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serial_crusher, in For the thing you're in charge of, what does it take to do a good job?
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Software engineer.

Understand requirements even when they’re not communicated clearly (or when you have to guess and make them up yourself)

Tell an idiot they’re wrong without telling them they’re an idiot.

Write code other people can maintain.

figaro, in What’s a company that objectively improved after it got “bought out?”

Motorola, while it was owned by Google, was actually quite good. The Moto g and the Moto x line were started in that era. The original Moto x was one of the best looking phones I’ve ever used.

glad_cat, in For the thing you're in charge of, what does it take to do a good job?

Programmer:

Don’t be a smart ass, write good code that others can improve.

Listen to everyone: others programmers, managers, clients, bosses, etc.

Follow all the procedures, don’t pretend you’re above anything.

Read books because the programming world is changing once or twice a year, and you don’t want to be the guy who is behind the current trends and best practices.

PlasmaDistortion, in Do y'all have any suggestions on how to stimulate an unruly puppy?

Your dog wants love and attention, not distractions. That may change a bit as they get older but some dogs are just this way.

tweeks, in Those who didn't initially want kids, but got influenced/pressured by their partners, how that played out?

She wanted to stay with me even without kids, but after the first days I saw her become an empty shell of a person. This was her meaning of life, apparently even more than we both thought. I could leave her, but that felt horrible as well.

Now we have a kid; the first few years were a personal nightmare for me because of mental health issues. Lack of sleep icw depression and what more makes parenting extra intense. I tried with all my might to not let it affect our child, I hope I managed to so far.

It’s a lot better now, the kid is great and I’m amazed how much love I feel, but I always feel guilty. For giving life (something that goes against my principles as I did not want to be born myself) and for not being able to 50/50 care because of the mental shit that makes me unable to. Aside from that the usual, missing my freedom, the continuous responsibility.

I would not do it again in a reset of my life, not because of the kid who I genuinely think is great, but due to my lack of mental health, which has the potential each and everyday to ruin it all for them (which is a compulsive intrusive thought in my mind). But I hang on, I try to.

With all the love and respect, I would not recommend anyone in my situation.

papabobolious, in Those who didn't initially want kids, but got influenced/pressured by their partners, how that played out?

I always liked kids, but never saw myself having any.

I met a girl who was dead set on children and already ended a long relationship due to the partner not wanting kids.

I decided I could have one kid, as long as it was a few years in the future so I could do stuff you don’t really do when you have kids.

Years went by, pregnancy happened. Having a kid is exhausting but at the same time having a kid who considers you their most important person in the world is an amazing high and something you will never experience by babysitting someones kid.

I don’t regret having my child, I love my child very much and they surprise me every day with how capable they are of stuff, to the point I am amazed this little person is related to me at all.

I’m at peace with my decision even if I had other plans and might sometimes miss what could’ve been with less responsibility, but at the same time I will grow older and I will have less responsibility as my child gets older too. And as one grows older I imagine running around town being up to no good gets old as well.

Blaze,
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Thanks for sharing this

Omega_Haxors, in Those who didn't initially want kids, but got influenced/pressured by their partners, how that played out?

My cat wanted to have kittens. I did not. They had other plans. Three beautiful kittens. Sold Two. Kept the one who snuggles up with me every night and purrs me to sleep. Wake up to this now: ::: spoiler image Two snuggle kittens

No longer against the idea.

zero_iq,

OMG I can’t believe you had the audacity to write an answer about cats in response to a serious question that is clearly about goats.

Pons_Aelius, in Those who didn't initially want kids, but got influenced/pressured by their partners, how that played out?

I was pressured by my partner to have children. I had said from the outset of the relationship that I didn't want kids. That was all fine, for the first year-18 months, Then things started to change.

how that played out?

We did not have children, we are no longer together.

otter, in Moving from reddit rn, a good place to get started?

Welcome! I’d recommend subscribing to !communitypromo, to see recommendations over time.

We also have a guide for finding new communities here: lemmy.ca/post/5581032, which I’ve copied below for you.


A great way to find lesser known communities is to look at the /communities page on an instance. For example: lemmy.ca/communities

For a list of instances to look through:

  • pangora.social (NEW): Great way to find instances related to a particular topic. This is also great for picking an instance when first making an account/moving accounts.
  • awesome-lemmy-instances: not that organized, but it

🔎 Search pages


🔥 Apps and Browser Extensions


🙌 Communities for discovering new communities:

Here are some other communities, some of which are less active:

Remember, you can also post questions about finding new communities right here!


👽 Coming from Reddit?

OrekiWoof, in What’s a company that objectively improved after it got “bought out?”

GitHub started adding new good features after being acquired by Microsoft

aes,

didn’t they like… scrape everyone’s open source code for an ai and then gatekeep that shit to their own infra?

JakeBacon, in What’s a company that objectively improved after it got “bought out?”

Minecraft maybe? I would say at the minimum it’s a net neutral but considering how far off the deep end Notch is now I imagine it was a good thing.

Kolanaki, in What’s a company that objectively improved after it got “bought out?”
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Matt Stone and Trey Parker bought the real Casa Bonita and improved everything all around; from the decor and atmosphere, the food and drinks, and pays the staff, IIRC, $32/hour.

It’s not a big conglomerate, but it’s the closest example I could even think of.

rockandsock, in What obscure thing you enjoy do you never get to talk about?

Obscure 80s and 90s hip hop records that very few people have heard of because they sold less than a couple hundred thousand records, some much less

Classic black and white films and TV shows. No one I know in real life enjoys these.

Valmond,

You should digitalise those and share them (I mean it would be very cool if you did!), I’m sure lots of people would like it, they just haven’t got the time/energy/possibility to find those kind of things.

I’d be interested for example :-)

rockandsock,

Most of the music is on Soulseek.

MC Rell is rapper from the late 80s that dropped a pretty good album, very few people have heard of him.

The Lootpack is a 90s hip hop group from LA that was good but for some reason it never caught on, I don’t know anyone else who’s heard their album.

The older films I like aren’t really that obscure, I just don’t know any film nerds in real life. I’m a big fan of the Preston Sturges comedy films, film nerds know them but no one I know in real life watches old movies.

Have Gun, Will Travel is one of my favorite western TV shows. It’s kind of stuck around but, not like I Love Lucy or The Honeymooners did.

There was a series of b movies about a detective called The Falcon. They were kind of a mix of The Thin Man films and the Sam Spade films.

They were lots of fun to watch but I don’t know anyone else who’s seen them.

Valmond,

Took some time but I’m enjoying lootpack right now, very nice!

Very_Bad_Janet,

Can you give us some examples of both? Some that you think we will find obscure and some that you yourself find obscure?

rockandsock,

This is copied from my reply to another person here.

Most of the music is on Soulseek.

MC Rell is rapper from the late 80s that dropped a pretty good album, very few people have heard of him.

The Lootpack is a 90s hip hop group from LA that was good but for some reason it never caught on, I don’t know anyone else who’s heard their album.

The older films I like aren’t really that obscure, I just don’t know any film nerds in real life. I’m a big fan of the Preston Sturges comedy films, film nerds know them but no one I know in real life watches old movies.

Have Gun, Will Travel is one of my favorite western TV shows. It’s kind of stuck around but, not like I Love Lucy or The Honeymooners did.

There was a series of b movies about a detective called The Falcon. They were kind of a mix of The Thin Man films and the Sam Spade films.

They were lots of fun to watch but I don’t know anyone else who’s seen them.

Very_Bad_Janet,

Ah, I love Preston Sturges. I guess I'm lucky to know a few film and TV nerds in real life. ETA: The Lady Eve is one of my favorite movies. (When I'm asked what my favorite movies are, I say that and I Know Where I'm Going by Powell and Pressburger.)

rockandsock,

I’ve seen The Lady Eve a few times over the years but not in a while. TCM used to do Preston Sturges marathons every year or so.

I have never seen I Know Where I’m going but the entry on Wikipedia makes it seem interesting.

Very_Bad_Janet,

Please check it out. I've seen it many times over the years, eventually owning a couple of copies. It's magical. P&P made some really great films - Black Narcissus and The Red Shoes really stand out.

swordsmanluke, in for ML engineers: why can't you simply exclude the word "fuck"?

As others have mentioned, it’s not quite that simple.

For starters, you can absolutely remove the word “fuck” from all the training data. Now it’s literally impossible for the AI to “know” the word. But what do you do with the training data? Do you replace “fuck” with a different token? “****” perhaps? Or do you just drop the data entirely?

Giving “offense” is much more complex than just a single word. See, if we just replace the token, the AI may still decide that “Go **** yourself” is a perfectly valid response to a query. On the other hand, if you drop all instances of "fuck"from the data, your AI will just learn offensive euphemisms instead: “You can shove your request where the sun don’t shine”

Worse, there are plenty of sexual / offensive phrases that are built up from perfectly innocuous tokens. “Prone bone”, for instance.

The goal with these (and really almost all) AI models is for them to be “helpful, honest, and harmless”. Simply alerting or replacing a single token (or even combination of tokens) doesn’t really help, because the AI is modeling concepts, not just individual words.

All of this to say that the problem being solved is not to stop an AI from saying “fuck” - it’s to build an AI that doesn’t want to.

Gbagginsthe3rd, in What's the strangest or creepiest video game behaviour you've encountered?

There is a really interesting Doom mod. It’s called My House. There was a YouTube video done on it.

youtu.be/5wAo54DHDY0

RIP_Cheems,
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Of all the places I would expect to see something about myhouse.wad, this is not one of them.

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