Lemmy.world because lemmy.ML recommended it when I tried to sign up there. I’m considering moving to a smaller server though since this one seems to be getting overloaded.
The Lemmy software is intended to be somewhat censorship resistant, but that does not mean that lemmy.ml is a “free speech platform”.
Like most instances, lemmy.ml has rules (they’re in the sidebar on the front page) and we regularly delete posts and comments which violate them.
That instance you’re talking about is intended to be a “free speech platform”, which in modern internet parlance is a synonym for “nazi bar”. One of the two admins of that instance says explicitly: “racism, bigotry, sexism is allowed".
Most Lemmy users aren’t into racism, bigotry, sexism, and the other things people there are into, so, most Lemmy instances have defederated them.
So essentially it’s highly censored to defederate them. Not only you can’t view them using a different instance and post, but registering there, you can only interact with their instance. Lemmy needs a better method. I was thinking about this the other day, why is something as simple as blocking content on the users end or blocking x type of content not an option, even on registration. Even if there’s hate speech mixed in, freedom of speech should exist, but freedom to not hear it, should also exist. Essentially shadow banning, but done by choice of those who don’t want to hear said content.
Racism, bigotry, and sexism, exist in everyone. Maybe there’s just better ways to express it, or not to. But it’s cultural, people want to be with their culture, their people. When you force people to ‘accept’ everyone, they lose their Identity.
I really don’t think Lemmy will survive as everyone will be afraid of getting cancelled and defederated.
I joined Lemmy a few weeks ago when a lot of other reddit refugees were making the switch. A lot of the servers were overloaded, so I just went ahead and hosted my own. My instance is never overloaded because I’m the only user, and because Lemmy is federated I can subscribe to communities on any instance I want.
Perhaps the Italian spelling of the same name, Vitale? I expect anglos to be a bit more used to it than to Slavic names, specially since romanisation adds another layer of complexity. This should stop them from butchering the first vowel, at least.
Keep in mind that no matter the spelling, English speakers are prone to reduce some unstressed vowels until they’re unrecognisable, or to “stress” them randomly; it’s a restriction of the language itself, not the spelling. I kind of predict that they’ll do it with the last vowel of your name no matter the spelling.
Another approach would be to find some similar-sounding local name that you like, I know a few Armenian speakers who did this here in the Southern Cone - for the same reasons as yours, people got a hard time pronouncing their names.
Any way, there’s no “single” answer for that, but I hope that you find one that works for you.
No, I don’t want people to think I’m Italian, but i love Italian language and culture. And i don’t want to change my name completely, maybe i will go with Vito or V+Italy
Decided to go with a smaller instance from the start, as I think we can all see what happens when one entity holds too much power within an ecosystem.
Also wanted to go with one that was not defederated from other instances (nor defederating others as well). Checked a bunch of lists, and decided to go with my current one.
I would definitely suggest losing the second i at the end, that looks weird. Or maybe go for "Vitaly" (which you can tell people spells like V + Italy).
(Incidentally, a couple years back, I had email contact with someone named "Vitalis", which I thought sounded like a female and vaguely flower-y name. Only when we finally met in person did I notice he was male. Somehow he didn't seem too irritated by me having misgendered him in multiple emails though.)
•Lemmy.ml - Signed up here first, was recommended to it as a general place to sign up to
•Lemmy.blahaj.zone - Egg memes, blåhaj memes, just memes
•Lemmy.world - Handy for extra world news communities
•Lemmynsfw.com - Do I need to explain. This is under a different name, but I’ve kinda used that name over on the other place and I’m slowly bringing my content over (plus new stuff)
I’m also on SDF. They’ve been in the business of offering free computing resources to the public since the 80s. So I feel confident that they won’t close up shop due to lack of expertise or resources.
Vito is probably the easiest for your average “what’s your name?” Queries at a coffeeshop. But I think Vitaly would also work since it’s just the word “Vital” with a Y added to the end. I’m sorry you had to move because of the Russians :(
I think Vito is pretty cool name, now they can actually call me, lol Yeah i hate russians because of this, i cant even explain what they’ve done to my country Thank you for your support
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