I’m not sure how old you are, but I can say without a doubt that as an adult now, every single person I know is glad that their former relationships ended. Literally every single one.
I know right now it feels like “this is different” but trust me, it’s not. Everyone gets dumped, it happens, and it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you or them. Odds are you just weren’t great together. And I can absolutely, positively, guarantee that you will come out better for this in the end. It will be super tough, but it’ll be worth it.
For now, let yourself feel sad, mourn the loss of the relationship, lean on your friends, and take everything one day at a time. All of a sudden, it won’t hurt anymore and it’ll feel so, so, so much better. Like, life just stopped punching you in the face repeatedly better. It’ll be so relieving and that’s when you’ll really start to figure things out. Don’t try to rush it, it’s totally worth it.
And make bad art. Nothing makes good bad art like heartbreak.
Was a college dropout, working at a factory. A really grimey sweat-shop type place. I had just come to accept that this was my life. Then they needed an IT person for the afternoon shift. Someone told HR that I “knew computers”. I almost didn’t apply, but the HR manager approached me and asked me to. That was about… almost 20 years ago.
5 jobs later and I’m now a professor and finishing up my MSc. Computer Science. That one person who said I knew computers changed my whole life. I’m still not even completely sure who it was.
I brush at least twice a day for 2min 30sec each time. I have an oral b io toothbrush that times it for me, and helps me know when I’m brushing too hard or too soft. I also brush for about 30sec before and after naps, or if I’m about to go out somewhere.
My husband makes fun of me for it, but my teeth are super important to me!