I (F21) am dating M(21) who is a drop out

I am not the OOP, OOP is /u/Comfortable_Mix_3243. Originally posted to /r/askSingapore

We have been together 2 years in a stable relationship. But we had our toxic on-and-off breakups for 2 years before ending it officially, then getting back together in a stable relationship (now). So that explains why my family is not having a really good impression of him. We have been dating secretly for 2 years now. Both our families know we are dating, just that they don't know its the same partner.

I have not introduced him to my family and I'm scared to do so cos idk how and what kind of response I'm gonna get. I honestly get stressed when I think about 'what if my family does not like him'? I don't know what I will do then, because I can't abandon my family but I really do not want to leave him.

Another problem that comes with this is that he is a drop out and has no intention to earn money for now. He is focusing on his dreams, and aspirations and I fully support that. But I can't help and wonder what happens if I marry him. What about our financial issues? I am going to graduate in about 1.5 years and my starting pay is low- in fact, this industry is known for being underpaid. So I can't depend on him to pay for housing, food, car etc. He said that if his dreams dont work in 10(?) years, he will start looking for a job. I am not sure how to feel about that- he does not have any working experience and does not even have a degree.

Idk how to feel about this whole situation, but I do know that I want to work it out with him. Hopefully anyone with similar experience can share?

UPDATE 1

Hi 🙂 First of all, thank you all for the comments and messages- I was not expecting so many people to respond and give insight. I have read most of the comments (appreciate all, either good or nasty) and I understand the shared consensus. I would like to clarify some things before I get new messages and comments 🙂

Is he financially dependent on me. He is not financially dependent on me now. I have seen several comments mentioning "leeching off" and would like to address that. We go on dates occasionally and always we pay alternatively- meaning he pays for one full date and I pay the next. I have offered to pay for some of his equipment (used for chasing his dream) and he has turned me down multiple times.
His dream. Everyone is asking about his dream to have a clearer picture. Out of privacy reasons, I will not be stating his dream specifically. All I can say is that he wants to be the best in an Olympic sport (in fact, he wants to be a national representative).
His reason for not working. His reason is that the time spent on working, can be spent on chasing his dream and working on it. He wants to not 'half-ass' his effort spend on chasing his dream. He wants to put full effort and time into his dream.

I just would like to clarify any miscomm and would love to hear from you all. Am intending to talk with him this Sat and will update here again 🙂

UPDATE 2

Hi again, it's Sat and I have talked to him. I'm writing this to pin down my thoughts and hear other people's opinions. Put it simply, the relationship is officially ended.

So I talked to him after his competition and even had his coach talk to me (but mostly, to him). His coach voiced out the same concerns as I have- the chances of being a pro now, his rate of progression, getting a job now, his finances now, and the reality of competing to be at the top.... And the general vibe of how things went down was that he is quite stubborn in doing it in his own ways (believes that his training does not need to be ramped up, believes that work is not as impt, believes that he needs more time). I asked what he wants me to do and said that he wants my emotional support and to give him more time (from the initial 10 years to 5years) to prove himself. We spent close to 2 hours talking about this and came to a compromise that within 1 year if he can't reach the milestone that we both set, I'm leaving. (PS. Later he texted and said that he is not going to follow through after agreeing). So yeah, I just feel that he's too stubborn and unrealistic. As much as I want to support, I need his help and he does not really seem to understand that.

I just felt so drained and tired talking to him, it's like talking to a child/wall. This is one of the reasons why I ended things with him. Another reason is that he is very controlling (in my imo) when it comes to me talking to guys.
I showed him some of things yall have said, just to give him a better idea of the general consensus and he clicked onto 1 of the profile and immediately got defensive, asking me to block him because of his comment history. And I was casual chatting with a guy friend online about my situation, and again he got angry that I was texting him and said that I was "lacking emotional maturity". He took my phone without my permission, blocked the account, and erase my chats with my online friend. This is not the first time that it happened. He has asked me to block and cut all contact with my close guy friends before (and I stupidly did so). So there's that and that is when I made up my mind to leave this rs. He then later texted and said that my period affecting the way I treat him and the breakup situation (sigh...)

I think his actions and mindset has shown me a lot about him. I have nothing against him, truly just wishing him well for his own future. At this point, I just hope and pray I can get through my healing and breakup cycle.

So that's the update. Thank you for everyone's support and comments, it really gave me the push and confidence to talk about it, and rethink about the rs and its red flags 🙂