Yep, know the pain… dad didn’t cheat on mom, but he still didn’t teach me anything… about anything really… and now, I’m paying for it in a shitty marriage.
Well, at least I know I won’t make the same mistake with my son.
Just break up already. Creating a tiny extra human is not going to magically fix all of your issues.
… of course that would create a paradox in which I was never born, hence not able to give her that advice … but seriously, the only reason I exist is because my mother didn’t want my dad to leave her, which is simply a shitty reason to become pregnant.
I could write a novel here honestly but I’ll keep it a bit brief:
Don’t ask your toddler which parent they’ll go with if you 2 get a divorce. If you don’t love your partner you should get a divorce. Joint custody is a thing.
Don’t “stay together for the kids” you will only cause them more mental harm in the long run.
Don’t make your young children have to be the most mature person in the room. They should be allowed to be a kid.
Be at least somewhat involved in your kids lives, if you’re not don’t be surprised when they don’t choose to involve you in their lives as they get older.
Children’s medications aren’t scams, they have different doses for a reason (the reason is usually risk of overdose).
This will obviously very from med to med, but most stuff over the counter will be exactly the same for adults and children, just with instructions for children to take less.
For example, both children’s and adult’s liquid acetaminophen (paracetamol) are sold in the US at a strength of 160mg/5mL, and they will both have the same instructions for children under 2, children 2-11, and people 12+
I know you have my life mapped out, because as someone who desperately wants kids, it’s impossible not to do that. But don’t assume a kid is going to follow that plan. Some kids are gay. You both handled that news really, really well, but for real, why did you have to assume I was straight to begin with? I wish I could have told you when I was 14, but I had to deal with not being the thing you thought I was. As a result, I’m 32 and still don’t have kids, because I got a really late start on the whole dating someone thing, and I’ve still never brought anyone home. It’s not your fault, but next go round, try not to box your kids the way you were boxed in.
Also, Mama. Leave his ass. Do not marry him. It doesn’t matter how upset Grandmama will be, she’ll get over it. Just tell her you love her, and go raise that baby alone.
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