Yuuuup. Half the time you’re the expert* in the room and when heads turn to you you have to push the imposter syndrome down and know your shit and convey it well enough that people will listen.
And having the good sense to know when to say “I need to look that up, let me get back to you”.
Gay dude here. No, not limited by gender. I have to put great effort into not providing solutions when they aren’t wanted. This most often manifests as me realizing I was doing it and verbally acknowledging I lost the plot and encouraging my spouse to continue.
One I like from Malazan Book of the Fallen: “I am not yet done.” The mantra of a man who’s duty it was to bear the souls of the fallen for his faith as it crushed him.
This shit is bad for society, and by extension you. Loan services and schools suck up vast wealth that… goes into rich pockets and widens the income gap. Money that could go to purchasing goods and services, or supporting businesses of any size, or buying houses, or having kids, or paying taxes that could be used on useful things like decent roads (how taxes are used specifically is outside the scope of this discussion, just an example).
Your whole world could be better through loan forgiveness, just not specific to you. Just everything around you better. Just requires a little less “got mine”.
You say that like landlords aren’t going to do it anyway. This argument is predicated on the idea that rates would not go up otherwise, and that’s certainly not true.