From what I’ve seen it’s a bell curve most of the time. People grow up and stop being little twats and eventually get to the point where they start to become big twats.
I’ve become MUCH more of a twat as I get older/ now that I’m over 40…
I just don’t have patience for the sillyness anymore. You wanna be a unicorn furry? Sure, whatever, I dgaf just gtfo my way so I can go about my life without your bullshit interrupting me. You wanna spend all your time talking about immigrants or your culture, i’m going to walk away…if you follow and annoy me as that type tends to do, i’m going to take the gloves off and bury your stupid ass with facts based in the reality you insist on avoiding.
Depends, this really depends on what exactly you consider being a twat, how old is the person in question and what kind of people they surround themselves with/what sorts of experiences they go through.
I’ve seen people mature tremendously and they were cases I considered totally hopeless. In contrast I’ve also seen people who appeared to have their sht together, suddenly flop in the most stupid of ways.
This answer I think is the closest. People can get better or worse over time and there are just so many factors. I’ve seen kind people go through horrible tragedies and become bitter and isolated. I’ve seen people who were cutthroat ladder climbers come to realize that the ladders aren’t going to mean anything after a certain point and their legacy is going to be kids who don’t want to spend time with them.
The one thing I’ll say that seems to be often true of men is that when they get older the testosterone is less intense and so life is a little less driven by it.
Everyone get more softy when about to die or even when understanding the vulnerability to not be able to make it alone. Age dosnt matter. Is about experience.
Not everyone…I dated someone in my 20’s, their grandmother was a real asshole to everyone. Even to her dying days, she was throwing things at the door as her son would be coming into the room. Pretty fucked up, I still think back about it as there is someone in my life who’s in pretty bad shape but still doing the same shit to push people away from them. Turning soft on your deathbed isn’t going to help when no one will show up for you at that stage anyways.
Sure there is always exception, still an old grandma can act bad but needs also to get accepted. If the question is take as simple prospective then be grumpy or terrible isn’t in fact associate at the real inside, that real who comes out in actually crisis like the death. Morally speaking you are right, but in life I think morals are most storytelling that true human virtues.
I think people become more dead set in their views but less likely to be outright assholes about them. I think its a combination of lack of energy to be a dick and a dwindling social circle focused on quality relationships over quantity.
Some people will always be assholes though, but the fast majority don't have character disorders.
I agree, but I think it REALLY depends on the person. My family 1000% proves that people only get worse with age. People that were assholes to begin with, only become bigger assholes as they get older, and less capable. Especially if they were "super independent" before. That also seems to hold true, in my experience, for people who were very independent and suddenly lost that, regardless of how they were before. Narcissism seems to increase exponentially too.
I also have some much older friends (like 80s and 90s older), who were always really good people, and are still just honest, down to earth, good people, just a little needier.
I guess what I'm saying is that people don't tend to change, and the person they were as an adult is only amplified as they age, from what I have seen.
Not necessarily. The opposite might happen as people age but never deal with their real problems. Then the problems grow and they become even twatier than before. If anything, kids are the nicest until about 5th grade which is when they learn how to be assholes from adults around them.
People are individuals, all going through their own journeys. You might grow and change for the better if you're able to figure out how to be the best you, or you might change for the worse if made bitter by a life where it feels like no one is on your side and you have to take your due since it will never be given.
The important thing is: (1) People are twats for a reason, and (2) You can't fix those reasons for other people and make them less twatty, so the only thing you can control is how you handle less than ideal interactions. (Tip: most well-adjusted people don't jump to "lose hope in humanity"; the fact that you have means there's work you can do here.)
Everyone has a bad day now and then. It sounds like a lot is eating at you. You might be dealing with more than your fair share people who haven't gotten the help they need to learn why they're twats and how it hurts them and everyone around them. I know I was a worse person until I figured out how I got the way I was a few years ago; it took me til the back half of the 30s to start to be better.
No person should be deprived of shelter food and health care. And people are rightfully angry when their governments don’t provide the bare necessities to people in need.
I would sure hope so. If I look at myself (since that's where I have context) I'd say yes. I think a lot of the shittiness in people's personalities stems from trying to meet their needs (some of them unreasonable) and competing with everyone else to get them. That's a very me versus you mentality which leads to aggression and forms bad personality traits.
I'd like to say that everyone begins to understand wants versus needs after a few decades, and settles down into a pattern of contentment rather than resentment.
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