Is there a forum for people who are lonely and sad but specifically not incel sickos?

like you know you’re a good person at heart but life circumstances and trauma and bullying and etc prevented you from learning the proper social skills to find companionship. not necessarily a forum to actually find friends (i find going into things with that intention feels fake and weird), but rather a forum to commiserate and share advice and coping mechanisms and so on.

loneliness is increasing worldwide, esp in men. and it’s very easy to get into the weeds on this of course…

happy fuckin holidays

vivavideri,

I’m glad you’re not an incel sicko. I hope you find what you’re looking for<3

AnOceanAppears,

I think bumblebee has a “find a friend” app to make those platonic connections.

shinigamiookamiryuu,

Do you mean platonically, romantically, or both?

CannedTuna,

Not sure if it’s specifically what you’re looking for, but I’d recommend going on disboard and looking up local discord servers. I’ve joined a couple and met some people I like hanging out with through one. I’ve found that people on local servers tend to be a mix, including other lonely or socially awkward people. One of the servers I’m in literally has a How to Make Friends pinned post for people who might need it. It’s also got an all purpose support thread going that tends to be very positive.

Find a few near you that do meet ups or events, feel the groups out for a bit even just lurking and see if it feels right for you. Maybe go to an event, even if you also feel anxious, and try to meet some of the people you talk to online. Just remember that they might also be lonely people trying to make a connection too.

Infynis,
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It wasn’t through Disboard, but this is basically what I did. Moved to a new city, found a community Discord that was mentioned on Reddit, and asked around for interest in a D&D campaign. Now I’ve got two games going, and am great friends with everyone I play with. TTRPGs are a social skill, but most people are very welcoming of those new to the hobby

Icaria,

One of the servers I’m in literally has a How to Make Friends pinned post for people who might need it.

Out of morbid curiosity, could we see it?

We’ve got basic conflict resolution tactics written into our rules… not that anyone reads them.

I’ve found that people on local servers tend to be a mix, including other lonely or socially awkward people.

Give it a few more years and you’ll realise how much deeper that rabbit hole goes. I’m resigned to the fact that discord isn’t even really a gaming platform any more, let alone a social one; most people seem to be trying to use it for scoring drugs or hookups/affairs. Lots of kink stuff, too - it is following the same path as Second Life did. Also goes well beyond lonely and socially awkward; antisocial nutjobs abound.

cheerjoy,
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/r/CasualConversion was the place for that on Reddit. They also have a Discord and IRC server.

mihnt,
@mihnt@lemmy.world avatar

!casualconversation

surewhynotlem,

I don’t know of one, but the Internet is toxic. I’ve had more luck meeting strangers into the same hobbies. Went to an open source conference. A business meetup. Professional settings are lower pressure because there’s no expectation of making actual friends.

moosetwin,
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depression sounds like it’d make meeting people IRL more difficult

pastermil,

Don’t worry, you’ll fit right in!

Gormadt,
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It does but the benefits to ones mental health from talking with randos is fucking bliss

surewhynotlem,

It makes everything more difficult. The only answer is therapy and/or medication.

Meeting people online while depressed is surely a bad idea.

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