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harmonea, to cooking in It's getting to be soup season. What are your favorite soups?
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I have a clone recipe for Chili's chicken enchilada soup that I love making. Don't do it often though as it's like 50% cheese....

harmonea, (edited ) to asklemmy in Is it actually possible to change your personality
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I haven't looked into the benefits of electroshock with BPD, but I'd recommend taking a look at Dr. Daniel Fox's workbook for an at-home DBT/attachment theory foucsed program. BPD is one of the few PDs that has been provably shown to be able to change. If you have $30 or so to spare, it can't hurt.

harmonea, to asklemmy in Is it actually possible to change your personality
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It's a slow and difficult process, but yes. There are certain personality disorders that can be provably put into "remission," and if people with conditions that severe can change their personalities, anyone can.

You have to learn how you've been conditioned to think and feel the way you do, and get a lot of self-discipline re: stopping to notice your feelings, figure out why they're arising, think through the consequences of acting on them, and choosing a better way.

I hate to use terms like this since they're so often the territory of conspiracy nutjobs, but you're basically deprogramming yourself. For example, a sensitive person who's been exposed to a lot of bullying might have learned some pretty intense defensive reaction, so you'd have to stop every time you think "what did he mean by that?" and think of why that's your first reaction, then choose to believe the best possible meaning even though your feelings scream at you not to. And you'd maybe keep a journal to remind yourself of all the times you were right to assume the best, since a defensive mind discards the positive and overemphasizes the negative.

This sort of thing is best accomplished with the aid of a mental health professional, but there are workbooks you can get if that's out of cost/feasibility reach for you. You'd need to know your deal to know which ones to focus on.

harmonea, to memes in Saw a news story people about people getting arrested for at Wal-Mart for forgeting to scan one item
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Do you not know that actual news clips from actual news outfits get posted on youtube sometimes

harmonea, to memes in Please stop
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People see it as a way to spread awareness about the fediverse alternatives that are out there. Like "hey, if you like this, there's more where that came from." It's not for viewers who are already here, but for those where the post inevitably travels.

I dunno. Both watermarking and being annoyed at the watermarks seem like a waste of energy to me. If people are going to generate content, I'm not going to sass them about how unless it makes something about the content worse (harder to read etc).

harmonea, (edited ) to unethicallifeprotips in Rent requirements in the US are nuts
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The guy implied that enjoying time alone at home is wrong. Introverts enjoy time alone at home. I didn't say introverts only enjoy time alone at home, and I'm not doing this thing where I need a dozen disclaimers proving I really do know what the words I used mean every time I want to make a one-line quip.

Also why are y'all assuming she moved to NYC on purpose? Can no one just be from there originally and move from a roommate arrangement to a studio? Please lol

harmonea, to unethicallifeprotips in Rent requirements in the US are nuts
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Ah yes, your city must be under "this" size for introverts to be allowed. I always forget about that law.

harmonea, to asklemmy in Do people become less of a twat as they age?
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Everyone has a bad day now and then. It sounds like a lot is eating at you. You might be dealing with more than your fair share people who haven't gotten the help they need to learn why they're twats and how it hurts them and everyone around them. I know I was a worse person until I figured out how I got the way I was a few years ago; it took me til the back half of the 30s to start to be better.

I hope you find some peace for yourself.

harmonea, to asklemmy in Do people become less of a twat as they age?
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People are individuals, all going through their own journeys. You might grow and change for the better if you're able to figure out how to be the best you, or you might change for the worse if made bitter by a life where it feels like no one is on your side and you have to take your due since it will never be given.

The important thing is: (1) People are twats for a reason, and (2) You can't fix those reasons for other people and make them less twatty, so the only thing you can control is how you handle less than ideal interactions. (Tip: most well-adjusted people don't jump to "lose hope in humanity"; the fact that you have means there's work you can do here.)

harmonea, to asklemmy in What's the benefit of using Kbin over Lemmy?
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See, the problem here is that you're treating an off-the-cuff casual explanation as a "thesis." Please don't bring this absurd habit over here, where people have to feel compelled to cover absolutely every interpretation and hedge every outlier for fear of getting nitpicked to hell and back. Literally no one enjoyed that environment.

harmonea, to asklemmy in What's the benefit of using Kbin over Lemmy?
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The presence or absence of that single word doesn't change the fact that nothing OP said was wrong eh ;P

harmonea, to asklemmy in What's the benefit of using Kbin over Lemmy?
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So I think super like is misleading

It's literally not. Over here, on top of the "repost to your profile under your boosts section" functionality it's intended to have, it also counts as 2x rep for the poster. It really, truly is also a "super-like."

harmonea, to asklemmy in Should an altruistic organ donor be allowed to restrict their donation to a specific group of people? (e.g. women, gingers)
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What conditions are you imagining in which a donor is living but not aware of specifically who would be receiving the organ before agreeing? Tests need to be done to ensure compatibility, and a kidney is a lot to ask and probably wouldn't be agreed to unless it helps a loved one.

I feel like this is a strange premise whose goal is trying to try to move the line little by little until people are willing to say they're a little bit racist/sexist. Or until people are willing to admit they don't think others should have control over decisions made about their bodies. Be honest about your ends here instead of dreaming up fictions that make so little sense the answers are unproductive.

harmonea, to asklemmy in What series did you rewatch most often?
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Firefly, short (sadly) and never not fun

First 5 seasons of Supernatural, when they had a story to tell and not an IP to milk

Last 3~4 seasons of Deep Space Nine, after the focus shifted from the soap opera to the war

Fate/Zero and Unlimited Blade Works, often as familiar background noise when I'm not able to 100% pay attention, like a security blanket

Persona 5, faster than a replay of the game and the main character actually gets to talk

harmonea, to asklemmy in Those who tried Linux and went back to Windows, what caused you to go back to Windows?
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You're not wrong, but running Linux directly correlates to more time spent on "tech forums in general," so it's still a bigger problem with that OS than others imo.

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