If your marriage is worth it to you, a consider getting on her schedule somehow. Some people just don’t think about that shit. I started waking up before my ex because she was complete chaos every morning. She’d scream and throw things around. She was ultimately diagnosed with BPD right after we had a major crash and burn.
The girl I’m with now is the opposite. She’s calm, considerate, and an all around amazing partner. There are things she don’t think about though. She loudly looks for her pajamas too (she don’t turn the damn light on thank goodness) but I know she cares for me and considers me because she does so much to show it.
She wakes me up to talk too, but we’re roughly on the same schedule. It bugs me when she does, but it legit doesn’t bother her a bit so if I complained she wouldn’t even remotely understand why I was complaining. It’s no big deal to her to wake up and go right back to sleep.
Sometimes you have to make big changes for the sake of your marriage. Some people can work on opposite schedules and get along fine. Some people can’t.
I wouldn’t wish divorce on a modern day Hitler. It was hands down the worst experience of my life. I don’t regret it now because I’m happier now than I’ve ever been. I’m with someone who I work well with and who I love on a level I didn’t even know was possible (as cheesy as that sounds, I’ve never been happy to do things for anyone else like I do for her). She’s someone I legitimately want to make sacrifices for. If I had to go through that shit again though, I don’t even know if I could. I might check out early or just start walking and never look back.
Think back to why you married your wife. I’m telling you, once it’s done you will and it won’t be any fun.
Just hearing my ex talk just about drove me up the wall though haha. It did from the very beginning too. She was just cool as hell and an amazing artist. I admired her when I thought about her, just couldn’t handle her when I was around her. She was so arrogant and certain that she was the best thing on the planet, which was really just her insecurity talking and playing confident somewhat, but god I couldn’t stand it. I legit think she was one of the best writers the world has ever known, but so did she and good god.
Shaving? Haircuts? I can’t stand being in one place long enough to fool with either. I’m pacing around here looking like Jesus Christ right now. I’m almoooossst annoyed enough by my hair to beg someone to cut it or shave it off.
If sit down at my desk and use my pc I’ll click the old Reddit bookmark and go on for about 5 minutes. That has only happened about 3 times since Apollo shut down. I almost exclusively used my phone for Reddit before that. Now I bounce between Voyager and YouTube. YouTube for background noise while I’m working, Voyager when I’m idle.
I don’t play golf but my neighbor does. Here in Appalachia where I am the golf course isn’t even remotely flat. They actually made a pretty interesting setup hidden behind trees.
I’ve seen golfers that really impressed me with their precision. I would imagine that if you’re good at it, it isn’t even remotely boring.
I grew up with Happy Gilmore being my only VHS tape for awhile though, so I’m sure I’m biased haha.
Do what I do. Drive around and scope out the deadest businesses you can find. I’m talking if there’s more than 1 or 2 customers an hour, keep looking.
Apply inside. They usually don’t do online applications.
Once you have the job you can sit and play Steam Deck and Switch all day. Dust and mop once a week to keep it looking sharp, and then play games or take a call center at home job and do it from there. Learn an instrument.
It’s much more fulfilling than slaving away and “growing” for some other muhfucker.
At this point I can play the guitar like a mothafuckin’ riot. Doot doo doot dee doot do doo. Dunt duh dunt duh duh nuh.
I took mine to her 3 year doctor visit yesterday. I noticed little bruises on her hands and I said, “what happened to your hands. It looks like you’re biting yourself.” She replied, “Sissy bite me.” Which I’ve been putting sissy in timeout for. This looked intentional though. Like she had to be a willing participant.
It hit me that she may be encouraging her sister to bite her until she leaves a mark to get her in trouble, so I decided to watch closer.
Last night I seen her take her sister’s head and move it toward her hand a few times. Finally she latched on hard. “Waaaaa, sissy bite me!”
She wanted her sister’s toy and found a way to get it.
She’s doing evil genius shit lol.
I told her, “She’s not gonna get in trouble if you put your hand in her mouth. You’ll be the one to go to timeout.”