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Omega_Haxors, in Those who didn't initially want kids, but got influenced/pressured by their partners, how that played out?

My cat wanted to have kittens. I did not. They had other plans. Three beautiful kittens. Sold Two. Kept the one who snuggles up with me every night and purrs me to sleep. Wake up to this now: ::: spoiler image Two snuggle kittens

No longer against the idea.

zero_iq,

OMG I can’t believe you had the audacity to write an answer about cats in response to a serious question that is clearly about goats.

Pons_Aelius, in Those who didn't initially want kids, but got influenced/pressured by their partners, how that played out?

I was pressured by my partner to have children. I had said from the outset of the relationship that I didn't want kids. That was all fine, for the first year-18 months, Then things started to change.

how that played out?

We did not have children, we are no longer together.

otter, in Moving from reddit rn, a good place to get started?

Welcome! I’d recommend subscribing to !communitypromo, to see recommendations over time.

We also have a guide for finding new communities here: lemmy.ca/post/5581032, which I’ve copied below for you.


A great way to find lesser known communities is to look at the /communities page on an instance. For example: lemmy.ca/communities

For a list of instances to look through:

  • pangora.social (NEW): Great way to find instances related to a particular topic. This is also great for picking an instance when first making an account/moving accounts.
  • awesome-lemmy-instances: not that organized, but it

🔎 Search pages


🔥 Apps and Browser Extensions


🙌 Communities for discovering new communities:

Here are some other communities, some of which are less active:

Remember, you can also post questions about finding new communities right here!


👽 Coming from Reddit?

JakeBacon, in What’s a company that objectively improved after it got “bought out?”

Minecraft maybe? I would say at the minimum it’s a net neutral but considering how far off the deep end Notch is now I imagine it was a good thing.

Kolanaki, in What’s a company that objectively improved after it got “bought out?”
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Matt Stone and Trey Parker bought the real Casa Bonita and improved everything all around; from the decor and atmosphere, the food and drinks, and pays the staff, IIRC, $32/hour.

It’s not a big conglomerate, but it’s the closest example I could even think of.

swordsmanluke, in for ML engineers: why can't you simply exclude the word "fuck"?

As others have mentioned, it’s not quite that simple.

For starters, you can absolutely remove the word “fuck” from all the training data. Now it’s literally impossible for the AI to “know” the word. But what do you do with the training data? Do you replace “fuck” with a different token? “****” perhaps? Or do you just drop the data entirely?

Giving “offense” is much more complex than just a single word. See, if we just replace the token, the AI may still decide that “Go **** yourself” is a perfectly valid response to a query. On the other hand, if you drop all instances of "fuck"from the data, your AI will just learn offensive euphemisms instead: “You can shove your request where the sun don’t shine”

Worse, there are plenty of sexual / offensive phrases that are built up from perfectly innocuous tokens. “Prone bone”, for instance.

The goal with these (and really almost all) AI models is for them to be “helpful, honest, and harmless”. Simply alerting or replacing a single token (or even combination of tokens) doesn’t really help, because the AI is modeling concepts, not just individual words.

All of this to say that the problem being solved is not to stop an AI from saying “fuck” - it’s to build an AI that doesn’t want to.

OsrsNeedsF2P, in When will post quantum resistant HTTPS protocols be a thing?

Quantum computers have been a buzzword that’s lasted for 40 years. While research papers get pumped out in epic proportions, the fundamentals of quantum computing remain fundamentally broken.

The Case Against Quantum Computing was written 5 years ago now, a time when everyone’s mind was melting about quantum computing, and every major point of the article is still valid.

I recommend the whole article, but if I had to pick an excerpt sentence, it would be this:

The number of qubits used for them is below 10, usually from 3 to 5. Apparently, going from 5 qubits to 50 (the goal set by the ARDA Experts Panel for the year 2012) presents experimental difficulties that are hard to overcome. Most probably they are related to the simple fact that 25 = 32, while 250 = 1,125,899,906,842,624.

Despite much of the Quantum research community condemning the article when it came out, meaningful progress is nowhere to be seen. Per a Nature article in 2023: “Quantum computers: what are they good for? For now, absolutely nothing. But researchers and firms are optimistic about the applications.” - But there’s more fun facts:

This is where the scepticism about quantum computing begins. The world’s largest quantum computer in terms of qubits is IBM’s Osprey, which has 433. But even with 2 million qubits, some quantum chemistry calculations might take a century, according to a 2022 preprint2 by researchers at Microsoft Quantum in Redmond, Washington, and ETH Zurich in Switzerland. Research published in 2021 by scientists Craig Gidney at Google in Santa Barbara, California, and Martin Ekerå at the KTH Royal Institute of Technology in Stockholm, estimates that breaking state-of-the-art cryptography in 8 hours would require 20 million qubits.

flathead, in Your friend loves your least favourite politician. What do you say?

Friends don’t let friends support fascists.

cabbagee, in What are some lemmy communities I can spend large amounts of time scrolling in ?

I try to make a daily post in !meow_irl

Daniel_Deghaye, in What do you think about Lemmy, so far?

It great for me it’s better than Reddit it has that small internet feeling

wombatula, in What do you think about Lemmy, so far?

It needs more memes and less edgy teenagers screaming about politics (that they clearly don’t understand and take way too seriously).

Seriously I come to websites like this to get a mix of news and humour, not get yelled at by children who advocate for totalitarian regimes to “own the libs”, I am on the verge of changing instances because lemm.ee won’t let me block all of the two offenders at once, and I have to constantly remove every bullshit new sub they create, not to mention them infesting the comments section of anything news related to scream about “libs”.

Literally they are indistinguishable from reddits T_D crowd, they act just as hateful and use the same language, they seem more concerned with “the libs” than any other political group, and they worship mass murdering dictators while being holocaust deniers / apologists. They can call themselves leftists as much as they want, all I see from them is hatred so they might as well be Trump Qanon Cultists.

TheDorkfromYork, in What do you think about Lemmy, so far?

I love how both liked and dislikes are visiable. Feels less one sided than reddit.

TexMexBazooka, in What do you think about Lemmy, so far?

It’s alright. Doesn’t replace what I got from Reddit but I also use it less and it’s only form of social media so that’s a plus.

The political environment is rough. Lemmygrad and hexbear are toxic cesspools, which is unfortunate because I would genuinely like to engage with their political ideology more seriously but it’s inevitably drowned out by… well… them.

I’ve blocked most of the top posters over there and things are much more peaceful, if quiet.

There’s still a lack of content creators out there, which is an issue. Growth is going to be a problem because, to be blunt? Lemmy is dogshit before you block all the spam, political shitposting, and those fucking Reddit repost bots.

Until the new user experience is cleaned up I don’t expect Lemmy to gain users on average. I’ll probably spin up my own instance in AWS at some point to play with it, or self host on some inexpensive hardware.

Tl;Dr: I get what I want from it but don’t see it having healthy long term growth

wombatula,

Seriously though, they act just like the T_D crowd from reddit, but at least there it was easier to avoid them (and they actually started banning them eventually). I am legitimately convinced that there is a huge overlap in members, they never cared about politics just about being hateful, they wore a right wing mask on reddit and they wear a left wing mask here.

Album, in What do you think about Lemmy, so far?
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It’s ok. Lots of very young people talking a lot about things they don’t understand like its a fact.

TableCoffee, in What do you think about Lemmy, so far?
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I LOVE the idea of Lemmy and the decentralized web and people coming together to forge our own way. But there’s a far too high ratio of elitism, smugness, arrogance and belittlement to people that just want to discuss the things we enjoy. It is just really unfortunate. I don’t engage very much, or at all really so I understand part of that is on me, but every discussion I find I’d like to chime in on is already polluted by assholes. It’s just disheartening.

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