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vivavideri, in My (30M) fiance (38F) is angry that I got my daughter 5 pairs of running shoes

You know what, any time somebody starts trying to drop “IT’S THE JOB OF [insert gender here] TO DO _____,” my eyes glaze over. Like real hard.

Shardikprime, in My (30M) fiance (38F) is angry that I got my daughter 5 pairs of running shoes

Oops

nukeworker10, in My (30M) fiance (38F) is angry that I got my daughter 5 pairs of running shoes

0pp

clay_spine, in OOP learns a hard lesson about herself

I’m so glad these are getting reposted on lemmy because it was my absolute favorite thing on reddit and I miss it. So thank you!

As for this, it is so weird how people can go for years without addressing some minor misinterpretation. And then it becomes this crazy shit that blows up in someone’s face.

Leax, in OOP learns a hard lesson about herself

Wow. Sounds like she dodged a lot of bullets and can start getting a better life and friends.

vivavideri, in OOP learns a hard lesson about herself

Wow, it must be tough for people to go through life with this level of insurmountable insecurity, like… holy shit.

angrystego, in OOP learns a hard lesson about herself

Do people call unrelated children that they’re fond of a nephew/niece, just like in some families children call friendly adults uncle/aunt?

SharkEatingBreakfast,
@SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz avatar

You don’t need to be blood-related to consider someone family.

I grew up with a babysitter who I now call an aunt. She grew up with my family and we became involved in each other’s lives, to the point where our closeness and love for each other makes us a family.

It can be cultural, too.

cabbagee,

Same for me. Very few of my aunts and uncles are by blood. I didn’t think twice about it growing up. My close friends and I have the same relationship. Love isn’t a finite resource and chosen family is an extension of that.

angrystego,

So what about the niece/nephew terminology - is it used in your case?

cabbagee,

Yup. Same as blood relatives.

angrystego,

Yeah, it’s the same in my bubble, friends of parents are often called aunts/unckes. But for some reason I’ve never heard any of them call their friends’ children nephews/nieces.

Vodik_VDK,

A long time ago a roommate of mine had a baby, and as he came of age all of our friends took it upon themselves to make their introductions as Uncle This or Aunt That. I remembered how confusing that was for me as a kid, so when Mom eventually spoke up on the matter I offered her Frunkle and Fraunt as an alternative title.

I don’t talk to her anymore but I do sometimes wonder if she’s still using that word.

Raisin8659,
@Raisin8659@monyet.cc avatar

Yeah, could be cultural. There’s a Buddhist teaching that you should treat your good friend’s kids like your own.

angrystego,

I understand that. I’m more interested in the terminology in the adult->child direction.

SCB,

Yes. My dad’s friends were also my uncles (and I have 8 actual uncles so it’s not like we were short on uncles), and I am an uncle to all my close friends’ kids

angrystego,

Yeah, but do they call you their nephew/niece?

SCB,

Some do! I certainly say that.

Kyoyeou, in OOP is gifted laser tattoo removal by her mother-in-law

Wholesome way to end it!

Kyoyeou, in My wife and her best friend accused me of having an affair, then got angry when I didn't have one

I have to say OOP seemed to be a nice person aware of the right things to do. Wishing him well

Knusper, in My Wife has scammed multiple people, and lied to me about it

I especially don’t understand why she did this. If finances were actually that dire, then surely OOP would have know about it and mentioned it. With OOP working out of state, you’d also hope that this job is worth the time…

deconstruct,

I don’t get it either. Guessing it’s a small thrill from scamming people or she needs money for drugs.

BURN,

The worst petty shoplifters are upper-middle class teenagers (generally girls)

It’s not out of need. It’s out of a sense of entitlement that they can get out of any consequences.

Pieisawesome,

It’s not a sense of entitlement. It’s the adrenaline rush of stealing

AdmiralShat, in My Wife has scammed multiple people, and lied to me about it

Buuuuut

adam_y, in My Wife has scammed multiple people, and lied to me about it
@adam_y@lemmy.world avatar

Sure does say “buuut” a lot.

mayonaise_met,

She’s a fan of French soccer

Zagorath,
@Zagorath@aussie.zone avatar

Expliquez s’il vous plait ?

UdeRecife,
@UdeRecife@literature.cafe avatar

But (sound: boo) is how you celebrate a soccer goal in French.

NumbersCanBeFun, in My Wife has scammed multiple people, and lied to me about it
@NumbersCanBeFun@kbin.social avatar

Not my cup of tea but I appreciate what you’re trying to do here. Sorry others don’t get it. I understood what’s going on right away.

Black_Gulaman, in My Wife has scammed multiple people, and lied to me about it
@Black_Gulaman@lemmy.dbzer0.com avatar

Why post another person’s story, our advice won’t help the original poster.

What’s the point?

PassingDuchy, (edited )
@PassingDuchy@lemmy.world avatar

Bestupdates is an archival community bringing together all the parts of a posted saga into one post. It’s not for giving advice to the original OP. To do that you should follow the info at the post start and link at the bottom to track down the original posts from the original OP.

tl;dr- this is a voyeur community, not an advice community

Black_Gulaman,
@Black_Gulaman@lemmy.dbzer0.com avatar

Aw shit, I apologize, I didn’t read the community, I thought I was on relationship advise or something.

nei7jc, in My Wife has scammed multiple people, and lied to me about it
@nei7jc@lemmy.world avatar

Is this your story?

Mr_Blott,

Christ on a bike man, read the first and last lines!

nei7jc,
@nei7jc@lemmy.world avatar

It was a joke, oh my gosh

I guess I should have put a tone indicator

UdeRecife,
@UdeRecife@literature.cafe avatar

Is this your story?

Is this your story?

Is this your story?

If I were to tell you that the first was a joke, the second sarcasm, and the third a genuine question, how would you differentiate them?

Remember that text is lifeless. There’s nothing there except the markings on the page.

Thus, you should never fault the reader for not getting your intention. It’s on you to make that clear.

nei7jc,
@nei7jc@lemmy.world avatar

I’m aware, I should have used a tone indicator.

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