Best experience: A bunch of strangers getting bored during lockdown and setting up an impromptu hemotology class to amuse each other. This eventually became more of a generalized whatever-today's-instructor-likes class after one user stole the entire show with their brilliant rant about chemistry.
He and I were pretty good friends for a while and though parting ways was inevitable, I'm still sad to have had to. We can't get along, but I do miss him and I wish him well.
Worst experience: every time I posted anything about my mental situation ever. Without fail, İ would come away with multiple of the shallow, dismissive "oHH, if everywhere smells like shit, check your shoes!!" reply. They've never taken the time to think it out, but they know it's snarky enough to win upvotes and shut down the conversation.
I'm forced to assume the people parroting this are themselves abusers irl, because that's sure as shit not a sentiment r/raisedbynarcissists would take well to. Or really any PTSD-centered community/professional. Trying to convince the victim it's their fault is a common tactic, it's what the R in DARVO stands for.
If I needed someone to tell me I deserved to get beat with a table leg, I'd still be talking to my mom.
This is something I really appreciate about Thai culture. Live and let live is such an important way to reduce stress and at the same time have a lot of freedom.
I once had a post blow up and spend two days featured on r/all. It was great to see so many people reacting positively to something I wrote!
I also love the old Reddit switcharoo. Having a big, silly inside joke really made the site feel welcoming.
The worst is that moment when I realize I've been mindlessly scrolling down my front page for who knows how long, just pissing my life away doing nothing of value.
My best experience was help with learning python. The community was great then and a lot of helpful people.
My worst experience was opening up about my sexual abuse that happened to me from the ages of 4 to 14 by my grandfather and brother who is 9 years older than me. Because of the subs rules I had to leave a lot of stuff out. People didn't believe me and started attacking me and calling me a lair when I was just looking for some support after cutting my family off. I had another post but it was on a FB group called tell someone. There I could post all the details. I had to dm all the people attacking me and calling me a liar that FB post. They felt horrible afterwards which wasn't my attention, but thet saw the truth then. It was really discouraging at a time when I didn't have a lot of support from family or friends.
Yeah it's insane how many people immediately jump to call you a liar when you post things like that. I guess the environment's been poisoned by all the people making up stuff for karma. The karma concept sounds great in theory but becomes toxic quickly.
It's annoying AF, much like the habit of people posting comments consisting of "Based" all over the place in recent times. The latter is dying down fortunately, and I hope the R meme meets a quick and painful death very soon.
It's not really a meme. It's from c/196, where the main rule is that you have to post something before you leave, hence why everything is named rule. If you block 196@lemmy.world and 196@lemmy.blahaj.zone that should deal with almost all of the rule posts.
they are only posting the "rule posts" in 196 communities, mostly centered around lemmy.blahaj.zone, but there's a couple of other splinter subs. If you just avoid 196 you wont see it.
The block feature is your friend. Use it liberally and don’t feel bad about it.
Seriously, if everyone blocked communities they disagree with or aren’t interested in instead of resorting to the old toxic behaviors that would be a huge improvement.
My siblings and I are all in our 30s and we still get visits from the Easter Bunny. We go through our baskets in front of our mom and talk about how much we enjoy our gifts from 'the bunny'. I wasn't able to be with my family this year so my Easter basket shower up in a FedEx box. Chocolate is chocolate, I've got no problems with this tradition.
My MIL gives us all presents from "Santa". I'm pushing 50. She thought it was hilarious when I started doing it back to her ("why is Santa's handwriting different on this tag??")
Haha, that's great, your MIL sound fun. We've all been 'bunny's assistant' over the years (helping to buy stuff) but maybe next Easter mom will get her own basket!
Agreed with this. The saddest part of cutting reddit off for me was losing all the sports subs, they were really the only place I routinely posted and interacted with. There reddit did feel like a community instead of just a link aggregator.
I have the feeling most people cling to free will as a concept because not having free will raises questions if a “self” truly exists. However the existence of free will can be as scary if not more, since how could we define a “self” if it could freely do something not based on what defines it.
Tl;Dr: Banned from Ask a Trump Supporter for apologizing.
Once, I was young and care free - an Innocent. I thought: If only they could see the data they would believe! And, I was uniquely prepared to help them see and understand (I was working on Data viz at the time). And so I started posting in Ask a Trump Supporter. And we got into it. And, well, the dude had a point.
When you're wrong your wrong, so I apologized. And, I included a question mark in the apology.
Bam banned just like that for violating rule xyz about asking questions in the comments.
Never been so happy to be banned. Probably saved my marriage.
It’s non profit by default, the very thing that social media needs.
People who run Lemmy servers do it at their own cost. That’s not to say they can’t run ads or choose other ways to become profitable. The big difference between a lemmy instance and something like Reddit is that anyone can start a new instance if the current one goes to shit. If the admins do something the users REALLY don’t like, they can migrate to another instance way more easily than switching platforms.
Reddit is counting on the effort of switching platforms being too high for lemmy to gain traction. They are wrong.
The developers do it for free, which is common in the open source community. There will always be volunteers to build the software and donors to support them.
I have wondered how migrating instances would work. Would anything come with me to a new account on a new instance or is it still similar to moving from Reddit where I'm starting over?
I am already running a server for media streaming, nextcloud and minecraft. For sure i have room to add a small lemmy instance soon, not everything needs to make money or even be electricity even. But for larger instances though they must be gething some donations.
Everything needs to generate some sort of value - I imagine a lemmy instance would generate value for you in the form of learning, or maybe the sense of accomplishment from maintaining a community. That differs from how centralised social media generates value in the form of data or money which is usually at odds with the userbase.
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