My laptop is at my house right now. As is my PS5 and my Switch. My parents said they can bring all of that over at some point, but they’ve been very busy prepping their house for after my surgery. I figured I’d give them the list of things I’d like from my house once they’re not as busy. I’ve been playing Stardew Valley on my phone and it occupied me for like 4 days, but I am kinda burnt out now and need a break lol.
When I can’t stop worrying, especially at night in bed, I like to put on an audiobook. It keeps my mind distracted without being exhausting in another way. Maybe that’s something you could try? I’m sure there’s some service where you can get a trial month or trial audiobook if money is a concern right now.
ETA: And your phone should probably be sufficient for that.
I mean, I plan on getting therapy at some point, but there’s no harm in getting advice from others. Like, I’m obviously not going to follow shitty advice lol.
I have a good mechanic that does free evaluations. I’m going to schedule with him as soon as I’m back to driving. Right now, I just want my parents to turn my car on every once in a while to keep the battery alive, and make sure my tires don’t go flat. I won’t be driving again for 2-3 months.
Good luck. If you don’t feel substantially better within 3 weeks, schedule appointments with other reputable doctors and have them take a look at your situation. I know this advice may feel excessive, but I never fully recovered, didn’t do this, and really wish I had. Find reputable doctors by asking anyone that works around doctors regularly who they would seek out if they had the same injury as you. Think about asking people in places like radiology where they encounter many doctors in situ and know their operating room personas.
Thank you. I plan to ensure that I heal properly. If anything seems wrong, I’ll be calling my surgeon immediately. This guy is one of the best ankle specialists in the country, so I’m confident in him
I feel you. I’ve had struggled with worrying a lot, too. Biggest insight for me was that worries are first of all just fantasies about the future. Start asking yourself more often: “what if everything goes well?” Instead of “what if everything goes wrong?”. Realize, in the realm of fantasies those two questions are equals. Your mom said that she thinks the engine sounded funny. And that’s it for all we know. Maybe she even just misheard. Also, start tackling real problems that may arise step by step. Stringing along worries before they have even arrived is of course paralyzing because fantasies are endless. You often will realize that all those “follow up” problems you fantasized about will never arise because you are very well capable of solving the real problems right away. Friends and family will love to help you if you ask.
edit: I had fun and got carried away, but here are a few of mine (+ descriptions and posters)
The Otter of the Medusa
First movie in the ‘Medusa’ trilogy. About an ancient order of sea otters called ‘Medusa’, that have saved the world from behind the scenes countless times over the centuries. Improved human technologies and destruction of habitats are causing cracks to form in the organization, and some are starting to question whether humans should be kept around at all. Based on a famous painting with the same name.
The Medusa Chronicles: The story of how a group of young otters continues the legacy of “Medusa”. Themes of hope and whether a flawed institution can actually be improved. YA Fiction series also in the works.
Real Movie: The Raft of the Medusa (1994 - Period Film)
Le Radeau de la Méduse (English: The Raft of the Medusa) is a French film by Iranian film director Iradj Azimi. It is based on the 1816 wreck of the French frigate Méduse, and the 1819 painting Le Radeau de la Méduse by Jean-Louis André Théodore Géricault which depicts the event
Escape Whale
A whale escapes an enclosure, leading to a heartfelt tale about the whale and the conservation researcher that pursues her. Themes of isolation and ‘finding one’s purpose’.
After an explosion on their deep-space vessel, a young astronaut wakes up on an escape pod with no memory of how he got there. With limited knowledge, he must listen to the stories of those on board to piece together what really happened.
Randy and the Kangaroo
A comedy about a middle-aged man and a kangaroo, after it bounces into his apartment and almost ruins his life further.
Real Movie: Randy and the Mob (2007 - Action Comedy)
A good ol’ boy (McKinnon) gets into trouble with some mobsters, and then must seek assistance from his estranged, identical twin gay brother.
The George Otter Story
Children’s movie based on the hit book series. Loosely inspired by Curious George, this Pixar movie tells the story of friendship and finding a place where you belong.
Real Film: The George Raft Story (1961 - Noir Crime Fiction)
Dancer George Raft (Ray Danton) finds himself involved with the criminal underworld. After a conflict with gangster boss Frank Donatella (Joe de Santis), he is exiled to Hollywoood, where he wins a role in the film “Scarface”
If your car drives, and it’s not really old, you probably don’t have to buy a whole new car to deal with whatever issue is making it “sound funny”. Maybe there’s nothing wrong at all, your mom just thinks it sounds funny cuz she’s not used to driving it? I just feel like, if the car actually goes, it’s unlikely to be anything catastrophic.
Do you have pain meds? I think that will help reduce the stress on you, cuz constant pain can make everything seem worse than it is. I also wonder if you have any anxiety meds? If not, I can recommend CBD/CBN for a very gentle calming effect, and It doesn’t make you all high. Maybe you can talk your Mom into getting you some.
I’m sorry you’re hurt. Do you have anyone that can come hang out with you? Seems like being in pain and stuck alone can make things seem worse too. I wish I could help you more to feel better. Good luck!
My car is from 2015, so it isn’t super old. My mom just got a new car, so she may just be comparing hers to mine. I’m hoping my car isn’t going. Last time I drove it, it felt and sounded fine.
I am on Vicodin every 6 hours, but it only takes the edge off the pain. I take baby aspirin at night, but that’s to prevent blood clots. My mom has some muscle relaxers that help a bit when my muscles start to spasm.
I’ve been trying to coordinate with friends to hang out on Discord, but they’re all busy until tomorrow. My surgery is tomorrow, so I probably won’t be up to talking then. They’ve been really responsive on our group chats, though, so it’s not like I’m not socializing lol
Can’t hurt to have the docs prescribe some low dose benzoyl or other med for the anxiety. But the distraction suggestion is also good. Get some reading done.
Spend some time meditating. Doesn’t matter what meditation practice you start with, really. (You may develop preferences later, but for right at the beginning, just try one. And if you’re overwhelmed with options, I’d recommend starting with a noting practice. Just watch what arises in your awareness without judging, holding onto it, or pushing it away. “Itch”, “thought”, “emotion”, “breathing”, “mental image”, etc. If multiple things are in your awareness, just pick one. Set a timer when you start and do the meditation practice until it goes off. Start with 10 minute sessions. (If that’s too much, try 5 minutes.) Also, it can be done in any relatively comfortable bodily position.
Ask yourself some questions about the situation, and give yourself honest answers.
Can I do anything about it right now?
Might I be able to do something about it when I’m better?
Could I spend some time thinking of potential temporary solutions while I wait, instead of spending that time worrying?
Is it happening now, or do I have time to come up with something?
If I think I can’t do anything about it, does worrying help the situation or make it worse?
These are sample questions. Ask yourself about specific concerns that worry you. Sometimes, the responses will require follow-up questions. Point is to end pointless worrying and start looking at the problem logically and realistically, without the emotion clouding your thinking.
Only worry about what you can change right now in this moment. Everything else is irrelevant. Take on your challenges one at a time and communicate as much as possible with everyone around you. Most people you encounter want to help you if you just have the courage to ask for help.
I was hit by 2 cars riding to work on a bicycle 2/26/14. In a nutshell, I had a broken neck and back. This is the best advice I can give.
Your car is probably low on oil, just needs new spark plugs, or the battery needs replacing. You need a good shade tree mechanic that is honest or a friend that is into cars or was. If you know anyone that worked on their own project car and did motor stuff on their own, that is the person to talk to first. I was that kind of person. I can tell what is wrong with a car just by hearing it, or at most, driving a short distance. There are lots of people like me that want to help you too.
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