The brain is not a singular thing or impulse. Different neurons fire causing desire for different things at the same time (ie. I want to eat candy, I want to lose weight, I want to sit down, I want my house clean).
Some part of the brain calls itself the decision maker and calls itself you, but that doesn’t mean the brain is in agreement or that the decision maker controls the rest of it.
Sure, but I think about studies of traumatic brain injuries and neuroplasticity that have shown that different brains can use different physical parts for creating the same functions of mind, and all the wonderfully atypical brains out there that just work a bit differently but have nothing wrong with them,
And all that makes me think, because we all create that decision-maker (ourselves) a bit differently, we do in fact create that decision maker for ourselves, and that decision maker, in certain limited circumstances, has some independence from the brain that created it
e; I just want to emphasize the “in certain limited circumstances” part, because on second though I’m realizing that this could be read as a “just think your way out of your schizophrenia bro, you’re responsible for it” argument, and that’s definitely not what I want to say. So let’s just say the relationship between brain and mind is really complicated and maybe a bit of a two way street sometimes.
Me being an impulsive dork and dumping her for a far less intelligent girl with bigger breasts who didn’t even really happen even. That was it. Game over. She wouldn’t take me back.
TBH I should’ve ended myself then but was too stupid to even realise that was the better option than living another 20 years without her. Still… I wouldn’t have wanted to hurt my parents. Been distracting myself ever since with lots of other stuff. Can’t do it now because of my kids, and mother still alive. Dad fucked in head with dementia. Oh well. Keep trudging on and now have Lemmy to make stupid comments on. Yay.
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I can blow balloons up with my nose. In fact, I can even multitask and do one with each nostril. I also learned to do them with my nose before my mouth (don’t ask why, I really don’t know. Yeah I can be a bit weird).
Which is exactly why I can’t learn foreign languages. No amount of brute force will make my vocab any better. I can’t remember shit. If I could, this comment would be much more witty and funny.
Maturity plays a much more important role than age. Some people are never fit to marry, some have what it takes by the time they are 16/17. It’s not often that it plays out well for the youngest ones, and since each year brings new experiences and understandings each year moves along the bell curve of “marriage readiness”. So is it more likely that a 24 year old is more ready for marriage than a 18 year old. Yes. Is it guaranteed? No. I know some 50/60 year olds that still aren’t ready for marriage. They just never learned the skills it takes to have a healthy marriage. Giving an age as a hard cutoff is too arbitrary a measure. Age doesn’t guarantee shit.
That’s it, end of thread. Maturity plays such an important factor it’s astonishing it’s not the first thing being discussed instead of an arbitrary number.
As a 27yo, I’m still trying to figure out how to better organize myself. I was one of those kids that never had to take notes in school
And now that’s coming back to bite me, because I’m completely new to note-taking, but am working on large 20yo code bases with tons of tech-debt and spaghetti madness. Along with tons of technical jargon in a completely different field. I just can’t keep all that in my head anymore
The point is, i feel like an adult in certain aspects, and a child in others
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