I dislike the "So in other words you mean that <add_something_negative>" technique used in a conversation. Especially if it's not in a form of a question but rather a statement.
"What do you mean by that?"
"Do you mean that <add_something_negative>?"
A nicer way to put it, in my opinion 🤗 Takes more of the blaming out of the reply, keeping it a bit more neutral ❤
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Don't get me wrong - sometimes it is needed to assess negative things people do.
But it can be done in a more polite way.
No need to be more harsh than what a situation/conversation really needs.