afraid_of_zombies, 2 years ago

And I said that it is a pointless conversation to have. Tact is not discretion. Tact is the act of bringing up what needs to be brought up in a face saving way, discretion is not mentioning what doesn’t need to be mentioned. There is zero reason to mention this to her so I don’t.

Do you seriously do this? Tell your better half literal everything. Like if you noticed her brother was a bit ugly you would definitely make a point of mentioning it to her later.

This whole thing sounds performative and selfish. Like you want to be applauded for it. Have you thought about how she feels? Knowing that any mean nasty observation you might have will be pointed out to her in a passive aggressive way.