I mean kinda is true though? Ignoring an easy fix just so you can keep complaining about the problem makes it feel like you don’t actually care about the issue, you just wanted any excuse to complain at me. On our end, the problem and feelings of frustration surrounding it weren’t “invalidated” until you decided continuing to be frustrated was more important than having a possible answer to the issue.
We want you to stop complaining about it because the problem is addressed and isn’t a problem causing frustration anymore. NOT because we’re just annoyed hearing you talk and want to shut you up and invalidate your feelings about the problem.
If anything this narrative of “oh God just shut up” invalidates OUR feelings about being gaslit for trying to fucking help.
It’s the relationship equivalent of watching conservatives go on and on and on and on about underage pregnancies when multiple institutional remedies are right there, and they proceed to ignore those solutions in favor of getting to continue complaining about the problem.
Why is it my responsibility to validate feelings you yourself are telling me are just kvetch that you actively choose to keep being mad about instead of addressing to not waste energy on being angry.
TBF Zoomers and Alphas look to be inheriting that tech illiteracy
To me it seems that the most effective regulations are to ban the use of black box algorithms in content presentation, create a tiered list of required security standards to be licensed to handle different kinds of sensitive information, nationalize the telecom lines and force all them to share those lines and compete equally in all markets except if they’re a municipal telecom, require social networks to federate via a unified social networking protocol to break the monopoly of “it’s where my friends are”, require multi factor authentication to prevent mass botting, and to require services above a certain number of active users to provide an ad-free version for an equal value to the average advertising profit per user.
Is it actually wanting to be supported if you don’t want support, just to bitch and moan about a problem that has a solution?
Why should you be supported and heard when you’re complaining about a problem caused by someone not being able to solve 2+2?
There is an answer, it has a simple implementation, it will fix the problem, and you’re getting mad it was offered because “I just want to be heard!”
This isn’t the fucking MeToo movement where women are being spoken over and shut up by institutional violence, this is women deciding feeling valid is more important than addressing the fucking problem that’s making them feel whatever feelings they think need validating more than the problem needs solving.
“Why can’t we just enjoy the problem a bit?” BECAUSE IT IS A FUCKING PROBLEM, IT BY DEFINITION IS NOT SOMETHING ANYONE ENJOYS, JUST FUCKING SOLVE THE PROBLEM AND STOP GASLIGHTING PEOPLE FOR OFFERING SOLUTIONS TO IT.
Just because women do it does not mean it is a healthy and valid response to a situation, and this kvetch about “solutions bad” is the crowning example of this.
We heard the problem, we are supporting you by offering help to solve the problem. You are the one invalidating shit by rejecting solutions in the name of continuing to have a problem to feel valid and complain about.
What you said is true but what’s also true is that millennials are so crushed under grind culture and financial burdens that they don’t have the time to parent that used to be the norm, so where overworked boomers let the TV raise their kids, parents today are letting the iPad do it, which is turning out to be exponentially worse for development.
Mexicans regularly joke about their northern states being wannabe Americans, the pacific northwest plays host to dueling movements that insist “Cascadia” should be its own country, I say dueling because they frequently differ on if this state should be a white ethnostate or a bio-regional communist hippytocracy.
The point here is that despite having some of the most well defined borders in the world, the North American trio are basically just a set of siblings in a spectrum from largely indigenous central Americans in the south of Mexico to the last flickers of Maritime Canadian Gaelge in Nova Scotia to Anchorage probably being one of the sneakily most important cities in the world geopolitically, and with infinite multitudes of spectrums between.
Two sibling eagles and their little sister jay who’s smarter than the both of them.
I like seeing some of the shenanigans people get up to with hot dogs,
IDK why it seems like a kind of food where people tend to just stick to the basics a lot more than with other similar foods like burgers and pizzas.
So far the fanciest I’ve gotten with it is wrapping the sausage with a strip of bacon, lining the bun with ketchup and a little relish, and then topping it with a line of ketchup.
I’ve thought about experimenting more but I feel like I need more space in the bun and for the hun to be sturdier for it to hold anything more than that.