the HOA stuff is often driven by people who don’t care if we’re on guard, or actively want us to feel unsafe
… sighs … yea
I think @zens / @bri_seven puts it quite well whenever someone tries to describe aspects of the fediverse as inevitable … they repeatedly say something to the effect that the real danger is the one that tries to convince the victim that the abuser/monster is simply a force of nature that must be accepted.
Just my ranting there … hope your instances go well and the moderation work isn’t too much for you!! And thanks for the response!