Also sex is fun but not some revelatory experience(but what do I know, Im just a lesbian, a group which famously has many more orgasms than average), eo not base your self esteem on having it or not having it.
It also isn’t a substitute for intimacy, which when I talk to people who are weird about not having sex, I see them conflate needing a hug or to express their feelings with having sex.
Do you actually feel it? I don’t feel it at all. Just at some point I am like “oh fuck, I didn’t listen to what they were saying”. And I cannot even remember what I was thinking
I catch myself sometimes half way through someone talking about something where I was fully paying attention for the first bit of them talking and then tuning back in for the end realizing “oh fuck” but it’s the same. My mind just wanders idk even know to what. There are times though where someone asks me a follow up question and I realize I wasn’t paying attention at all beyond the start of them talking.
This is a bit self fulfilling, since saying that immediately makes you less attractive, because you express, that you thingk less of yourself, on the other hand it in creases your chances w/ the boiis, sins you seem funny.
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