.

eltimablo,

I wouldn't force the issue. Some people belong on Windows and I'd rather they don't use Linux simply because I don't want them complaining to developers that it doesn't act like Windows. Linus Tech Tips already caused enough damage by doing exactly that.

200cc,

I have to have a computer science degree to install a peice of software

No you don't, you can search on wikipedia what a computer science degree actually is.

elboyoloco,
@elboyoloco@lemmy.world avatar

I feel like it’s pretty obvious I was exaggerating. There’s just extra steps that I’ve always had to take. It’s never been simple for me. A lot of terminal commands in not familiar with.

daFRAKKINpope, in People who work in food service or customer service: What’s the dumbest thing a customer ever insisted was “the law” or “illegal”?

“Actually, in the terms of service you signed with DirecTV, your NFL Sunday Ticket was set to auto renew after the first free year.

Also.

We’ve billed you for it for two months, and is now past the point where we can remove it. You have 5 additional payments.

This is in fact also not illegal apparently. Since it’s in the terms of service.

If you’d like to sue DirecTV please have your lawyer contact our TEAM of lawyers and we’ll be happy to address it.”

Worked that soul sucking job for five long years while going to college. Sucked.

JackbyDev,

Could be a UDAAP violation if they didn’t know what they were signing up for.

gammasfor,

Whilst I don’t follow US law, quick Google suggests one of the conditions is “the injury is not readily avoidable by consumers”. In other words the business isn’t liable for the customer not reading the documents they signed up to.

JackbyDev,

It’s not always so simple. I’m in Fintech so have to take the UDAAP course every year or so and the law is more consumer friendly than you’d expect, at least for the US. The deceptive bit is probably the most relevant. If the person signing them up for it told them “you won’t be charged” but failed to mention that they would be charged later that is an example of a deceptive practice.

DealbreakrJones,

I work collections at a bank. The only thing UDAAP doesn’t protect consumers against is their inability to read their account terms and their sense of entitlement.

whileloop, in Whaf do you think of hosting an AMA with John Oliver to make Lemmy/kbin officially a viable Reddit replacement?
@whileloop@lemmy.world avatar

He absolutely would be a great pick. And I suspect he would be interested. What I wonder is: how much would it grow Lemmy and the Fediverse? Impossible to tell, but even if it's only a small gain, I think it would be worth trying.

nieceandtows,

I think it would be a definite boost to the fediverse, because a major talking point I see in reddit discussions is that there is no viable alternative to reddit, so people are going to stay no matter what. This event would put a big spotlight on lemmy, and if it goes well, will result in a lot of regular users from reddit.

whileloop,
@whileloop@lemmy.world avatar

Reddit has long been known for its userbase being capable of surprisingly big things. Getting John Oliver to AMA here might show that Lemmy is capable of the same thing.

CanadaPlus,

Maybe some time later in July when that surge has passed.

Magrid, in why do people make nonsense posts with the jerboa logo
@Magrid@lemm.ee avatar

that logo appear when the app can't load the image

bionicjoey,

Also while the image is loading

MacroCyclo,

Makes for a dope meme though

ShadedCosmos, in How far from a forest fire do you have to be for a daily temperature record to count?
@ShadedCosmos@lemmy.world avatar

Approximately two

Lawyerator,

Shit, I knew it!

flipthetube,

Formula: 2 away + 3 pollutions = counts

fictitiousexistence,

This is the correct answer.

The dividing line is 2. You must be 2 away from a big fire.

Yes. 2 is it.

BlackPenguins,

Don’t forget the number of pollutions is also a factor.

3 pollutions to be exact.

housepanther, in How can I back up a community I mod?
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I’ll upvote it with the hopes of seeing an answer from the devs. This could be a very important/useful feature.

Teon, in Should an altruistic organ donor be allowed to restrict their donation to a specific group of people? (e.g. women, gingers)
@Teon@kbin.social avatar

You're donating an organ, or you're not.
This ain't fuckin' Burger King. You can't have it your way!

asphaltkooky,

It would’ve made more sense if you were talking about organ receiver. I should have a say in not giving my organs to oil tycoons.

Deez,

I disagree with you, but gave you an upvote for sharing your opinion.

HeartyBeast, in What movie did you rewatch most often?
@HeartyBeast@kbin.social avatar

I can’t not rewatch Hot Fuzz whenever it’s on telly

ghashul,

Hot Fuzz is my answer too, but never on the telly. I saw it several times in the theater and bought the dvd immediately upon release.

fearout,
@fearout@kbin.social avatar

For the greater good!

OrkneyKomodo,
@OrkneyKomodo@lemmy.sdf.org avatar

The greater good.

ElCabron,

Shut it!

Hextic,

I swear this movie is the perfect example of a master class of editing and timing. It needs to be studied.

foofiepie, in What is the most unhelpful advice you have received?

Just be yourself.

Oh yeah ok. Thanks. That fixes everything.

axolittl,

I envy the people who can be themselves at work without losing their job the same day. But only a bit, because it looks incredibly boring.

Therevev,

Find a trade. If you’re good at what you do, it really doesn’t matter how wierd or fucked up you are. You can even get in full-on arguments with your boss that get forgotten about once everyone calms down.

Kalkaline,
@Kalkaline@lemmy.one avatar

I’m an asshole if I don’t put my filters on, no one would like me.

soot_guy,

Lost out on a good job opportunity with this one. I was going to do some interview prep and someone just told me to, “be yourself, they just want to get to know you.” Yeah bullshit… didn’t get that gig and did interview prep for a different opportunity. It went incredibly well the second time around.

Therevev,

As long-term career advice, I think this is helpful In finding something that doesn’t drag you down. If you can’t be yourself at work it’s going to be far more taxing.

But I absolutely understand this is a luxury to be able to be in that position of being choosy about your employer.

You’ll be far happier in an environment that enjoys you for being you, but you’ll find a job quicker by saying what they want to hear

HRYDJPCHNMNDGBLTFIYA, (edited )

As if you are not already yourself!

I like to think what people really mean when they say that is “be your best self”, but that’s still not very helpful.

techgearwhips, in Those who tried Linux and went back to Windows, what caused you to go back to Windows?

Shit never works and I basically have to become a programmer and expert in CLI to get shit to work… until it breaks again. So after having to Google everything on how to do supposedly simple shit, I always end up going back to Windows and GUI’s because I don’t have time to become a developer.

Wander, in Whaf do you think of hosting an AMA with John Oliver to make Lemmy/kbin officially a viable Reddit replacement?
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I'd be more inclined to reach out to Louis Rossmann, especially since he's said he won't post on reddit anymore. Maybe we can even find a home on lemmy for his right to repair campaign.

dragnucs,

Him too is a good candidate for an AMA.

nieceandtows,

He’s a good candidate too, but to me, John Oliver has come to be associated with Reddit revolts in the media, because he was flooding the front page for a while. Even major news outlets wrote about it. If he does an ama here, it would symbolically show that those people have moved on to Lemmy.

randombit,

Why not both?

PorkrollPosadist, in How do pre-reddit influx lemmy members feel?
@PorkrollPosadist@lemmy.ml avatar

Generally positive, with caveats. Lemmy’s early adopters were driven by an understanding that Reddit was not a viable platform for self organization, free discussion and association. We knew this day would eventually come.

The current wave of bans and hostile takeovers occurring on Reddit is nothing new for the radicals. We watched them suppress the Blue Leaks, we watched them shut down r/CTH in the middle of the George Floyd uprising, we watched them coup r/PresidentialRaceMemes, we watched them purge r/GenZhou, a community focused specifically on revolutionary theory.

Reddit has demonstrated time and time again that it is happy to serve as an instrument of counterinsurgency. This comes as no surprise, with an Atlantic Council alum heading their content moderation policy.

As one of the most astroturfed social media platforms on the Internet, Redditors bring a lot of those problems here. They tend to behave like they are the smartest people in the room, just because there are a lot of them. They like calling other websites echo chambers, when they hail from the biggest echo chamber on the English speaking net. The conspiracies I’ve seen them spread about the Lemmy devs and contributors have been absolutely wild.

I think time will heal most of them.

phil299,

I have seen the conspiracies posts as well but assumed they were just reddit shill accounts spreading disinformation, no one I know has taken them seriously. It is interesting to see this point of view, especially the "this day would come" bit, for me I sort of knew something was wrong , but it is like your local pub slowly being taken over, you do not want it to be true so you ignore stuff you should not.

rainfern,

Read for yourself what he writes on his website. It's pretty grim shit. https://github.com/dessalines/essays/blob/master/socialism_faq.md#did-mao-kill-millions-of-people

phil299,

Those do not appear to be written by him, but will do some more digging. However open exchange of views is wise in my opinion even if they are those I personally do not agree with. Edit Rightly ho, although I clearly have not read all the material on display (openly public btw) it is obviously the repository of someone who is willing to explore the far left politically , but the essays that might be by him(some are not accredited) are not on the subjects you mentioned, those are accredited to others. Now this dev might or might not agree with this stuff, they might be a politics student I can not say but I doubt anyone has asked. I am not sure it is particularly relevant in this thread anyway.

rainfern,

See my response to the other person.

phil299,

I have read the responces , and I applaud the general tone of both sides of the discussion. I have to just say that without view exchange , and expressly with view suppression , those who feel suppressed become even more intrenched. I for one learned from the debate.

Widget,

about the Lemmy devs

I mean, the devs haven't made it a secret about how they fully believe Chinese nationalist propaganda.

Not that it really matters though, since if any issues did come up, Lemmy itself would be forked with new devs "in charge" even if the original devs still continued most of the work. The lemmy.ml instance itself would be a different issue, though.

rainfern,

Conspiracy? One of the devs has a website where he literally openly denies the Uyghur genocide, Tiananmen square massacre, "Mao did nothing wrong", "Ukrainians are Nazis", denies every single critique of USSR and China, and a whole lot of other vile shit. Read for yourself: https://github.com/dessalines/essays/blob/master/socialism_faq.md#did-mao-kill-millions-of-people

This is the real test of the fediverse. Can software written by a piece of shit like that exist without being influenced by their garbage political views?

I think it's possible and I like Lemmy to thrive but it's important to keep an eye out for tankies and to not close your eyes to the reality of who started this.

Dempf,

I wish someone could explain to me how this wumao BS has gained any traction at all.

PorkrollPosadist,
@PorkrollPosadist@lemmy.ml avatar

wumao

My point exactly. Nobody can possibly disagree with US State Department line unless they are getting paid. Typical Reddit conspiracy thinking.

tikitaki,
@tikitaki@kbin.social avatar

Can software written by a piece of shit like that

someone isn't a piece of shit because they hold different opinions than your own. it's OK to post articles even if you don't believe everything in them. I glanced through one of the articles about the death tolls under Mao - https://mronline.org/2006/09/21/did-mao-really-kill-millions-in-the-great-leap-forward/

The guy goes through analysis, cites sources, and makes an argument that the death toll is inflated due to Western propaganda.

Is that really such a piece of shit opinion? Wrong or right, I don't think the author did anything wrong nor the dev by putting it in some sort of compilation. People are allowed to disagree on controversial topics.

Remember Noam Chomsky? He got so much hate back in the day when he defended someone's right to be a holocaust denier. It's as if you are not allowed to critically think about certain topics.

For example the Ukraine nazis thing. Ukrainians are not Nazis - but the Ukrainian military did official incorporate a neo-nazi paramilitary group. Just saying that is grounds for someone to claim you're a Russian shill. I really wish people were more open minded and rational in discussion.

If you believe someone is wrong, explain why you think so instead of just attacking them like you are doing here.

PorkrollPosadist,
@PorkrollPosadist@lemmy.ml avatar

Noam Chomsky is generally pretty smart, but he has some blinders. I am actually shocked to hear he would entertain this, as a Jew who was in his teenage years during the Holocaust. Was he doing the bone-headed ACLU “Even Nazis deserve the right to free speech” thing? If this is his position, I actually disagree with him.

The thing about the Holocaust is that there is a rigorous consensus that it took place, and that it was the worst atrocity in modern history. This is supported by anthropological evidence (the physical sites and artifacts where the exterminations took place), meticulous records recorded both by the perpetrators and the victims, the oral history of its survivors and their offspring. There are many well known people alive today who can name relatives who perished in the Shoah (Bernie Sanders and Norman Finkelstein, off the top of my head). My father met Eli Wiesel personally when he was in the hospital receiving medical treatment.

This is a very different case from the kind of academically discredited lies we see originating from the “Black Book of Communism,” which starts out by counting all the Axis KIA as victims of Communist brutality, and which ignores the now-available information revealed by the opening of the Soviet archives 30 years ago. If you apply the logic these people use for the Chinese Revolution to the US Civil War, you would come away with the conclusion that Abraham Lincoln murdered one million Americans and that the abolition of slavery was one of the greatest mistakes in history.

Marxism is supposed to be the eminent critique of all which exists, but the typical dork from Reddit who knows nothing at all about Chinese history except for Tank Man and thinks 1.4 billion people are just brainwashed subservient lemmings who need a white savior to come fix their country isn’t the person I care to talk to about it.

tikitaki,
@tikitaki@kbin.social avatar

“Even Nazis deserve the right to free speech” thing

I'm sure he would say this. But in this specific case it's more of a question of not having any topic be off limits. I know there's a lot of emotions towards the holocaust and anyone who questions it is immediately labeled some sort of neo-nazi (and 90% of the time, that's what they are). Chomsky firmly believes in the Holocaust, because like you said, he experienced it. He's a Jew in his 90s.

But consider a world where you canno make an academic or scientific inquiry into a topic because "the issue has been resolved". What kind of world is that? He was defending a researcher who did an analysis into the Holocaust and came up with significantly different figures. Basically claiming the death toll was inflated. Which is, to the best of the research I've read, entirely incorrect. Something like 6 million people died in the Holocaust and there is plenty of evidence to show that.

But again, the point isn't whether the researcher was wrong or right. It's just that we can't set the precedent that certain topics are "finished" and can't be modified anymore. Because at that point we're not doing science or research - we're falling victim to ideology. Keep in mind the guy he was defending was getting charged with a crime since this was Europe and they have certain laws about Holocaust denial.

So we bring it back to the Lemmy devs. The article I read (I didn't read them all) was an analysis of the death toll of the Mao period and claims the figures were inflated. Does someone posting a link to this or otherwise sharing it make them a "genocide denier" and a "CCP tankie"?

This immediate lashing out when experiencing "wrongthink" is something I think is so toxic and dangerous to having serious discussions about sensitive topics. The more you study these things, the more you realize things are never black and white. There aren't good guys and there aren't bad guys. Or rather, maybe everyone's a bad guy. But I think you get my point.

Regardless, I appreciate your comment.

PorkrollPosadist,
@PorkrollPosadist@lemmy.ml avatar

I’ll start off by saying, I am going to quote-reply a bunch of things from your comment. Don’t take it like I’m trying to be a debate bro and own you online. I actually think your comment is quite constructive.

Something like 6 million people died in the Holocaust and there is plenty of evidence to show that.

Six million Jews. This figure excludes the Roma, LGBT, Neurodivergant, Communists, Anarchists, partisans, and prisoners of war. The total figure lands somewhere around 10-11 million, at least according to the US Holocaust Museum.

But consider a world where you canno make an academic or scientific inquiry into a topic because “the issue has been resolved”. What kind of world is that? He was defending a researcher who did an analysis into the Holocaust and came up with significantly different figures.

In abstract, I completely agree with this, but we live in a world where the reactionaries have more money than God to churn out this sort of self-serving analysis, and debate subjects which ought to be settled. We live in a world where government and think tank employees get paid to spend eight hours a day revising history on Wikipedia while volunteers and academics have to worry about keeping a roof over their heads. We live in a world where we’re still debating the right to abortion in the year 2023.

As such, I am much more interested learning the lessons of the triumphs and shortcomings of the masses of people who fought against this evil than I am about debating whether it was really even evil to begin with.

To repeat myself, I have never heard about this take from Chomsky, and I’d be interested to learn about it in detail. I assume it is actually benign because there are a significant amount of people who criticize Chomsky from the left and I have never heard them mention this.

So we bring it back to the Lemmy devs. The article I read (I didn’t read them all) was an analysis of the death toll of the Mao period and claims the figures were inflated. Does someone posting a link to this or otherwise sharing it make them a “genocide denier” and a “CCP tankie”?

In general, I think the Western audience knows absolutely nothing about this history. This is not limited to the layman Redditor, but large swaths of academia and the fourth estate as well. It would be fascinating to see what answers you’d get if you asked a random Washington Post or Wall Street Journal reporter to explain what happened in the Great Leap Forward or the Cultural Revolution with no notes. This is the standard I choose to hold the developers against. I am pretty sure Dessalines has the history pinned down much more accurately than the average American propagandist.

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In general, I agree. The parameters of discussion on the big social networks are very heavily controlled. The largest communities on Reddit, like r/Politics, r/WorldNews etc. are extremely single-minded. Some places like r/AskHistorians tend to be a bit better.

tikitaki,
@tikitaki@kbin.social avatar

debate bro and own you online

don't worry this is the type of stuff i go on reddit for I'm glad there are people willing to go into long form discussion here

so ultimately I think we have to agree to disagree a bit here although I respect your opinion. You're absolutely right that there are organizations out there, both governmental and billionaire funded, that astroturf the shit out of the internet ( and you didn't mention AI like chatgpt, which will make this problem exponentially worse since it will become increasingly cheaper to astroturf).

I agree that I'm not personally going to debate a holocaust denier - they can more or less get fucked. I just don't think they should be sent to jail or otherwise censored. And this more or less lines up with Chomsky's beliefs. I'm a huge fan of him and I am 100% behind his free speech absolutism.

Anyhow, if you want more detail about the whole thing with Chomsky.. there's a page on Wikipedia that goes over it: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Faurisson_affair

Here's what he had to say to critics of his decision to support the holocaust denier

Let me add a final remark about Faurisson's alleged "anti-Semitism." Note first that even if Faurisson were to be a rabid anti-Semite and fanatic pro-Nazi -- such charges have been presented to me in private correspondence that it would be improper to cite in detail here -- this would have no bearing whatsoever on the legitimacy of the defense of his civil rights. On the contrary, it would make it all the more imperative to defend them since, once again, it has been a truism for years, indeed centuries, that it is precisely in the case of horrendous ideas that the right of free expression must be most vigorously defended; it is easy enough to defend free expression for those who require no such defense. Putting this central issue aside, is it true that Faurisson is an anti-Semite or a neo-Nazi? As noted earlier, I do not know his work very well. But from what I have read -- largely as a result of the nature of the attacks on him -- I find no evidence to support either conclusion. Nor do I find credible evidence in the material that I have read concerning him, either in the public record or in private correspondence. As far as I can determine, he is a relatively apolitical liberal of some sort

I think the line that sticks out to me the most is- that it is precisely in the case of horrendous ideas that the right of free expression must be most vigorously defended

If we give up the principle, we lose everything.

jocanib, in What's the worst company ever. Period.
kersploosh,
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This is the answer, hands down.

kaknife,

What about the South Sea Company?

Pawan123,
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Please take my upvote.

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