I’ve been working on this on and off for a few months now. The more I learn, the deeper the hole gets. Ports and VPNs and UPNP and TCP and UDP and hosts and containers and firewalls and on and on. It’s a lot.
Many times I can’t get things working properly, if at all, and other times it works perfectly one day and then several days later, after changing absolutely nothing, no longer works.
My current goal is to get a Mobilizon instance and a Jitsi server running, to hopefully get a community started up there that meets up regularly to help each other, and to make onboarding easier.
I tried to ask for help around here and, while a few kind people did offer to help (and disappeared shortly thereafter), I was overwhelmingly lambasted for daring to ask for personal help.