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Vespair, (edited ) to memes in Age range

Yeah, which falls under the risks I mentioned not t9 be ignorant to.

But also, sometimes you’re a 23 year old who gets put on assignment at work with a 31 year old coworker and are surprised how well you hit it off.

My point wasn’t “yay age gap relationships!,” it was to evaluate the world around you with the necessary nuanced rather than reductively.

Vespair, (edited ) to memes in Age range

If you thought I was defending conservatives, you’re wrong. There’s nuance to this; the topic is sexual dynamics but the purpose is dominance. This is a conservative kind of principle because it’s about limiting autonomy of consenting adults, enforcing social morals, and boogyman logic. We should be embracing and striving for a better, freer, more autonomous world, where everyone, women included, are empowered rather than limited, not just settling for a slightly preferable version of the patriarchy.

Which means embracing a nuanced world. Which is why I said acknowledge and even warn against the potential dangers of severe age-gap relationships; we don’t have to be blind to real world dangers, but that we shouldn’t let fear of those dangers drive us into blind ignorance again or else we’re just repeating the same cycle. Hence the trojan horse. We get better when we accept difficult concepts rather than accept simplified extractions for the masses.

edit: just in case my position is somehow still unclear, yes I’m using conservative as effectively synonymous with “bad” here. I’ll consider caring when they consider better conduct and positions.

Vespair, (edited ) to memes in Age range

Subtext. This meme isn’t about the image, it’s about the culture upon which it is commenting. And a large reaction to that culture is beyond discouraging of age-gap relationships, it’s prohibitive of them. This reaction wants to redefine adulthood as post 25, label anyone above 25 who shows interest in those under as automatically and inherently predatory (as opposed to potentially predatory), and in doing so severely infantilizes anyone under 25 as “incomplete” adults, as if adulthood is some kind of clear journey with a specific and obvious destination, who they deem incapable of evaluating risks and circumstances and making autonomous choices.

Vespair, to lemmyshitpost in The White Buffalo

Yeah, Jenny is a severely flawed character who makes some bad choices.

That what makes her a good character.

I feel like in the past 10 years or so we’ve seen a subtle shift where we now expect characters to be held to standards higher than we hold our real neighbors. As if art has stopped imitating life but instead now art projects a sterilized or idealized version of the world. Like now when a character is flawed, they aren’t just flawed, they’re wrong, and personally I think that’s wrong.

Not every character in every media is meant to be a role model, and there are stories and lessons to be gleaned even from those who don’t live up to idealized standards.

And yes, I know this is a shitpost; chill out, we can still have a discussion even if it results from a joke

Vespair, to lemmyshitpost in The White Buffalo

Bro here is the type to get severe triggered by the phrase “trigger warning,” which never fails to make me laugh.

Others in the world aren’t obligated to cater to your personal sensibilities and you’re welcome to scroll past when you dislike something

Vespair, to lemmyshitpost in This is just cruel

Except this is all predicated on caring about other people’s opinions on your interests, which is foolish to begin with.

If you like something, like it because you like it. Let however other people process the thing be how they process it; it doesn’t have to have any impact on how you process it.

Vespair, to lemmyshitpost in Someone didn't think out the implications.

Good thing the force behind enforcing laws and charging people as criminals is famously good-natured and held to the highest of accountability standards to prevent any possible corruption!

Oh wait.

Vespair, to memes in The current state of Twitch

A filter is an entirely reasonable request

Vespair, to lemmyshitpost in Larry Bird really knew how to get under your skin

I don’t sports and even I’ve heard the tales of Lawrence The Bird

Vespair, to memes in "Now, here's what I would do..."

Before WoW I played Ultima Online, and the co-GMs of my UO guild were a couple that had only met online. About 6 months after I started playing, they had an in-game marriage, and then about 6 months later both moved to Las Vegas to buy a house together (I think they’d met in person once by this point). Under a year later, they were married in real life too. Last I heard, they were still together.

If you’re out there Ramirez and Azizza, I hope you’re still happy.

Post-internet life is a weird place.

Vespair, to memes in I can use the time to make memes

As a man of class, I always write the actual word, okay, instead of “ok” like you Philistines

Vespair, to risa in Would have been genius

It’s like a Heathcliff crossover episode

Vespair, to mildlyinteresting in Little black book

ICQ days were good days

Vespair, to memes in Goth GF Meme Analysis

I was kinda with this dude’s argument until 8:45, where he lost me enormously.

Vespair, (edited ) to memes in venture capitalism goes brrr

I’m still mourning the loss of ICQ

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