If someone is clear/consistent/understanding/honest/courageous with enforcement, the rest is subjective. These aren’t just any five random adjectives either, they are the ones that come to mind first (the first one foremost, which is why my server infamously has a myriad of listed guidelines). Can’t really do anything about the rest though. And sometimes you do have to remind people it’s your burrow (Lemmy equivalent term for subreddits) and cannot be blamed for any ban prescribed by the fine print no matter how abrupt it is.