I have no idea why you thought I claimed you were looking for sympathy. You must not have actually read it properly. I said you are not giving sympathy. And yeah - I didn’t give you an explanation, exactly because other people have. That’s kinda the point I was making - others have already explained it to you, and your bewildered “oh golly gee, people aren’t that mean!” attitude struck me as resisting to believe people can actually be so cruel. Not just aghast at it, but refusing to actually believe they are telling the truth and not just mistaken.