They’re definitely cringe, but there is a healthy dose of self awareness usually. Also, like any group, some will be “karens” and they give the group a bad name.
So true. My wife and I are high school sweet hearts but also both very different people now. The boy she fell in love with initially I couldn’t properly emulate. We were deep into Christianity and even met at church. We’ve since both lost our faith. I wouldn’t be able to pretend without her seeing through my bullshit.