That isn’t even the slightest true. There hasn’t been a single moment in my life where I was in the situation that I talked with a woman outside of them being my classmates(and even then those conversations were mostly questions and the rest being things I or them said in a bigger group). I never had a real conversation with a women so there’s absolutely no chance that I missed flirting since there was no situation where flirting could have occurred.
Sitting here writing this I realise how bad my social life/skills are.
my partner of 3 years was so dense i was worried she was trying to reject me subtly by just not a acknowledging my flirting .
Eventually i had to just say “come over and lets have sex”, for her to get it. If we hadnt already known eachother for a decade I wouldve just given up because I wouldnt want to be labeled a creep in my friend group.
In high school, we had a science fiction club. I was vice president in my senior year. A year after I graduated, I was hanging out with some fellow graduates and one of them said, “How come you hated Christine so much?”
“Who?”
“Christine Smith. The blonde girl?”
“The blond girl who wore all those surfer shirts?”
“Yeah. Whats so bad about her?”
“Nothing. She was always so quiet. I barely remember her.”
“Yeah, well she practically threw herself at you, and you treated her like she didn’t exist.”
“She did?”
“Yeah. We even tried to make it easy. We set her up at parties to talk to you, and you just acted like she wasn’t even there. You were so rude.”
“I literally had no idea. I totally would have dated her.”
“Yeah, well, too late. She got so depressed after you graduated, that she ended up dropping out of everything and tried to kill herself. Shes been hospitalized and her parents moved away to be with her. Like, couldn’t you gave even said hi? Just because you made vice president of the club didn’t mean you were better than her or something.”
She didn’t get depressed because you didn’t talk to her, and she wasn’t interested in you because you were VP of the science fiction club in high school. It all just sounds so self important even if that’s not your intent.
Because if it were true, those colleagues were stupid AF not picking up that you weren’t picking up. Or that they tried to force the romance, clearly leading her into depression.
The true tragedy is when you get all the social signals and you have the thought “man I wish I could just date multiple people at the same time” and it doesn’t occur to you to try that because… ???
Now I’m old and have to work 1 1/2 full time jobs to pay my bills, so. That won’t be happening.
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