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[Discussion] What is your Thanksgiving strategy?

Every Thanksgiving since I was a child, I’ve had to make something for Thanksgiving. Typically, and I think this goes for many Americans (and presumably Canadians cause they have a similar Thanksgiving), this involves sharing the kitchen with way too many cooks. It can be difficult to know what tools you’ll have in an...

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Hiding in the kitchen is a very important part of the cooking process.

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They are the best and are both in The Food Lab. I think most people make those recipes, especially the stuffing. An alternative meat and a break from pure starch is needed.

The gravy shaker is to dissolve the flour easier. You take some liquid out and mix it with the flour in the shaker and pour it back in. Its apparently a sin to not have one in the Midwest. Even though I can do the same thing with a whisk and I only make gravy at most once a year for Thanksgiving. I think I have used it once

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That is a great point and I wish they went further on the better social safety nets. If you really want healthy children that should be the focus regardless of gender of the parent. I think its odd when people talk about how marriage is only for children or you need to be married to have children its gross and so old fashioined.

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Navigating interpersonal relationships in a time of evolving gender norms and expectations “requires a level of emotional sensitivity that I think some men probably just lack, or they don’t have the experience,” he added.

I like the quote above about this topic but it does still seem like men are the problem. The problem is that we as a society haven't taught those skills and worse yet reinforce the opposite. We should be concerned with men's internal lives and mold them to fit into modern society

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I don't think most people who get married do it for religious reasons or even to start a family in the US anymore. People do it since they see it a formal a commitment and want to announce their love in public.

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The current assumptions and expectations that society has about monogamy and commitment are insane. The idea that one person should meet all of your social, relationship and sexual needs is insane. Especially for those people who consider being attracted / look at other people / looking at porn to someone else as cheating. Like you don't stop feeling physical attraction or even get crushes if you are committed. You just don't do anything that violate other peoples trust.

The queer communities take on monogamy and commitment that does have any assumptions is really the best method going forward. Not to mention the removal of gender expectations for house work etc. Its exactly like you described it. An on-going discussion about what your commitment means and what is and isn't allowed. It priories the relationship over everything else.

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Always remember to talk through any assumptions or expectations up front. It will save lots of issues in the future

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Exactly. People and relationships should change and mature. We should also look at different measures of success. A couple of was married for 15 years and then got a divorce but don't hate each other. That is a successful relationship but it didn't last an entire lifetime

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Agreed. No one's to blame but should work on fixing it

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Whenever I hear people talk about marriage rates and birth rates I get disgusted. Like we're a bunch of animals in a zoo

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It always does on mensliberation. Just got to get used to it and plan on it

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I don't think that is going to be happening for a long time. It took decades for gays and lesbians. The marrying of a primary partner is the best solution so far.

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I am sick of long videos or videos in general. I miss reading articles because they are faster and I can do it at work

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Exactly. Do better with your money. Hire garden hermits. Make beautiful timeless jewelry or make your own museum. What do they do? Spend it on Super PACs, cars, ugly modern houses and stupid business investments.

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My dnd group has a garden hermits outside their base. Well the garden hermits is just one part of the multi personality monster in the basement but same idea

Give me your favorite Halloween meals! (beehaw.org)

So I know Halloween isn’t a day with a huge meal tradition like xmas or tday, but I’m having some dear friends stay with me that weekend and I would love to cook up something Halloweeny. So I’m curious, do any of you have any go-to meals/dishes for Halloween? No real requirements here, it can be outright spooky/gross or...

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That actually sounds good. Meatloaf isn't something I would think of

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Don't forget to add some acid. I recommend apple cider vinegar

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I usually get it at a high end grocery store here but that is usually cultivated or mass harvested. Not sure how to best get tribal harvested but I'm sure you can find some online

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In the fall I want it in everything

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I always hated Halloween food that were suppose to be gory or spooky. They end up just looking dumb and don't taste good. Go with a traditional autumn food. I recommend bread and soup.

We have been making these:
https://lundsandbyerlys.com/wild-rice-soup/
https://www.gimmesomeoven.com/cozy-autumn-wild-rice-soup/

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I like this article but I feel like it's missing a few things. It's missing some details about how normal male sexuality is demonized by the current sex negative culture. This includes simple things such as wanting to look at porn, wanting to masterbate and being attracted to multiple people. These are demonized into saying that men are pigs and this doesn't even fit the kink desires that most men get at puberty. This are completely demonized as some perverted desire especially those unmanly submissive desires. Even the as simple desire to be watched as a sexual being. This sex negative push drives great shame and anger especially towards those who can be viewed as a sex object. This drives a hate towards women and gay men who can dress sexy or slutty while the traditional manly man can't at all.

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All of the workers shortages always come down to the same things. Money for the workers which have been sacrificed for the business to be as profitable as other businesses. I know that for something like construction this can only be done by skimping on quality or screwing over workers.

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