It could just be poor communication between you and him. I was the lead in a project over several teams without any onboarding, and several people to answer to without clear lines of hierarchy. I bent over backwards on evening and weekends for 2 years trying to make everyone happy and thus making no one. Had I better communicated that I was struggling, or at least had the life perspective to understand that what was happening wasn’t completely my fault, I could have defended myself better and communicated better to my bosses that their wonderful plan of bringing several teams together with one in-between guy (me) might require some extra thought.
In retrospect I should have quit, but I was new to the country and had no idea what my rights were.
Colleague:
“I need to use Linux and my boyfriend suggested I use Ubuntu, is that right?”
Me (screaming internally, deciding on whether to rant on bloatware, on Canonical, on reproducibility, on monetization, on many things wrong with the world, but not wanting to come off as an elitist, nor scare her off the idea altogether):
“… that, that should be fine.”