Acknowledge their concern first then tell them either “I’ll do it youre way”, “Let’s compromise” or pound sand in the nicest way you can. I get more success with above but I deal with clients. Most of it is them wanting to be heard.
I'm a person who likes to fix. Sometimes that's not what my wife wants, though, she just wants to vent and be heard. I've learned to ask if she wants to be heard or if she wants me to offer solutions and that has really helped. I've started to apply this to other people in my life as well.
This one has been revolutionary for me, not everything needs to be solved. Honestly, on my end making it clear when I'm 'venting at you' vs when I 'want advice' has been great.
We went down this route, and it’s one of my big regrets. Was AU$2 a tooth and a wish, which started as an easy and cheap soft toy (think a couple of bucks max). But it’s turned into $2/tooth cumulative, ie. Tooth 10 gets $20, tooth 11 gets $22 etc, and a wish… Cue late night runs to Kmart and lots of grumbling about why we are doing this.
I did $5 for the first one ever, however, weeks later she had a meltdown and demanded that the tooth fairy return the tooth. She even tried to put the $5 back under her pillow🤣.
Same. My daughter is a week shy of 18 months, and has fully progressed past the stage of saying YES! to everything excitedly. Now it’s noooo for everything. Makes putting her in the car seat in the crowded grocery store parking lot a nice treat.
Mine is 21 months. She is almost all day just going going going! She grabs my shirt to get me to stand up and go wherever she wants to go. Her new thing is she likes hanging out in her room but only if mom or dad also are in there with her. It’s a lot of fun right now but a lot.
As they say, generally a repeated 'why' is not out of pure interest, it's a bit for attention. After a few of those, feel free to give nonsense answers.
Mines the same age, doing the same thing xD. She's looking for some control. I usually give her the illusion of control by giving her two options, don't want to get dressed? "Would you like to wear your yellow dress or your red dress today?" Same with food, works for me.
I’m gonna try that tomorrow. Especially with food. She has been a mess trying to get her to eat lately. She was a late walker, didn’t start walking till 19 months and almost like a light switch once she started walking. Eating wasn’t in the priority anymore. It’s going wherever and doing whatever!
Yes, 100% its like “I have freedom now” I can walk! I can sorta express myself!
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