As an asexual male, I totally understand where you are coming from.
I generally don’t talk about anything like that with other men of any stripe. I have a few very understanding female friends who don’t judge and even then when I talk about it, it feels like I’m handing them a burden.
The likely hood of the poopkins being dangerous is incredibly low. And after you wash them it drops to almost nonexistent. Most issues with using poop as fertiliser comes from it being incorrectly at the wrong time.
All, I’m doing is pointing out the perspective and suggesting OP actually do some introspection on their stance with the understanding they may be wrong.