I started calling them by their first name when I thought I was old/adult enough not to say mom and dad anymore. My sister does the same.
But this has also been different from every side of our family. I speak a T-V language so we have formal and informal. My father and all his family were formal with their parents. And my mother was informal with her parents. In the end, I went in between. I use informal with my parents and call them by their names.
My bother in law noted that and brought it up. Apparently, it’s weird and disrespectful from his point of view. Yet, to me it’s quite normal.
How can a 16 years old teenager feel comfortable saying “mom and dad”? To me, ditching those terms meant that I was not a child anymore.
I’m not American though. And English is not my native language.
But it just felt too close to continue calling them m’man and p’pa while I became an adult. I was a “rebel teenager” and didn’t want to spend time with my family. Much less call them “mom and dad”. And they stopped using the diminutive of my name years ago anyway. So I just did the reverse.
It’s around 4,400. It bears mentioning that the population of Finland is only around 4.5 million. The Dallas Fort Worth Metro area has a population of about 6.5 million and a homeless population of around 4,500
There will always be homeless people, the ones we have are either crashing or simply do not want to live inside (due to a multitude of reasons involving decades of living in the streets with substance abuse and mental issues). The only folk you’ll find here sleeping on benches are aforementioned and students who have had one too many. Plenty of benches for both and even if all benches are turned into chairs we’ve got intoxication centres and housing available for those who prefer it.
Just for anyone who’s unaware; it’s social democracy, not communism. It is possible to have a wide public safety net without resorting to communism, which is inherently genocidal.
I think your instant assumption about it being done for evil says more about the country you live than it does about Finland, because homelessness doesn’t seem to be a big issue in Finland. That’s ~5k homeless people in a country with ~5 million people, that’s ~0.1% of the population being homeless.
The US is roughly the same percentage and it was definitely a comment from a US political frame. In the US they are simply more visible as they congregate in cities.
When I was a teenager, I went through this brief phase where instead of saying “dad”, I used his first name. Not intentionally, it was just wires getting crossed in my brain, but he would get so pissed about it.
Don’t recall ever calling my mom by her first name. She wouldn’t appreciate that either… in fact, it bothered her that I said “mother” instead of “mom” for the longest time (we had a strained relationship, so the more formal term felt more appropriate).
On the other hand, my parents never required me to say “sir” or “ma’m”.
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