It sounds like you might be referring to communities rather than instances. If you don’t want to mod it yourself you could ask in one of the request communities and soneone might choose to start it. Try doing a search for ‘request’ on whichever instance seems like a good fit, and you’ll find one.
I can see them having occupancy sensors after the first lawsuit, but before then I’m not so sure. Collecting your belongings from the dealer could also be problematic; you no longer have a car, and the dealer could be a significant distance away. It’d be even worse if you happen to have driven the car far from home and no longer have a way to get back.
I suspect, and hope, they only patented it so they were tge ones with the patent, not to actually implement it.