Generally it’ll do something like make one person do more damage and take less, but if the skill gap is too big it really won’t make a difference if they can never land a hit. Personally I’m a fan of “I can’t use X” or “I will only use Y.” It allows everyone to still have a challenging and fair feeling time, instead of pounding away at a punching bag that one hits you which just doesn’t feel great for anyone.
Right you just have to find a sweet spot handicap to use. You can absolutely both be challenged at the same time, just find the right equivalent of tying one arm behind your back.
Do you think stereotyping is okay just because someone else does it? Nevermind the misogynistic implications of basing a woman’s value on her usefulness “in the household.”
What I’ve started doing is telling myself “I’m going to shoot for 7-8 hours of sleep.” When I hit the point where it’s 8 hours before I need to wake up, I settle in and try to sleep but feel a lot less stressed about it because I’ve given myself an hour of acceptable leeway.