Not everyone…I dated someone in my 20’s, their grandmother was a real asshole to everyone. Even to her dying days, she was throwing things at the door as her son would be coming into the room. Pretty fucked up, I still think back about it as there is someone in my life who’s in pretty bad shape but still doing the same shit to push people away from them. Turning soft on your deathbed isn’t going to help when no one will show up for you at that stage anyways.