Woke up to some coffee in bed, and a nice card with a gift cert to a brewery tour, mouse pad with my daughter's on it, and a new shirt. Then downstairs for chicken and waffles for breakfast before heading out to the zoo. Had a blast there seeing the kids react to animals they had never seen before.
Then on the way home the older of the two got car sick but we managed and pushed through to dinner which was some hot pot and a nice bottle of red wine.
All in all a pretty fine day, maybe got a bit sunburnt however at the zoo.
Mine was good, went to a Nepali food festival for lunch which was cool because I've never had Nepali food before. Then went to the carnival that's in town for a few weeks. Took my 3 and a half year old son on his first Carnival ride and he loved it.
Went home after and barbecued shrimp skewers and corn on my new BBQ while having a gin and tonic.
Nice! Is there a particular gin you like? Hendricks is the go-to for my wife and I, but I recently found a Japanese gin made with yuzu that's pretty good.
I also like Hendricks. I'm more of a whisky drinker but I usually keep a few bottles of gin on hand. The ones I have right now are Hendricks neptunia(this is what I had on Father's Day), Hendricks lunar and nikka Japanese gin.
I've never celebrated Father's Day (I had a shitty dad and it wasn't part of family tradition anyway). My kid's too young to know what's going on, but I did get a card from the daycare. It was more a day to treat myself a little, even if it was one of my weeks. So we went to the hardware store.
I'd like to make it more of a thing down the road but it'll probably have to be other family doing something nice for me. That's years away though.
It was alright I guess. Nothing really that special. We went to brunch at a restaurant I wanted to try. It was ok but overpriced. Our 15 year old has been letting her bad attitude get the best of her lately. She complained about where we went to eat and I ended up grounding her for acting up at the restaurant.
As my fathers day gift, I've been promised a date day with the wife and a tool shopping spree (on a budget) so I have that to look forward to.
Mine was excellent! I got my shop rewired to include an exterior outlet and double the light fixtures.
No more running cords through a partly open door or long extensions from the house.
No more squinting or having to wear a headlamp when measuring, marking, or following a line. Although I have to say, wearing a headlamp is pretty darn effective for some things even with the extra lighting.
Oh yeah, got a text from my son and acknowledgement from my wife. Which is about as much celebration as I can handle. 😀
Nothing, really, and I can't complain. Kid is too young to know or care about fathers day, wife knows I'm not really into celebrating things like that.
Took a 4-day weekend down in the states (Ocean Shores WA) then zoomed back on Sunday to attend a fathers day bbq in Vancouver. No gifts, but I'm itching to hit Home Depot and buy some unnecessary tools.
Mine was also low key. We went out the night before to an Italian restaurant we've not tried before. It was pretty good but not quite as good as I had hoped based on reviews. My wife gave me a small selection of different jams she'd picked up. I'm a sucker for a tasty jam!
I went to a show at MSG back in 2018 and forgot about my little keychain pocket knife I had on my keyring. They wouldn't let me take it in but held it in security until the show was over.
Problem was that I got drunk and forgot about it so I had to go back the next day and grab it. It was a $5 knife but I've had it since 2003 so I felt an obligation to go back for it!
No days off for childless orphans then, they must work the hardware stores and the flowers shop!
I’m just joking, I’m honestly favorable to more holidays, a bit like in ancient times with all the holidays for each and every gods. We should celebrate more our culture(s)
compressed work weeks are typically pretty successful. Either 4 x 10s for labour jobs. Pilot projects for office staff working 4 days a week, no extra hours for the same salary have been really successful too.
As you might already know, the key is communication. As you described, nobody took the chance to say anything and that lead to frustration. Therefore it is so important to have an after talk. Try to think about your emotions and thoughts you had during the act to prepare for this, but also consider the general things in your relationship. Often the problem lies a bit deeper and might not even be connected to sexual things.
Try to be open and understanding, first think about what you could have done wrong. Formulate your sentences like this, send "I-messages" not "You-messages". Take your partners thoughts seriouelsy. Create an atmosphere where both of you feel they can be honest.
You mention "poor health" could be a factor. This has two components that are important for sex, one is fitness, the other one is attractiveness. Have you considered your wife has a point here? When married people often change, eat more, do less sports, they gain weight etc. This can happen without yourself realizing. Be honest with yourself, make a check and see if you are still happy with your fitness and body form. If yo are not, who knows, maybe your wife is ready to support you somehow? You would wonder how sexy it can be when someone just says "I was working out for 1 hour straight today" - you don't even have to wait for results.
You are starting to reflect upon yourself, and that's a great thing! Good luck for you!
Great advice! A small bit of extra advice from my own relationship is focusing on talking about how things make you or her feel. And remember in this that feelings are never wrong, but can be misguided by (IE) not knowing the full picture. (Though never just assume thats the case for someone else)
Your feelings are valid OP! But, hers are as well. Try figuring out what’s making you both feel unhappy about your relationship/sex life.
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