Lemmy is young. Some of the consequences of a federated and distributed social media are still falling out, and we would be better off if the mods and owners of different federated instances work together - actually communicate - to resolve these issues instead of shutting each other down in a cold war scenario.
Federation NEEDS to happen and be (relatively) consistent in order for this great mess to work. “Hey, did you see that Lemmy post on motorcycles@lemmy.world?” “Nah man, I’m on a different instance than you - it must have been blocked by our mods.” That is NOT going to make a good experience for users, and they’ll give up very quickly.