The Bible explicitly says in black and white that God hates gender-nonconforming people.
True. Edit: I like to clarify that I define this strictly to God hating people having sex with another of the same biological sex.
Ditto that Christians need to shun gay men.
Logically speaking, it doesn’t follow. It’s equally valid to hold the opinion that “while God hates gender-nonconforming people, I am not supposed to punish them for it.” In fact a famous example to that effect is John 7:53–8:11: “let him who is without sin, cast the first stone”. Practically-speaking, that line of thinking (that Christians need to shun gay men and similar ideas, that is) had dire consequences in the form of witch trials. There, they used the Christian prohibition on witchcraft to purge societies of social outcasts and undesirables who are most probably not witches.