LadyLikesSpiders

@LadyLikesSpiders@lemmy.ml

I’m a lady; I like spiders. I like a lot of other things too, like other bugs, and snakes, and other oft-unappreciated creepy critters. I like Heavy Metal, and D&D, and Victorian things, and videogames, and anime, and I also like to fuck

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LadyLikesSpiders,

Imagine selling a service by virtue of the quality of your service. Ridiculous

LadyLikesSpiders,

Good stick pic. It’s so long 😳

LadyLikesSpiders,

Well if the taxes are misused, stolen, otherwise not finding their way to where they should be, the sentence remains true

LadyLikesSpiders,

A whole-ass functioning society

What are your experiences with polyamory, first or second hand?

I personally am in a phenomenally stable polyamorous relationship. I’ve been married to my wife for 12 years, and she has had the same boyfriend for about half of that time. It’s a really fulfilling arrangement for all of us in various ways. We’re all genuinely happy and satisfied. I’m kind of casually looking for a...

LadyLikesSpiders,

Yeah, I just think the poly relationship has more places where things can go wrong. In a monogamous one, you need to two people who like each other and are compatible. In a poly, even with only 3 people, you need A and B to be compatible, A and C, and C and B. Adding one extra person into the mix complicates the relationship 3-fold depending on the nature of those relationships. They don’t all have to be in a relationship with one another, but you’re still adding more avenues for drama and collapse in one relationship, not to mention how one relationship could impact the other. If A is having drama with C, the frustration of that failing connection could also impact their relationship with B. I think it’s easier to fail not by any sort of moral failing of polyamorous people, only that the nature of those relationships is inherently less stable through its myriad of moving parts

But there is for sure an element of bias, where heteronormativity gets a pass for being the standard

LadyLikesSpiders,

I’m monogamous myself, but personally know two different polyamorous relationships. 1 is pretty damn good, and the other is rife with drama. Besides that, I tangentially know of others, and all of those are rough, though since I’m hearing of these from mutual friends and acquaintances, I could just be getting the juicy drama and none of the good parts. Could very well be that my info on those are bad

It does seem to mirror the general expectation, though, that most are unstable, and I wouldn’t call it surprising. Relationships are complicated, and anything that has more moving parts is going to be more complicated. I’m not trying to suggest here that monogamy is the way to go by any means–different people have different wants and needs, and some people are just good for polyamory. I just think that a working arrangement like this is tough to pull off

Besides, this gets asked a lot about polyamorous relationships, but there are so many fucked heteronormative relationships, and you never see the argument that monogamy is wrong, so yeah. Just whatever makes you happy

LadyLikesSpiders,

MFer blows himself up. He’s his own weakness

LadyLikesSpiders,

Would love a world without rickrolling tbh. One of the jokes I never really got

LadyLikesSpiders,

I’ll agree to that for sure. A marked improvement

LadyLikesSpiders,

I’m a lover of the romantics. I don’t have any one favorite, but I like me my Liszt, Brahms, Chopin, Mussorgsky, Schubert. Not that I don’t like others. Mozart, though not a romantic, is one of my favorites

LadyLikesSpiders,

Erl Koenig is basically a black metal song 200 years early, and I love it

LadyLikesSpiders,

I was a part of a handful of communities on reddit, but now I’m here 😅

Women’s and feminist communities, stuff about spiders, BDSM and kink stuff (though just discussions, not posting anything), a handful of gaming and modding communities, tabletop games, and history stuff

IRL I was a part of the local TTRPG scene that would meet and play at game stores, but then Covid hit and I never went back to that. Played online for a bit, and am playing in person again, but now just with friends, not so much a community

Also a part of the local metal scene. Not in a band myself, though I filled in for guitar for a band a few times. Really, I just know a bunch of people in the scene

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