What if your nature is in constant problem solving mode, my life and work revolve around solving problems so it’s a natural neurological pathway.
If that’s why you’re problem solving then your urge Problem solving is for you and about you . Not for them. If you’re making room for someone in your life that means letting things also be about them.
Should someone like that work overtime to suppress how they think about a situation, and stay quiet
Again: making it about you and how it’s inconvenient for you.
until they formulate some method of discussion and acknowledgement of the problem, without offering solutions?
Sometimes it is about them finding their voice. And at times it’s about letting them learn. It can be empowering for them to grow.
You might offer help when asked or when you know someone definitely is incapable. But let others have their space and their journey too especially if you know they are capable.
Problem solving is sometimes a problem in and of itself especially in situations of where it’s enabling or stifling others or stopping you from connecting to them.
For those who refer to themselves as ‘their nature to fix things’: you know who else just goes out of control fixing things and can’t stop? cancer cells. They don’t do too well in reading the room either. You are more than just a cell. You have ears to listen and eyes to read and a brain capable of understanding how empathy works.
It’s probably best to assume if a person has been living with a problem for more than 3 days that they’ve tried everything that can be searched or obtained within 24 hours. And you may have just learned about it mere seconds ago from a simple search on google. Grilling them on everything they tried after they just told probably 3 doctors and all their closest relatives is gonna come off really dismissive and critical particularly of their own ability to problem solve their own problems.
I don’t. I’m responding to the argument that headphones are not what they used to be. that is incorrect. There is more selection and varying types should one be selecting a pair.
Yeah it’s very expensive but ngl the people I did end up meeting took dating so much more seriously than the free apps. The conversations had a lot more honesty and such a relief after the bullshit I had gone through on the free apps. Made them look like a joke. I only joined it for a month but for me it was all I needed at that time.
Bumble was decent too. But the selections can be up or down.
Meet(.)com worst piece of crap ever. It’s on level of human trafficking.
Plenty of fish should be renamed to plenty of flakes.
Okcupid was rough. It took me so many dates and I managed to meet one or two decent people out of say…50 dates. We ended up as good friends and nothing more which was actually really cool. Nice meeting friends. But still, too many people to find one or two decent people to interact with is exhausting.
I had a decent relationship from bumble back in the day.
Eharmony was best so far. You have to pay so it really does prefilter out the flakes and I felt like my time wasn’t wasted as much as other apps. Perhaps it is because people paying for something take it a whole lot more seriously.
Aboriginals we’re even denied a seat in politics just in the last few months. I remember being shocked they voted in Tony abbot …who for years screamed about women’s menstruation in parliament. Australia is super backwards.
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