After asking for months or years for her to stop making me raise my voice and yell back, I started responding in a shitty tone like “WHAT?? WTF DO YOU WANT” which is a negative thing to have to do. But that had no effect either, other than perhaps a negative one on me psychologically.
Not saying this is a cool thing to do or a conscious decision, it was just driving me really fucking insane to ask her to stop 5 times a day for over a year and she kept doing it. So she’s either totally oblivious, didn’t give a fuck that it was frustrating me, or it was intentional.