As that’s failed, I have ticked the resolutions off the list and can do what I like, play more bass guitar and/or regular guitar, but that has to wait until I had my surgery. Nomclue when that’ll be, but the hospital indicated Q1.
I don't make new years resolutions myself, but I just had to say your profile pic gave me a little giggle, thanks
(also really like the new veg of the month idea!)
Lots of stop buying it comments in here. How about: Stop watching so many videos? The best way to stop eating is to occupy your mind and hands. Got any hobbies? Get one that involves using your hands and concentration. You must find something that you personally enjoy. You can’t eat if you’re busy concentrating on something you like doing while occupying your hands! Bonus points if it’s something physical that helps get you in shape.
For completely different reasons I started to draw, like 5 minutes a day (that was tougher than most things I have done, weirdly) and keeping at it for a couple of months.
Thats the way to go from one(less good) thing to another, reliably doing it every day, and quickly (well they say 90 days) it becomes an easy and pleasant thing you like to do.
Did it with jogging too, took longer (as I wasnt in shape for it, had crap shoes, back and muscles) but eventually it became a nice thing to do too.
And it all ads up, helping. I mean life is hard.
Pro tip, one day check out keto, and the idea about stopping eating all kind of sugar (potatoes, candy, snacks, processed food…). Don’t rush it but know that it’s really good for both your physical health(who would have thought eh) but also for your mental health, it’s quite the thing. So maybe one day eh!
Last words; everyone can do it, it just takes time. If you dont have the mental, just take it slower and it’ll come around.
For 2023 I made a resolution, for the first time since the 90s. The resolution was to have $5000 in the bank.
I pushed hard, got up to about $3500, then my housing situation changed and I had to pay higher rent. The savings rate become quite low assuming perfect discipline. I don’t have perfect discipline so my savings rate was just a couple hundred a month.
After the moving expenses I’m back down then slowly up to about $2k in the bank.
Overall, I failed to reach the $5k, but it did change my relationship with money in a major way. Until this year, until I decided to make savings my top priority, I was always living paycheck to paycheck. I’m 41. This has been my entire adult life: worrying about whether I’ll make the next round of bills. Often asking for extensions on my rent. Paying lots of late fees.
This year is the first time I’ve lived with any kind of financial surplus. When my rent is due I don’t even check my balance I just pay it. All the other bills are on auto. It’s such an amazing feeling.
So that was last year. This coming year my goal is to be present for people. I’ve lost too many friendships from neglect on my part. And Ive passed up too many opportunities to connect, because I wanted to maintain my freedom.
My whole life Ive separated myself, doing everything I can to cut ties and maintain flexibility. My resolution this year is to stay present for the people in my life, to commit to and fulfill some social obligations. To stop worrying so much about how I feel and focus more on what I can do for people.
If you don’t have a lot of money, you could try masturbating every hour until midnight. Conversely, if you do have a lot of money, you could also try doing that.
Go to the grocery store when you’ve already eaten.
Allow yourself to purchase 1 kind of junk food per week only (it’s ok to have a treat, going whole hog can just make you go back to buying crap). Purchase health snacks as alternatives to the rest. Personally I go for things like cashews, carrots, and healthier chips (I can’t eat anything with gluten, so already forced to avoid some things. Because of the GF health craze that hit some years ago, a lot of GF foods are fairly healthy, so you may want to look at those to make it easier to start selection).
Schedule time to do meal and snack prep. Watch something while you make it, I like to re-watch shows so I don’t have to pay a lot of attention to them while I cook. I work from home, so it’s mostly stuff I can combine with other things - tons of rice, chicken I can add to rice to make fried rice or drop in some soup with rice noodles, etc. You’ll need to figure out what type of foods you want quick access to.
Most people here recommend stopping something not taking into account that it may not last long. One slip and you’re back. No addiction is cured by stopping immediately. You cannot simply get rid of a habit in one day. It has to be steady and progressive so that there’s zero stress during transition.
First, start combining junk food with healthier meals. Like once a week, have something semi-healthy. Find something that tastes right for you. It may be not completely healthy, but the main thing is that you should enjoy it. Then start expanding it to more days per week. Repeat until the week days are all “semi-healthy” food. Next step, do the same but lean towards even healthier food, repeat the same process. Start marking cheat days on your calendar, when you can eat whatever you want. At this point you want to make eating healthy food a habit, and cheat days (1-3 per month) as an exception.
I used to drink lots of Lipton Ice Tea. First I switched to some other drink but with less sugar. Then I switched to Cola Zero. Then I started drinking mineral water. Now I basically drink just water and occasionally some Coke Zero. Same scenario also worked for smoking.
TLDR: steadily find better alternatives. Never make sudden change. Make it a habit. Rinse and repeat.
I think that the real answer is that different things work for different people.
Personally when I make changes in my life I always go 100% straight away. I have a really hard time with half measures. Like when i wanted to lose 5 kg I started logging everything i ate and just was super strict with ny kcal intake for a year to not gain it back, no cheat days. And when i went vegan a few years later i did that cold turkey.
As someone with almost 500 day streak, don’t expect to really learn conversational speaking on there. I’ve reached the point I can mostly read and make out French sentences, even with words I don’t know explicitly, but to have a spoken conversation at this point I believe would be impossible
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