Key to being a good mod is to have very clear rules, so when you warn/ban someone you can point to the rule number and not get into an argument about it.
I’m not even into film making, but these guys are amazing interviewers. They made Tales From the Crypt and lots of other series and features and talk about the process, politics, and funding issues.
I haven’t modded on Lemmy so not sure how applicable these all are.
When removing a comment, cite the specific rule they are in violation of. It helps them understand why, it helps anyone else in the community know why, and it helps yourself and other mods if the person appeals down the road. Be transparent.
When removing a comment because a portion is unacceptable, i.e., they throw in an unnecessary slur when the rest of the comment is fine, offer to restore the comment once they edit it to remove the slur.
Establish ban guidelines within the mod group. First time offense? One day. Egregious offense? What’s the threshold for “egregious” and when does it result in permaban? This person who got a 1-day ban for the f-slur, is the same ban length being consistently applied to other users of the f-slur?
If you feel a personal dislike of a user, check your decisions against another mod for an outside perspective. Or better yet, just ask them to mod that particular comment/post and remove yourself from the conflict of interest.
If you sit in a hotel lobby long enough, most properties will eventually kick you out. You can usually get away with it during the day, but you’ll start to stick out more the later in the day it gets. At night, the night auditor probably won’t even let you in the front door.
Pretend like you belong there if you do need to hang out in a lobby for a while, and don’t make a mess.
During my senior year of college, I made a burner Google account for my girlfriend and I to use with apartment/property websites. We needed a place to live after graduation, but neither of us wanted to use our personal email addresses to make accounts because fuck 'em.
The last year of engineering school requires completing a design project, typically for real business owners. My senior design team and I had a weekly video chat with my clients where we gave progress updates on our project.
During my video call the week after I made this burner Google account, the first thing my clients say is “OP, what is wrong with your name? It says something very strange.” I had no idea what they meant by this, so I shrugged it off and the meeting continued.
Later that week while I was driving home from class, what they meant finally dawned on me. I forgot to log out of my burner account before joining the video call, and the name I gave this account was “Joe Lickembottom.” So instead of my real name shown under my face during this meeting, Joe Lickembottom was.
This may not sound that bad, but one client is a self-made Texas rancher sorta character, and the other is a retired Navy SEAL commander. These people meant business and were dead serious the whole time I worked with them.
But hey, they offered me a job after graduation so they must’ve not thought too much of it haha
I had pretty substantial CC debt about a year ago. Nearing $14k. After health issues, having to move, replace many belongings, car repairs, etc. Used a 401k loan to pay off 10k of it, and since that loan was paid off (it was over $800 a month) I’ve paid the rest down under $3k, and should hopefully have it paid off by either year end or spring at the latest. Currently it’s sitting in 0% APR though, so it’s at least not eating away with interest.
Whatever rule you set, be transparent about it, be open to feedback about it, and enforce it fairly.
I think most powertripping mods end up being unlikable due to one of several reasons:
passes a new rule that people don’t like. Refuses to (or pretends to) listen to feedback when people get upset about it
enforces an existing rule more harshly against people they don’t like, often to the point where the mod would first decide that a user should be banned, and then try to find a justification for banning that user. (As opposed to the normal process, where a mod notices rule breaking, and then decides whether the user should be banned)
Complementing the previous point, gets into petty arguments. Mods are meant to be the role model of the community, and that inherently means being the “bigger man” basically all the time. You need to be able to take insults and know not to respond.
TLDR: Low interest debt that provides long term financial gain is good. Mortgage for primary residence is almost always considered good. Loans to invest into your home that increase its value and make it more reliable/long standing is good. Low interest debt to buy assets for your business is good. Reasonable loans for college is considered good.
Car loans are a bit harder because they lose value as time goes on. But a small loan with good interest is usually considered fine for a car. Buying a brand new car with a loan will almost always be bad, since you’re paying interest to use a depreciating asset. But basically a car loan is always bad if it ever goes upside down, meaning you owe more on the loan than the car is worth. New cars that happens almost instantly.
I just had a bad experience with a discord group of mods and Admins. It was an open server, but the focus was on a very specific population. It had dozens of channels, none really specific to the focus of the server.
There wasn’t a heavy flow of conversation, so when one would start and the topic would veer towards a different channel topic, the mods would immediately delete the entire conversation and warn everyone about keeping the conversations to their related channels.
Also, there have been several new people to the server that were definitely not part of the intended audience for it. They would come in and start being loud and annoying, but the mods wouldn’t kick them even though the new users would blatantly state the reason they joined was because they thought it was funny.
I eventually got angry with the mods when they added another and it was apparent they had no intention of cleaning up the server and making it more friendly and usable. So I gave them a piece of my mind and basically just told them everything I had issue with like I did above. I knew they were going to ban me, I asked them to ban me. That server brought me no joy.
Was I rude? Depends on your viewpoint. I didn’t drop any slurs, but I did it in the open and I cussed a couple times. But also, the mods both weren’t doing their jobs and were acting as kings of a tiny castle. Be respectful and listen to what people are saying. You may be missing something they are pointing out, and while they are the only people saying it, I promise other people are thinking it.
There’s a very very distinct between “ohh fuck, shit shit shit” and “shut your n**** mouth you fucking f*****”. Guess which one is bannable offence basically everywhere.
I’m curious, were they ever that stereotypical “shh” environment that movies claimed they were? Because no public library in my lifetime was ever like that (just smaller school libraries), but I can’t go back very far. Most libraries I’ve been to have multiple areas or floors, some which are quiet and others which are allowed to be noisy.
They were “shh” back in the day, but with time they have become more of a place for activity for the community. When I was a kid in the 80s and early 90s they were definitely more strict with keeping quiet, especially in the reading halls. Library history is actually quite interesting, and the whole development of the library as a key element in building and supporting democracy and community, is worth looking into.
Capitalism didn’t kill third spaces, technology did. Niel Postman and Robert Putnam spent most of their lives writing about the creep of technology and how it destroys actual human society and its base-level interactions.
I’d say it’s not even capitalism but the rabid anti-tax people/movement. Third spaces like libraries and parks are paid for by tax money, and if people keep voting against raising taxes, well guess what. No more public spaces.
asklemmy
Hot
This magazine is from a federated server and may be incomplete. Browse more on the original instance.