Nah I feel ya, I’ve been seeing all the various configurations since I came to Lemmy. I’ve just had a hell of a summer work-wise (6-7 days a week, yay being a small business owner) plus a good amount of travel for weddings and the like, so I just haven’t had the time to sit down with it all. One of my clients has a whole bunch of 2 year old metal and SAS drives they’re giving me in a few weeks once they get underway with operations due to a corporate upgrade, and once I slow down for the winter season I fully intend on diving into this.
I’ve had a Plex server running on FreeBSD for years, I just haven’t set it up since moving back in June. But I’m getting really tired of all the bullshit from these streaming services, and I’m looking forward to taking back control of my entertainment. I just have to make it palatable to my wife lol.
Nice. I’ll be honest, I never bothered with tiktok, only Instagram. And even that got to a point where I just gave up and tossed it. Even Reddit was weird like that.
I think you don’t really grasp the concept of a hivemind, where users of a platform tend to have collective set of views deemed acceptable and unacceptable by the community. It doesn’t necessarily make them wrong, it just means that it is a view or opinion that runs contrary to that of the community. Reddit was a shit show for that (and I know you came from there due to your use of karma), and Lemmy has it too. The entire purpose of the up vote/downvote system is to increase/decrease comment ranking based on users perception of comment quality, though people tend to use it to show disapproval (as you did with my previous comment). There is no "normal’ when it comes to this, as it is entirely dependent on the instance and subcommunity’s collective views.
Furthermore, let me introduce you to the actual definition of gaslighting, per Merriam Webster:
1 : psychological manipulation of a person usually over an extended period of time that causes the victim to question the validity of their own thoughts, perception of reality, or memories and typically leads to confusion, loss of confidence and self-esteem, uncertainty of one’s emotional or mental stability, and a dependency on the perpetrator
2 : the act or practice of grossly misleading someone especially for one’s own advantage