I just can’t understand how parents can treat their kids that way. And worse, refuse to be in their grandkids lives!
My “mum” has always been a spiteful, hate filled birch. We haven’t had the best relationship and as a kid I used to get the utter shit beat out of me when I did anything wrong. So I’d act up all the time. Get told I was just like my “piece of shit” biological father, who tried to kill me and had never been part of my life.
Despite all this and despite a lifetime of being out down by her, I remained in contact. Big mistake. It all came to a head in January of this year. I’m 7 months no contact with her - I don’t have her bringing me down, deadnaming my kids and generally being a horrid bastard. So much better!