For me, being horny at random times, and navigating the social hierarchy were annoying, as was what I perceived as social injustice.
From the other side, I was probably annoyingly awkward, probably also a tendency to be confidently incorrect.
I was raised in a stupid conservative extremest religious environment that warps my perspective. I’m curious what makes teens uniquely different. I am also partially disabled and in near total social isolation for a decade now, so the overarching question is more a distant abstract idea to me.
People talking about wanting to lose weight or dieting. It’s one thing to say “I’m going to skip dessert because I’m watching what I eat” but more often than not, it turns into this dark, self hating thing, e.g. “I gained so much weight over the holidays, I can’t believe I’m up to X lbs, I look so ugly.” Women especially seem to bond over these conversations and it makes me really uncomfortable and sad to be honest.
I don't know if this is unpopular or not, but I really don't like hearing about folks' medical history. Like yes, I know you have anxiety/diabetes/whatever because you tell me every single time I see you. I, too, have a condition that requires me to take multiple pills everyday for my whole life, but you'd never know it bc I don't make it my identity. I'd rather not, and I'd rather not others who aren't facing death do it. On some cases I guess it speaks to the status of mental health care in my country since it almost seems like a cry for help that I just cannot answer.
Similarly, the high availability of source code may lead to malicious instances, actors, and/or back-end modifications that would favor specific instances resounding consequence throughout the Fediverse.
Historically availability of source code has prevented that sort of thing since forever. Plus you can’t favor a specific instance, that’s the beauty of the protocol. It’s like saying google can favourite a specific email provider, they can’t, if suddenly Gmail stops receiving or sending emails to random domains people would just switch boats because you can register on any of the other email providers that don’t do that. Gmail can collect your data and all, but all data on Lemmy is public, so there’s no need to mess with the source code to gather data.
So what are you worried about? Mods moderating content in ways you don’t like? That will happen on any platform that allows moderation, and you don’t want to use one that doesn’t (plus it has nothing to do with the open source nature of the server, and you can jump to another community with different mods). Maybe you’re worried that malicious software will run on your phone? That’s more likely to happen with a closed source software, if you’re truly paranoid about these things you would have a full open source phone with a custom OS without google components flashed into it, I can see that you’re not on that level since you still don’t understand that open source is needed for transparency. Or maybe you’re worried the server itself will host malicious content? Any server can do that, servers that host things people write will always be able to host malicious content, it’s not hard to link to an external website or provide malicious scripts or files, just don’t click on random links or download random things from strangers online and you should be mostly fine.
Historically availability of source code has prevented that sort of thing since forever. Plus you can’t favor a specific instance, that’s the beauty of the protocol.
Availability of source code and actual auditing are entirely different.
It’s like saying google can favourite a specific email provider, they can’t,
They very well can as a private platform. For the record, google does favor specific vendors through their Google Partnership program and similarly through search results as recently found through court proceedings.
but all data on Lemmy is public
It’s also managed by a single source of truth, ie. databases… correct?
So what are you worried about?
I’m not worried about anything. I asked a question to a forum which seemed to superficially accommodate questions, my bad.
Mods moderating content in ways you don’t like?
I literally don’t care about moderated content, censorship, or whatever.
Maybe you’re worried that malicious software will run on your phone?
Nope.
I can see that you’re not on that level since you still don’t understand that open source is needed for transparency.
Yes, I’m lower than you. Teach me.
Or maybe you’re worried the server itself will host malicious content?
Counter question, how many straws are you grasping at here?
Realize how many questions you levied and that I was actually kind enough to take the time to answer most of them even if possibly rhetorical.
You insulted me and I’m okay with your opinions that I’m ignorant, “not on the level”, or whatever. I literally just asked a question.
EDIT: I failed to proofread and had a redundancy collision.
First of all I never insulted you, I said you’re not on the level of paranoia to be using exclusively open source software on your phone, if you were you wouldn’t use open source as a negative term (btw I’m also not on that level, I’m writing this answer from a third party closed source client on a stock Android phone). I apologise for the misunderstanding and rereading my answer I can see why you would take it as an insult, but let me assure you it was not, I only meant to say you’re not too paranoid about other software that’s running on your phone so you shouldn’t be about this either.
Availability of source code and actual auditing are entirely different.
Indeed they are, but auditing is only possible on open source programs, therefore on the worst case scenario, i.e. no one ever audited the code, it should be at least just as safe as a closed source alternative. Plus I was answering to a point you made which specifically stated that code availability might lead to malicious instances, which is completely contrary to all historical information we have, which is why the most critical pieces of software for security (SSL, TLS, etc) are all (100%, no exceptions) open source.
They very well can as a private platform. For the record, google does favor specific vendors through their Google Partnership program and similarly through search results as recently found through court proceedings.
Yes, but I was specifically talking about emails, if gmail refused to send/receive emails from addresses @yahoo or @microsoft people would not use it. Remember that the fediverse is similar to email, where different servers talk to each other, if one server refuses to play nice and blocks content it’s by definition worse than the others that show you that content, therefore there’s no incentive to keep using that server and users would migrate away.
It’s also managed by a single source of truth, ie. databases… correct?
Noz it’s managed by multiple sources of truth, each server has their own database of the content they serve and/or have cached. Being worried about a server altering the data is like being worried Google will alter the content of the emails you send/receive, possible? Yes, but the moment someone discovered it (and it would be very simple to discover) no one else would trust that server and would instead use another.
I’m not worried about anything. I asked a question to a forum which seemed to superficially accommodate questions, my bad.
But your question was about how much trust to put in it, which implies you think there’s a reason to be worried and not put trust in it, and I’m trying to figure out what is your worry, what exactly is it that you think you shouldn’t trust.
Counter question, how many straws are you grasping at here?
As many as I could think, because honestly I can’t understand what is it that you have a problem with trusting, so I was bouncing ideas on things people might not trust (mods, malicious code, etc).
Realize how many questions you levied and that I was actually kind enough to take the time to answer most of them even if possibly rhetorical.
Yes, because I don’t understand what is it that you have a problem with trusting, content? Server code? Client code? There are many things you could have an issue with trusting, and I honestly want to understand which one is it.
You insulted me and I’m okay with your opinions that I’m ignorant, “not on the level”, or whatever. I literally just asked a question.
Again, I’m sorry for the miscommunication, it was never my intention to insult you.
I've been in like, 3 or 4 of them so far. I can really see the value in a poly relationship but I find it, that it's incredibly challenging to maintain much less establish one. All of the ones I've been in, was where the individual wanting or orchestrating the poly relationship, was just a flat out cheater who wanted more than they can handle. My limit is no more than 2 other partners. The people I kept finding myself with, practically wanted like several partners too many and it just complicated things.
I'm open to being in a good one but I really don't know nor would I know anything or anyone that'd want a good stable poly relationship.
It sounds like the person you were with would have been better off in an open relationship with someone.rather than labelling it as polyamory or want to pursue polyamory?
I've not been in a ployamerous relationship myself but I'd imagine the hardest part is the time and effort needed to maintain your relationship with each partner?
I could see 2 partners being doable but hard work, but once you go beyond that, then it must get very difficult? Especially if you don't all live together as juggling full time work around making the time and space to maintain very close personal relationships must be very hard.
And my mind boggles when you get to pplyamorpus "networks" where 2 partners may have relationships with other people rather than a shared 3rd partner. I think it would take a lot of honesty and maturity to make that work long term. I don't think I'd be capable of that.
I've been taking chunks of days off from smoking recently. My dreams' vividness and frequency of remembrance increase a lot around 12-24 hours after being sober. That will last for a couple of days. I find I can avoid dreamless sleep if I just smoke less. Sometimes I'll take one fat rip before bed, I'll have a pretty wild dream vividness if I hadn't smoked for a couple of days.
I’m not much of a user in this regard, so I can only comment on the abstract of the question here - but over the last couple of months I started some new medication that caused this. I’d never remember dreaming for quite a while, and then all of a sudden I did start to have very vivid dreams.
They’re not nightmares, thankfully - but certainly the ones that make you wake up and go “What the fuck???”. Recently I had a dream about a game show being started in my house, and the game was very much a “You can’t leave until you meet X goal”.
Then there have been some dreams that were not necessarily odd, not bad, but not “good” I guess?
Last week I had a dream where my boss had asked me to start working again on a project that I lead that was dropped midway. When I woke up, since it was still fresh on my mind, I was very close to messaging my boss to see if he wanted to better set the goals and requirements for the project… Until I realized that the conversation about reopening the project never happened. Thankfully I did realize that, or else it would’ve been quite awkward…
That last one worried me a bit, because I really don’t want to start having dreams that cause me to not be able to keep an accurate accounting of what is real and what isn’t - but thankfully it hasn’t reoccurred.
I’ve just somewhat woken up, and definitely had another “WTF” dream, though I am unsure of what it actually was about.
Thats textbook my experience. Whenever I do consume frequently I have zero dreams whatsoever, at least I can’t remember even one during that all that time.
During breaks I suppose it all comes boiling to the surface, at least two to three weeks of weird dreams and general sleep issues like very high internal tension and stress levels, and heavy sweating when I actually fall asleep. During those first days and weeks I have essentially zero appetite either.
Essentially it depends on for how long you have been consuming, and how frequently. During my early days when I smoked like once a week I didn’t have those issues.
That being said, while the withdrawal symptoms are unpleasant they are barely worth mentioning compared to other substances. Poor sleep, some general discomfort, lack of appetite. Eventually it sorts itself out
I’m a heavy daily user and have been for two decades, but I regularly have vivid dreams. I’ve also quit a few times, once for three months, but I didn’t really see a lot of difference when it came to dreaming.
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