I interact less on Lemmy compared to Reddit, mostly because people here seem to be very vocal and polarised, so every time I have a notification in Lemmy I start groaning “oh god what did I say this time?”
But still, Lemmy is the cradle of humankind and wisdom, compared to Instagram and Facebook.
I don’t remember did I do anything else than lurk when I initially created my account in Reddit.
I was more active before I stopped creating stuff (and shortened my time of interacting with) in Reddit, and that activity level carried in here.
However, since I think that Lemmy is a smaller place than Reddit and I really want this “seems-better” system to take off, I am trying to contribute some extra resources of mine here to help the cause! (I think Lemmy is the only social media I use)
I live with my folks in a gated community. There’s still dog poop on the sidewalks and in the grass even though there are designated dog poop disposal stations with bags and bins all across the community.
It’s similar to how some people don’t put their cart into a cart corral after loading their groceries even though the corral is nearby. I just boil it down to laziness and apathy at that point.
A LOT more. It’s also in part because I’m not being stalked by Nazis which I was on Reddit, but I feel so much more comfortable talking here in general.
So I have a fake white supremacist Facebook account where I befriend white supremacists and then I would take their photos and put them on r/beholdthemasterrace. It was absolutely glorious to mock those inbred hooded motherfuckers, but then some of them found out their faces were put on Reddit, and they complained to the Reddit admins who opted to permanently ban me as a result. Yes, Reddit took the side of Nazis.
But before my ban they were all messaging me telling me why the white race was superb and all their usual kind of bullshit.
Even if you had, believe me clicking a seemingly random link and seeing yourself is a shocking experience. I know because it happened to me, I do not recommend.
Bean for reading and commenting. It has only one issue and hopefully it will be fixed sooner or later. When someone responds to your comment and you tap to see it, you don’t always land on the right spot in the thread. If it’s a short thread, you’ll be fine, but in a long thread you just can’t find where the comment is. In those situations I use Voyager, Thunder or Liftoff. Once Bean fixes that issue, it’s going to be the perfect Lemmy client for me.
No, I interact more on Reddit. That’s where the community conversation is. Ideally, it would be on Lemmy, but the difference between our ideal state and reality isn’t bridged by wishing it to be the same. There’d need to be practical drivers that push the two into meeting and those drivers don’t exist for Lemmy to reach kind of critical mass that would allow it to be a replacement for incumbent social media platforms.
Lemmy is for people who don’t want those social platforms, or an “also-ran” platform that exists in parallel with them. The federated model which gives it survivability and freedom is also the reason that it won’t have the broad appeal that would allow it to scale to incorporate input from all of society.
Many will rationalize that it’s good to keep the rest of society out of Lemmy too, and I’m not getting into whether or not that’s good, but either way it means that Lemmy will not have the broad adoption that makes the big social media platforms interesting to most people.
I try not to. This place bans you for “not being nice”, which is an arbitrary metric that changes from mod to mod and let’s all be honest, being nice is exhausting. Ask anyone working in retail.
The comments here are correct though. As long as you focus on your niche and it’s relatively active, then stay away from propaganda media, Lemmy can be an useful place. The default All is worthless in anything but lurking and you need to find the communities about your interests or make them yourself if they don’t exist here yet.
Edit: That was close! I almost commented on some dumb take in a doubly dangerous post that involved both current wars. That’s a definite no-no. Just don’t get involved, it’s not worth the trouble.
Reddit bans for not being nice, Facebook, hell even 4chan does. What are you looking for, a place where people can be assholes and “correct”? You don’t want that at all
Well, this ain’t any of those sites. Why would anyone want it to be. Also, your imagination of what i want and my imagination of what i want are likely very different imaginations. So let’s not imagine either of us is “correct” while the loser by popular vote gets banned in the process.
This place bans you for “not being nice”, which is an arbitrary metric that changes from mod to mod and let’s all be honest, being nice is exhausting.
Lemmy is many places (individual instances with individual moderation policies). If it’s important to you, you can find a server which matches your expectations, or host your own.
Even though i used different words, i believe i said pretty much the same thing in the part of my post you’re not quoting. Or perhaps we’ve been taught different kinds of English. Might explain the lack of understanding around here.
Ah, my mistake. I wrote communities, you wrote instances. Yes, the difference is immesureable. My apologies.
I don’t think we were talking about the same thing. You’re talking about restricting your behaviour, “focus on your niche”, “stay away from propaganda media”. My proposal was to use an instance which makes it unecessary for you to restrict yourself to certain areas, if their moderation policy aligns with your default behaviour.
Of course it ultimately comes down to similar things, since instances which do not care wether you’re nice aren’t allowed in all places which require you to be nice. The key difference is still that you don’t have to be wary yourself. It sounded as if you would not like that.
Yes, we might be talking in parallel. It’s true i might be on the wrong side of the fence since i expect that even the hateful deserve their chance to speak, at least until they become irremediable. And i do disagree with this safe space isolative behaviour. Perhaps you are correct and i should instead visit those, and i’m paraphrasing, ‘bigotry-infested phobic hellholes’ for a while and see what’s what.
I’ve always disliked the current state of social media, because it always felt like everyone is shouting at each other rather than talking to each other. That’s why I like having penpals to writing letters back and forth and shoot the shit on whatever, and I’ve blamed Facebook and Twitter for killing that.
I lurked reddit anonymously but I don’t comment much, because it felt like the only place that you can discuss various topics with random people and learn cool things. But part of it is that slowly, it made me miserable, the hivemind with all the arguing and smugness and unfunny one-liners and most of all, the cynicism.
This place is a bit different I think, I really didn’t expect to get as involved as I am, but it kind of brought back that feeling of writing back and forth to random people and having a conversation again.
I’ve made it a goal to read and write more and talk to more people when I have the time to spare right now.
I was mostly a lurker on reddit for many years. Before that was a forum board user, moderator, and even setup a few for sports leagues. Despite being sports centric there was usually off topic sections for politics and other off subject debates. Often these sections became more popular than the sport.
Then it would became drama filled and once a year there would be complaining about all the new summer users once kids were out of school. They would flood the forums with newbie stuff and people would leave the forum and find a new home. Seems like this pattern repeats to the newer socials too.
With FB etc the forum boards seem to lose a lot of that daily traffic over time. FB and other Socials delivered that quick dopamine hit and it didn’t even need to be in the niche the forums were. For those that wanted the niches, FB groups came on the scene.
For me with Reddit it came on one of my early Android phones which was great for reading with. I didn’t comment much as the threads were usually fairly deep with comments and sort of done by that stage. It didn’t have that small town feel like the old forums so I wasn’t as inclined to add much. Still there was plenty to read, perhaps too much as books began to be replaced by socials too. Since I was only a mobile user, the API changes were a great reason to get off reddit and read books again. Still working on that.
I’m finding myself commenting more on Lemmy but like the life cycle of the forums and reddit, it’s only a matter of time when the users reach the tipping point and the feel of the place will change.
So I’m trying to enjoy things as they last these days. Hopefully get some books in there now too…
I miss having pen pals, social media really ruined that for me as well. I still remember when my, then, close friend moved over to Facebook. Our usual bi-weekly exchanges slowly changed into her posting updates and dozens of followers writing simple replies. No longer having the time to write individually. I still don’t know how exactly, but we just drifted apart after that. Still hurts a little when I think about it.
Anyway… That was about 15 years ago and until now I haven’t really been vocally active online, just spend my time lurking like so many others. I really had to make a conscious effort to get more interactive and I took the move to Lemmy as my excuse to do so. People were already complaining that no one commented and only upvoted, so I’m trying to be the change I want to see :)
It’s not like the old interactions I had with my pen pals, but I do like the human connection I sometimes get with others.
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